Tired and frustrated

[Orchid1990]

Hi everyone,

Ive been married for 10 years now and have struggled with infertility throughout our marriage. We had one round of ivf done in December but it failed. Im 32 and the doctor said i have a low ovarian reserve. I was given the max dose of treatment and only managed to produce 6 eggs of which they only managed to retrieve 2 one was a really good quality egg and one was an average. Just before transfer my doctor had already told me that theres only a 30% chance itll take.

What can i do to produce more eggs next time?

And also although my doctor advised against it everyone around me kept telling me to do full bed rest during the two week wait period.

Everyone around me is pregnant, my 3 sisterinlaws i keep telling my husband its like everyone was sprinkled with baby dust besides me.

I feel like im in such a dark place right now how do i come out of it

[Hoping20]

Hi Orchid, I am very sorry to hear your IVF round in December did not work. It’s so heartbreaking when it doesn’t work. I hope you have some support around you and take some time out to look after you. It must be very hard that your 3 SILs are pregnant. I hope they are understanding of your situation. I do understand where you are coming from as I’ve been married nearly 9 years and still no baby after a number of IVF cycles and one miscarriage. I have seen so many friends and relatives become pregnant and then have their babies. Please be kind to yourself whilst you try to wave this storm. It terms of trying to improve egg quality, I would recommend reading “it starts with an egg”. Lots of handy tips in there on diet, supplements and life style tweaks. Take care now x

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[Orchid1990 in reply to Hoping20]

Thank you for taking the time out to reply to me. Made me feel so much better

[Catwind]

It’s so frustrating. My first retrieval didn’t get me any frosties either. For my second one I prepared by eating healthy, allowing myself one cheat meal a week, taking good quality supplements and made some lifestyle tweaks. I removed as many toxins as I could such as laundry detergent, cleaning materials, etc. I got three frosties. I was supposed to go in for a fet but fell naturally pregnant but I’m miscarrying that as we speak - this is my second natural conception and miscarriage. Both times I miscarried at 6 weeks. I’m a lot older than you too - 39. But please please be kind to yourself and do things that give you joy without any judgment. I’ve spent a greater part of the week blaming myself for starting the baby journey in my mid 30s with the foolish confidence that it wouldn’t be a problem but I am slowly learning it’s not my fault statistics be dammed.

I wish you love and nothing but joy for the rest of the year.

[Orchid1990 in reply to Catwind]

Im so sorry youre going through that i wish this journey was not this difficult. Age doesnt really matter. I got married at 22 and weve been trying for a baby since i was 24 so its just our luck sometimes. Mayb God felt we could handle this better than anyone else we are warriors. Sending you so much love please look after yourself