3rd round - 4AB transfer BFN - feel so lost 💔

[Candlewax3]

We were so confident at the beginning of the year that ivf would be an easy road for us. I never had a problem falling pregnant it was just my tubes that were the issue. How very wrong were we!! 3 rounds down, no BFP & no Frosties, I feel so guilty that I can’t give my daughter a sibling that she so desperately wants and deserves. It’s been the longest 2 1/2 years I feel so lost and so far away from a happy ending 😔

My sister is pregnant & our best friend is trying, this whole process is wiping me out. I’m normally such a strong person but I just don’t know what to do to make any of this better 😭💔

[Faith103]

I’m so sorry to read this. It’s hit me so hard as this was me last Friday.

I got a BFN from our 4AA. I was confident we could get a sibling for our miracle baby boy but it didn’t happen.

I have the same issue as you I’ve only got one tube due to ectopic and my other tube is blocked so I can’t conceive naturally. I also have endometriosis. Don’t give up it’s not the end. I have told myself I’m going to take a year out and come back to it. It’s so hard. I just knew this time hadn’t worked. I didn’t feel pregnant one bit.

Take time to to cry and look after yourself.

Always here if you want a chat.xxx sending you love and hugs 🤗

[Candlewax3 in reply to Faith103]

Thank you 😘 sorry you didn’t get a better outcome last week. If I was you I think taking a year out is a good shout, enjoy your baby boy while he is still so little rather than dealing with the stress of ivf. I think deep down I knew it hadn’t worked for us as well, I had no symptoms & I always have before. I cannot wait until we get our 🌈 & can get off this awful rollercoaster. I want my mind & body back x

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Be kind to yourself this is a very stressful time - make sure you have support from your other half - keep talking to each other FNUK have a support group you might find helpful https//facebook.com/groups/seconda... that has monthly zoom callsThinking of you

Janet

[Savvy_teapot]

Sorry to hear this. It completely takes over. Make sure to be kind to yourself. You have given this your all. xx

[Redsequin]

I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this. It sounds like you are feeling very overwhelmed, which is only natural. The Podcast "IVF This" has a few episodes on infertility burnout that might be of use? Anyway, I hope you have supportive people around you and are able to have a rest and take time to process all of the emotions. Sending hugs xxx

[Candlewax3 in reply to Redsequin]

Thank you I will take a look at the podcast. I am so lucky I am surrounded by supportive people but in some ways that makes it harder because I feel like I am letting them down as well x

[Redsequin in reply to Candlewax3]

I know it can feel like it, but I promise you you’re not letting anyone down. You are doing your best in a situation you didn’t chose, and where so much is out of your control 🧡