Having a melt down. FET due Friday 25th and partner has tested positive for Covid tonight.

[JadeH92]

Honestly sometimes feel like the universe is trying to tell me something! Soo fed up!

This FET has gone sooo smoothly I couldn't believe it, I knew it was too good to be true. Tonight my partner said he felt a bit rough so as a precaution did a LFT and it's positive. We are both nurses that have worked all the way through the pandemic and never caught it and 4 days before the transfer he is positive!

I have done an LFT and so far am negative. I have to book a PCR and be negative before I can go back to work anyway so me and my partner are both booked in tomorrow morning.

I have just disinfected the house from top to bottom and he has been moved to the back bedroom to isolate.

If my PCR is negative I will have to do daily LFT tests for work anyway. If by some form of miracle don't get it before my transfer and I test daily and keep him in isolation do you think the clinic will go ahead and do the transfer?

Also do I have to tell my clinic even if I don't become positive?

Thanks in advance

[Millbanks]

Oh love, how frustrating!!If you’re testing negative then I would say there is no need to tell them. It’s such a hard decision.

So sorry you have to deal with this stress xx

[JadeH92 in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you!

I have just done another LFT and it is negative I have my PCR booked for 10:30 so should have the results back for tomorrow.

Honestly just cannot believe it. I haven't slept all night, I know obviously people are going through much worse but I just feel like when are we going to catch a break.

I just hope that I continue testing negative but even still I'll have to go to the transfer alone 😭. Soo fed up.

Thank you for replying though its made me feel a bit better that you don't feel I need to tell them, because I was hoping that! Xxx

[Millbanks in reply to JadeH92]

It’s just so typical isn’t it.

We go through so much then something less than a cold can completely disrupt treatment and cause such heartache 💔

Fingers crossed it stays clear for you.

If it helps I had 5 out of 6 transfers alone and they were all fine xx

[JadeH92 in reply to Millbanks]

I know! Obviously I am very happy that he isn't even feeling that unwell and am hoping it stays like that but, at the moment it's just like a bit of a bad cold and if it wouldn't have been because of our job he wouldn't have probably done a test.

Thank you and it does make me feel better thanks again 🥰🥰

[Millbanks in reply to JadeH92]

🤯 so silly isn’t it!Let us know how you get on my lovely xxx

[JadeH92 in reply to Millbanks]

Will do & Thank you ❤️

[Bozo_the_pumpkin]

Good luck and fingers crossed for you. This is such a crappy situation-this kind of stress is not needed at this stage xx

[JadeH92 in reply to Bozo_the_pumpkin]

Thank you and I know like seriously could not write it!

It's really difficult to stay positive right now xx

[Hoping20]

Gosh, sorry you are having to deal with this a few days before your FET. Covid has made things a whole more complicated - and as if going through fertility treatment wasn’t complicated enough right. Really hope you keep testing negative and that you can still go ahead with your transfer. Fingers crossed for you. Keep us updated x

[JadeH92 in reply to Hoping20]

Thank you, I know it's just such a rubbish situation! Thanks again for your well wishes I will keep you posted 💕💕 xxx

[My_Miracle_Is_Here]

If you are negative then I don't think you need to tell the clinic. I had covid and my husband never got it. Then my dad got it a couple of months later but my mum didn't. So there is a very good chance that you won't get it. Good luck to you xx

[JadeH92 in reply to My_Miracle_Is_Here]

Thank you, you have reassured me that there is still hope I won't catch it! I am like a crazy person in the house cleaning down everything I have never gone through as much cleaning stuff in my life 😂😂😂

[Redsequin]

Omg, I’m so sorry: Living through a pandemic makes infertility treatment a hundred times more stressful!

If you continue to test negative, you don’t need to tell the clinic if it’s just you going in. I went to my transfer alone because my husband was on a work trip, and though it was a bit sad everyone was very sweet to me, and they did give me pictures to show him.

Xx

[JadeH92 in reply to Redsequin]

Thank you, sorry you had to go alone, I know there are worst things but the idea of it just isn't nice. I was thinking about seeing if the clinic will allow my best friend in. As pathetic as that sounds, do you think they will or does it just have to be partner?

[Redsequin in reply to JadeH92]

I’m pretty sure they’d let your friend in if you just ask them beforehand. They may just ask her to do a Lat Flow. My mum took me to my transfer, and my clinic did offer to let her in, but she was so nervous I thought it would stress me out!! Xx

[JadeH92 in reply to Redsequin]

Yeah I contacted them yesterday and they said it was fine for her to come, as long as she is well, which is a big relief. She is going to do an LFT this evening anyway to be sure but they didn't even ask. 😂😂 I get that! My mum is on holiday and to be fair it's probably a blessing in disguise she would be soo nervous xx

[MissSaoPaulo]

So this time we DON'T want to see two lines hahaha Hoping you stay negative hon. My uncle got it twice, one time he was actually pretty sick, and my aunt never tested positive Hope you can avoid it and good luck with transfer xxx

[JadeH92 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

I know right! The irony of it! Trying everything to avoid it! Thank you 😊

[AN791]

🤞 for you we caught covid and it delayed treatment it’s so frustrating just do exactly what you’ve said and if you’re all negative everything will be ok wishing you lots of luck 🙏🍀💕

[JadeH92 in reply to AN791]

Sorry you had to delay your treatment, as if Covid hasn't ruined enough things already! Thank you 💕

[AN791 in reply to JadeH92]

Thank you 💕💕It all worked out well in the end

[JadeH92]

Just an update my partner is definitely positive and I am negative according to our PCR tests. I have done 2 LFT tests one yesterday and one just now and they are both negative (hasn't been the full 30 mins yet but looks negative).

I do feel like I've got a bit of a cold but nothing to serious, no temperature, cough etc just a stuffy nose and a little bit achy but I can get like this when I am sleep deprived and stressed. So I'll be returning to work today and will keep testing every morning and 🤞 they stay negative and I don't start feeling more unwell.

I was thinking about asking if my best friend can come with me to the transfer, has anyone else had anyone other than their partner with them? And is this even allowed?

Thank you all for your support and well wishes it really means alot 💕💕

[AN791 in reply to JadeH92]

Aww glad you’re testing negative that’s good news I’m sure your friend will be able to my partner could x

[JadeH92 in reply to AN791]

Thank you! Yeah still negative, thank god and I'm not feeling achy etc anymore either. I've done another 2 LFT tests one last night and one this morning so fingers crossed it stays that way and I am glad all worked out well for you 🥰. Congratulations, wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy ❤️❤️

[Hoping20]

Glad to hear you are still testing negative for covid. Hopefully you will remain negative and can go ahead as planned for your FET. Your question about asking your friend to go with you for your transfer - I move took my mum once and the clinic were fine with this. But this was pre-covid. So best to speak with your clinic first. All the best x

[JadeH92 in reply to Hoping20]

Thank you 🤞🤞 things stay as they are! Thanks for your reply about taking your mum a few others have said the same, I contacted them just to check anyway and they said it was fine 🥰

[Clover5]

I had this with my last transfer when my husband tested positive 3 days before it 🙈. Like we don't have enough to stress about just before a transfer! I really hope you manage to avoid catching it and the transfer all goes well hun 🙏💕.

I basically locked my husband in the spare room and left meals outside the door for 5 days 😂 xX

[JadeH92 in reply to Clover5]

It's bloody just awful timing isn't it! Did you end up catching it? And same! He's been locked in the back bedroom since his positive LFT on Monday night with a bag full of face masks, hand gel, antibacterial wipes and desinfectant spray and when he leaves the room to go to the bathroom he has to wipe down anything he has even thought about touching 😂😂. Then when I go into the bathroom or hall way I wipe down again, my house has never been soo clean hahaa.

[Clover5 in reply to JadeH92]

I managed to avoid getting it thankfully, but we did do the same as you wiping everything down like crazy people and I wouldn't even let him keep his toothbrush in the bathroom 😂! I really hope your still negative and wishing you all the best for tomorrow🤞💕xX

[Chrissie83]

I totally feel for you! I had my EC on Monday and started feeling a bit off that evening. I assumed it was just lack of sleep and stress and did an LFT which was negative. When I woke up the next morning I felt worse, tested again and was positive 😥 the clinic have said I can’t do a transfer now and we will have to freeze whatever we have by Saturday and I’ve stopped all drugs. This is hard enough without covid! I really hope if you are negative they can still go ahead 🤞

[JadeH92]

Aww bless you! I am so sorry that has happened 😢. You are right it is soo difficult and traumatic as it is without shitty covid getting in the way. It has already ruined soo much hasn't it. I have my fingers crossed you get lots of lovely little embryos and that you don't feel too rough with Covid. 🤞 You can get back at it as soon as possible. ❤️❤️.I tested again this morning and am still negative, feel like I'm holding my breath for the 30 mins it takes for the test to develop... I thought waiting 3 for a pregnancy test was long enough 😂😂.