3rd round - 4AB transfer BFN - feel s... - Fertility Network UK

Fertility Network UK

56,444 members59,767 posts

3rd round - 4AB transfer BFN - feel so lost 💔

Candlewax3 profile image
7 Replies

We were so confident at the beginning of the year that ivf would be an easy road for us. I never had a problem falling pregnant it was just my tubes that were the issue. How very wrong were we!! 3 rounds down, no BFP & no Frosties, I feel so guilty that I can’t give my daughter a sibling that she so desperately wants and deserves. It’s been the longest 2 1/2 years I feel so lost and so far away from a happy ending 😔

My sister is pregnant & our best friend is trying, this whole process is wiping me out. I’m normally such a strong person but I just don’t know what to do to make any of this better 😭💔

Written by
Candlewax3 profile image
Candlewax3
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
Read more about...
7 Replies
Faith103 profile image
Faith103

I’m so sorry to read this. It’s hit me so hard as this was me last Friday.

I got a BFN from our 4AA. I was confident we could get a sibling for our miracle baby boy but it didn’t happen.

I have the same issue as you I’ve only got one tube due to ectopic and my other tube is blocked so I can’t conceive naturally. I also have endometriosis. Don’t give up it’s not the end. I have told myself I’m going to take a year out and come back to it. It’s so hard. I just knew this time hadn’t worked. I didn’t feel pregnant one bit.

Take time to to cry and look after yourself.

Always here if you want a chat.xxx sending you love and hugs 🤗

Candlewax3 profile image
Candlewax3 in reply toFaith103

Thank you 😘 sorry you didn’t get a better outcome last week. If I was you I think taking a year out is a good shout, enjoy your baby boy while he is still so little rather than dealing with the stress of ivf. I think deep down I knew it hadn’t worked for us as well, I had no symptoms & I always have before. I cannot wait until we get our 🌈 & can get off this awful rollercoaster. I want my mind & body back x

JA-fnuk profile image
JA-fnukPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Be kind to yourself this is a very stressful time - make sure you have support from your other half - keep talking to each other FNUK have a support group you might find helpful https//facebook.com/groups/seconda... that has monthly zoom callsThinking of you

Janet

Savvy_teapot profile image
Savvy_teapot

Sorry to hear this. It completely takes over. Make sure to be kind to yourself. You have given this your all. xx

Redsequin profile image
Redsequin

I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this. It sounds like you are feeling very overwhelmed, which is only natural. The Podcast "IVF This" has a few episodes on infertility burnout that might be of use? Anyway, I hope you have supportive people around you and are able to have a rest and take time to process all of the emotions. Sending hugs xxx

Candlewax3 profile image
Candlewax3 in reply toRedsequin

Thank you I will take a look at the podcast. I am so lucky I am surrounded by supportive people but in some ways that makes it harder because I feel like I am letting them down as well x

Redsequin profile image
Redsequin in reply toCandlewax3

I know it can feel like it, but I promise you you’re not letting anyone down. You are doing your best in a situation you didn’t chose, and where so much is out of your control 🧡

Not what you're looking for?

You may also like...

3rd FET - BFN

We really thought our test would have read ‘pregnant’ this morning but no such luck. We are...

3rd BFN 💔

I've kept myself quiet for the last few months, I didn't want to 'temp fate' by talking about my...
Gurty123 profile image

BFN - feel hopeless

Hi all, Just to let you know I had a BFN this morning after my 2ww. We honestly thought this could...
Babymagic37 profile image

ivf round … lost count 😂 Transfer 5

so after 2bfn and 2 chemical we are now on the countdown to transfer 5. microgynon has started so...
Boo718 profile image

Feeling so so sad, BFN today after #firstivfcycle

Hey, I’m so so sad. I really though that this day would finally be the day of our BFP. I feel like...

Moderation team

See all
Claire_FNUK profile image
Claire_FNUKAdministrator
JA-fnuk profile image
JA-fnukPartner

Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.

Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.