The cost of IVF

[Greenleaves1]

How do you stop yourself worrying about the financial side of IVF? The costs, extras etc.

I'm a solo mum by choice and very lucky to already have a son as a result of IUI (4th go) 2 years ago. I'm now trying for a sibling, so far 3 failed IUIs and 1 failed IVF. I'm 38 with a low-ish AMH.

The cost is adding up, i think so far I've spent the guts of 20k since last July (paying some on interest free credit card) but i'm dreading my 2nd round not working because i'll need to fork out more money if i want to continue.

This in itself is stressing me out even more. I'm obviously the single source of money and no partner to go halfers with or share the stress with. I'm pretty sensible with money and 0% interest, balance transfers etc.

I guess I just want to know how everyone else does it.

[Twiglet2]

so what helps us is thinking if someone told us it would cost £50k to have a sibling would we do it? Our answer was yes, £75k? Possibly yeah actually we would stretch to that, £100k we would probs need to not do it so find your amount that if that was the guaranteed amount to have a sibling you would defo pay it and then anything that costs less than that is a ‘discount’ .

We still get a feeling of guilt from time to time on all the things we could have done for our wee one we have for the £35k we’ve spent already on trying for a sibling but we are viewing it as an investment in our families future rather than a cost that brought us nothing as it absolutely is that 🤗💜

[Kismet_x in reply to Twiglet2]

Totally agree x

[Christianbaby in reply to Twiglet2]

This is all so true. x

[naomibatang]

I'm on the solo trip as well and I'm saving every month from my salary to put towards it. And it's proving very costly. I'm thinking of getting a second job working from home so I can cover for parenting costs

[alicemartin]

Have you looked at Gaia Family? They could help because you can spread the cost of treatment monthly and you only pay once you have a child.

[Greenleaves1 in reply to alicemartin]

I have but it's still works out quite expensive xx

[alicemartin]

They include all embryo transfers and meds so it looks like alot but its all fixed upfront, which I found helpful

[Greenleaves1 in reply to alicemartin]

I've used Access Fertility and it had meds and FETs included too. Will look at Gaia further down the line thank you.

[psalm18 in reply to Greenleaves1]

How much did it cost?

[Kismet_x]

Try not to get into too much debt as you want to give your existing child and you a good life too x

Reality is sometimes it doesn't work and we have to know when to stop trying before we are financially damaged, hope you set yourself a limit and stick to it x

All the best x

[Greenleaves1 in reply to Kismet_x]

Thank you, I'm finding the balance now. We've a holiday coming up in 9 weeks after my 2nd cycle so I'm making sure I'm living life as I go along xx

[Kismet_x in reply to Greenleaves1]

That's great to hear x