BFN last embryo 😢

[Glcrlclmmc]

morning so..we had 1 embryo transfer as unfortunately my other didn't cope too well with thaw. I had a BFN. I prepared myself but today have woke up and am really struggling. Im soon to be 39. We said this would be our last go, myself and my husband have discussed and are going to try again, my worry is my eggs as I'm older, will enough be harvest and be good quality. We do have an 11year old beautiful little girl and want nothing more than to have a sibling im feeling a bit of a let down at the moment, i honestly though I could deal with this. We did have a failed attempt before a BFP with our daughter. I just don't know what to do, I dont want to be worrying anyone but I know i need to talk at the same time. 🥺

[Alienor]

Hi, I’m really sorry for your BFN.I had one in April and it was quite difficult to handle. Luckily I still had some frosties and managed to get a BFP last week so hopefully we’ll get our first child.

One thing that helped me is to take some time off. I went on holidays and really indulge.

Another thing that really help is “How to get pregnant and succeeding”, that book was a real eye opener.

I’m turning 39 too. We are not too old, women in their forties can have very healthy babies nowadays. If you don’t think you can do this again you can always have a look at adoption. I always thought there was nothing more beautiful than “saving” a child (I would have gone straight to adoption but my husband wanted to give a try to IVF first).

Best of luck with whatever you decide. Hope you’ll get better soon.

[Mh2698]

Im so sorry your going through this, infertility is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

I just turned 39 and done a FET cycle, im currently 3dp5dt and if this fails I’ll be proceeding with yet another round of IVF. I do have one frosty left but its a 3bc grade and I don’t know wether to proceed with another FET or go straight into IVF. My age was also a concern and my amazing specialist said I’m still young and not to worry. Don’t get me wrong he wasn’t blowing smoke up my you know what and only thinking of the £££, he was completely realistic with me.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Glcrlclmmc. So sorry to hear this and I am sure you are sad. Perhaps wait until you are more settled and have a look at what you have both achieved and been through. Perhaps if you can afford it have a chat with your partner and see whether you feel up to trying a final time. Be proud of where you are, and I'm sure you will make the right decision for you. Gentle hugs. Diane

[gerifit]

Hi lovely. I just had a bfn with our final embryo too, it’s so heartbreaking isn’t it. I’m almost 38 and we can’t afford to go again until next year, so already panicking about egg quality etc. We have a little boy but like you we’re desperate for a sibling for him. Sending love and hugs from someone going through the same. ❤️❤️

[Glcrlclmmc]

I'm so sorry i haven't replied to any of you ladies, as you can imagine my head has been a bit of a fuzz..i wasn't as prepared as I thought i was I'm just feeling really sad trying to process it all. I am forever grateful for our little princess who is our whole world. We wont give up hope we've done it once we will do it again.I think I'd forgotten how emotionally draining it was. All your words are so comforting and I really appreciate it. Will get saving and hopefully can have our next round sooner rather than later. Much love xxxxx