Feeling panicked

[Joeysjourney]

I wasn't expecting to feel this way after the good news I had on Monday of 3 blast embryos being frozen. But its dawned on me how old I am. I'm turning 41 in April, and by the time I transfer these embies and if I'm so so lucky for it to work, I'll be around 42 when I give birth.

How did i reach this age already and no babies. I feel like I was sleepwalking and didn't realise times been ticking away. I just really thought it would happen one day.

If none of my 3 work then I don't know what I'll do. I'll be well into my 41st year and are my own eggs even good then. Even the ones I have now are more likely to be abnormal at my age. How successful am I likely to be......

Sorry, I just feel so panicked about time and age. I'm wondering should I do a banking cycle but my consultant said I was silly to waste the money when I've 3 on ice.

And don't get me wrong, I know how lucky I am to even have those 3, especially after my first round.

Any over 40s success stories to cheer me up? Anything I should do to increase my chances? I've asked for era and nk etc but my consultant says no evidence that's the problem and not to waste money. But I also don't want to waste embryos.

Happy weekend lol, think a well deserved espresso martini is on the cards

Joey xx

[Klndmr]

Don't panic! Stay positive hun. My mum's best friend got pregnant when she was 42, had her daughter when she was 43 and it was all great and they are like best friend now. It's never too late to become a mum! Don't let the age put you down and stress you. Stress is the last thing you need right now! Hugs and positive vibes your way 🥰 xxxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Joeysjourney. Try and keep busy. just remember one of your healthy embryos will soon be back inside you where he/she belongs and will hopefully stay put. You might feel old, but believe me there are plenty of over 40s happily pregnant. Thinking of you. Diane

[Cherrypie111]

I have a friend who has just had a 2nd baby girl at 48 first at 45 !! With her own eggs 🥚 do not fret xx

[Mgkt2021]

Here is ladies a lot older than us having kids one off tour three will stick 💪🙏 xx

[Carina41]

Hi yesSuccess story right here. I was just 41 when I started IVF and we had our boy in November and I’m 42 now

We didn’t have any frozen and only 3 that were transferable and they transferred all 3 at the same time

We were constantly told the odds were hugely stacked against us but we beat the odds and you can too

I had all the thoughts of being an older mom and worrying about if my eggs would still be ok. Not going to lie the pregnancy was hard and not sure of that was due to age but seriously we are all good again now x

[Mom_Njai in reply to Carina41]

Congrats Carina! did you mean you had 3 embies of day 3?

[Positivechangeplease]

Agree with Klndmr - don’t panic! I was 39 when my 3 blasts were frozen but because of life and polyps I could start my transfers until I was 40. I’m now 41 and pregnant with my second transfer with one frozen that we might use later. For me, I didn’t want children without a partner and I didn’t meet him until I was 36. Then we started trying when I was 37 and so on and so forth. Don’t beat yourself up… life happens and you’ll be all the wiser a mum for it.

[Koala365]

My granny had my mum when she was 44 back in the 1940s. All natural and a bit of a surprise for her I am told. But definitely an over 40s success story!

[JoyfulStar]

Hi there, it is understandable why you are worried. I actually had lots of hope when I went through my first cycle at 42 that did not work. I was absolutely devastated that it did not work.

As it so happens, I did 3 cycles at age 43 and banked embryos but only ever had 1 or 2 embryos per cycle. My second round was an absolute disaster as no embryos made it to day 5. The following round though, I had a BFP with my miracle daughter just before my 44th birthday.

So the fact that you have 3 embryos from one round is a positive. I can see why you worry about your age but your consultant is also right. I now have my miracle daughter and 3 embryos on ice I have to make a decision about. I don’t think I can go through another pregnancy again as I am 45 and will turn 46 soon.

Anyhoo try to stay positive where possible. I will be rooting for you x

[Kitkat10]

Hi, I had my first baby when I was 41 so don’t panic! And I certainly didn’t have 3 blasts, I only ever had 1 from each cycle so I would say you are in a good position. Yes it’s true that egg number and quality slowly reduce with age but there are many many ladies who have their first babies in their forties. Good luck 🍀 x