First scan, not looking good🥺 is there any chance?😔

[Pigi]

Yesterday I crushed. Although I was realistic, I was totally not ready to hear that my baby doesn’t develop well…hcg started low, but continued to double…1st scan was scheduled at 6 week 1 day. Could be early for the heartbeat, but dr was concerned more about the proportions and shape of gestation sack…he just wasn’t satisfied. He told me it doesn’t look good. I can’t describe how I feel. this is our second attempt with donor egg (8th in total) Dr told me to continue medications for one more week. Is there any smallest chance that everything improve? Does anyone have positive story similar to this…can it be better, with heartbeat in a week?

[me08]

I'm so sorry to hear this and I genuinely hope things turn out well for you. At 6W1D, you should see a flickering image (the heartbeat) on the screen x

[Pigi in reply to me08]

Thank you for replying. There was no heartbeat unfortunately. It would be easier for me to know the final outcome. Otherwise, I just hope endlessly. I’m so tired of uncertainty…and I’m afraid if at the beginning things are not ok, can they ever improve? Anyway, thank you so much❤️🙏

[KiboXX in reply to Pigi]

Hi Pigi,

The heart normally starts beating somewhere in the 6th week so it’s not necessary bad news that you didn’t see a heartbeat, it’s definitely not a guarantee at 6+1. This is why most clinics don’t do a viability scan until week 7 as it can cause unnecessary worry otherwise and isn’t conclusive.

Really hope it to good news for you next time, do you have a follow up scan booked?x

[Hoping20]

I am really sorry to hear what you are going through right now. I just read your profile also and I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby in 2018. This is truly heartbreaking. You have been through an awful lot since too. I know it’s so easy for others to say but try to keep hopeful and look after yourself over the next few days. I hope you have some support around you too. Thinking of you today x

[Pigi in reply to Hoping20]

Thanks dear. Honestly I feel so confused…I thought we would succeed with DE. This is so heartbreaking. My husband is here with me, supporting. My mom and sister also, but you know, I feel so bad bringing them sad news, that lately I’d like to isolate from everyone. Friends are supportive but currently I just want to be alone. With my husband, no one else. Thank you for your kind words❤️

[Hoping20 in reply to Pigi]

Glad to hear you and your husband are supporting each other. I can understand wanting to be on your own with your husband. Do what is right for you and I’m sure your mum, sister and friends will respect that. Try to take care x

[sun-and-rain]

Oh, how I would love to have seen a different report from your scan! Not just because I wanted you to be happy, but also because I might be in a similar situation. I had my first betas checked in monday, 13dp5dt: 157. Wednesday, 15dp5dt the number was only 259. Now I'm waiting for my clinic to text me the result from today's test... I'm just so nervous! Which symptoms did you get during these weeks?

[Pigi in reply to sun-and-rain]

Hi sun-and-rain! Please, try not to compare…although I was doing it all the time🤦‍♀️ I’d like to tell you not to worry too much since values don’t have to double perfectly…some say it is only important they rise. At previous IVF attempt, my first hcg was 260, it was excellent. The next 650 ! Can you imagine! I was so happy! But the 3rd one dropped to 74. It was chemical. Unexplained. It happened on Dec. 31, just before New Year’s Eve...I was broken…I tried to google reasons and found very low probability to have biochemical pregnancy with such great number at the beginning…so…don’t know what to say. There is no rule…it is so sad and unfair…And regarding the symptoms, oh, they can vary a lot. This time, after having positive result, I didn’t feel anything. Maybe after 6-8 days I started feeling tired, I was sleepy…boobs little bit sore…not much. The only thing I didn’t like occurred later and it was hot flashes especially during night. And from two days ago some digestion problems…but I couldn’t find anyone with similar issues. Don’t know what to say. I’ve had so many unsuccessful attempts. Maybe it is my age. I’ll soon be 44. That’s why I decided to have a donor. Honestly I don’t know what to think now. I think I’m really struggling to keep faith…but this is only my story.

Please, don’t get obsessed with numbers. As you can see, even with a super good start, nothing is guaranteed and on the other hand there are so many successful stories with slow or low hcg…I think Llizzie posted something similar and very positive! Please, try to relax, keep yourself busy, take care of yourself. I’m sending hugs and my love to you❤️🍀

[sun-and-rain in reply to Pigi]

Oh, you're se kind and sweet ❤❤❤ I know that it's impossible, or at least futile, to keep on comparing oneself to another person. If two pregnancies in the same person are hardly comparable (i know being a midwife myself), how can we be so obsessed with comparing each other to other people? But it probably is as I don't remember who wrote in a post one of these days, that we google and compare and ask for to get the reassurance that we desperately need and that actually only time can grant us, and only in hindsight 🙈🙈🙈 So let's be kind to ourselves and keep up the good hope until our (next) scans ❤❤❤

[Marisa32]

Sorry to hear. Have you tested the DE embryos? Maybe male factor is an issue making the embryos not viable despite having young donor? Just throwing ideas out there.

[Pigi]

Hi Marisa32, thank you for sharing ideas…I was thinking the same and asked about testing DE embryos, but dr told me that they usually don’t perform testings, since donors are very young and there was no issue with sperm (otherwise they would let us know), and she told me also that genetic testings with frozen embryos mean that they need to be defrosted and frozen again afterwards…so it could be risky as well…don’t know what to think. Today there was a slow heartbeat. Pregnancy does not look good. But we will wait until next week.🙏😔

[Marisa32 in reply to Pigi]

Yeah, I know they don't normally do the tests unless you ask for it prior to freezing. Maybe something to consider in the event none of the ones you have work out. Also, unless they did the DNA fragmentation test on sperm, they can't tell if all is fine with it. Sometimes these tests get overlooked because everyone focuses on eggs.