Counselling for Donor Eggs.

[Cheeky_84]

Today I have to have a counseling session over zoom re the possibility of donor eggs. I am so scared, I don't know what to expect, does anyone have any advice re this, I don't know if there is any questions I should ask? Has anyone done this counselling? Thanks

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Hey Cheeky. Yes I had to have this as part of my donor egg process. I think it varies by clinic but mine was a bit weird(!). We were both on the call (my OH and I) and it was really a sort of 'have you got any questions, have you got any worries' call. My counsellor actually had a DE daughter herself so she talked through her experience. She also talked through all the legal side of things and anonymity etc . Then she talked through about how some people tell their children some not, and then asked if we had any questions again! So it wasn't really like counselling I have had after my MC etc it was more 'here are the facts and things to consider, are you ok with them, any questions.. ok lets go' Lols. We then got an email saying the usual 'lovely couple, no worries about them proceeding'.

Like I say I am sure some clinics are different but thats what we had. I just asked a few questions about telling the baby they were DE etc and that was about it.

Good luck! xx

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Hi , it's really nothing to worry about. When I had mine it was to ensure we both wanted to, neither was being pressured into it, then it mainly focused on the child and how to tell them. It was really quite informative. We had decided to be open about the process until the counselling when she pointed out it wasnt our story to tell. So we didn't tell anyone else after that. Only some close family members know. We will give our child the story books on how she was conceived and she can naturally tell her story herself. It was a real eye opener and I highly recommend it. Nothing to be scared or anxious about. I type this while my 4month old little girl is gurgling away beside me in her cot. I wish you all the very best in the world. Never give up on your dreams...🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Cheeky. Usually called implications counselling. Just to make sure you understand and both agree to using a donor. It's not scarey. Ask anything that may be worrying you about telling your child etc. You will be fine. Diane

[Aurora20]

I hope it goes well for you 😘 I’m in the process of deciding whether or not to go for DE!

[Hidden in reply to Aurora20]

Hi Aurora20 , I just want to say after reading your reply above that deciding to go for it is the hardest stage. For me anyway, everything was totally different in a good way. I'm lying here now listening to my baby girl snoring beside me. I wish you the best of luck. Trust in yourself amd the decisions you make. 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[Aurora20 in reply to Hidden]

I’m so happy you have your baby girl 🥰 in the end it’s all worth it! Thank you, it will definitely be a long and hard process making the decision xxx