9dp5dt BFN OTD tomo needing hope!!

[Kate40]

Hey I have just done my first fresh round of ivf, I’m currently 9dp5dt of 1 grade 4AA blast, on 7dpt I tested with frer and got a faint positive so naturally tested the next day both 8dpt and today I’ve had negatives. The advice from the clinic is test on day 10 and if negative test day 12! However I have already lost hope.

I am wondering if anyone on here has had any bfn then a bfp a day later on OTD?

ttc7 years

1 natural pregnancy daughter stillborn 👼🏻 oct 2017

Oct 2021 first fresh transfer

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Good luck! My sister got negatives through to a squinter 11dp5t and she is now 5 months old! x

[Kate40 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for replying daisy, my worry is that the clinic don’t do beta they rely solely on the hpt. I’ve read/heard about so many people not getting a positive test at all but bloods were positive. I hope they’ll make an exception the nurse is calling me on Wednesday! Thanks again for the reply and it’s definetly gave me some hope xx

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I haven't read about anyone getting a blood test positive but a negative HPT if they used first response (FRER) or other early tests.. Don't panic too much - my clinic have never done blood tests. Good luck xx

[Kate40 in reply to Hidden]

Yeh it was frer I used I have one left for tomorrow and have 3 digital CB I’ll use one of them tomo too and also a frer see how I go I defo think I’m out though, I don’t get periods so I thought the cramp, sore boobs and tiredness were all good signs (all the symptoms I had when I was pregnant) obviously not this time xx

[Millbanks]

Hi Kate, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter - that must have been so heartbreaking.

I think the positive you got on day 7 was likely the trigger injection working its way out.

That said there is no reason that you won't get a positive on test day. Fingers crossed for you xxx

[Kate40 in reply to Millbanks]

Hi millbanks thanks for the reply, and thank you yeh was horrific just trying to do her proud each day 💕 I didn’t have a trigger as it is donor eggs so no EC on me was a close friend that triggered. If I had been then I would totally get it but that’s why it’s confusing- sorry I should’ve stated that.

I hope so I really do but I doubt it I am not sure why I got my hopes up so much I had transfer the day before my daughters 4th angelversary so was a mixture of emotions I just thought It would work.

Thanks again xx

[Millbanks in reply to Kate40]

Oh love - I'm sure you do her proud all the time. 💔Ah I see - that's so frustrating - I can't really advise I'm afraid as I only ever had negatives with home pregnancy tests. All I can say is stranger things have happened!! Stay strong and test again in a couple of days.

Aw I had a similar feeling too, I had a transfer in December just after losing my dad, and I felt exactly the same - like we deserved it to work and somehow he'd have a hand in it. Sadly we got a negative on Christmas eve - the first Christmas without him.

Really hope you get a better result than we did xx

[Kate40 in reply to Millbanks]

Aw bless that’s a shame I just seen you eventually got your BFP what a journey to get there you’ve had, I hope you are keeping well? Yeh I think it’s over but I’ll still test tomo and Thursday and see for sure I’m hoping after withdrawal bleed they will allow me to restart the meds to build my lining again and defrost my 1 wee embryo in the freezer ASAP. I live in hope xx

[Millbanks in reply to Kate40]

Aw thank you - yes it's been a long old road. Still can't really believe it - and obviously the worry never really leaves you.We're doing well so far though - thank you ❤️

I think it's really good to have a plan in place, just to help you get through and give you renewed hope - everything crossed for you xx

[Kate40 in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you I’ll update tomo I think I’ve done all the crying yesterday that I was meant to do I am heartbroken nonetheless but keeping the faith for this wee frostie xx

[Millbanks in reply to Kate40]

I find that it does help to get the crying out of the way - but you never know xx

[hoping2021]

Dear Kate40 , I'm so sorry to hear about your fertility journey - yours seems to be a particularly cruel and brutal journey.

I am in a similar boat to you in that I have also tested BFN on 9dp5dt. My clinic ask that we continue with the progesterone for another 48 hrs and then retest before stopping all meds. I don't want to upset you but, I have searched the internet for stories of success after a FRER BFN on 9dp5dt, and really I haven't found any success stories.

I hope things work out for us both xxxxx

[Kate40 in reply to hoping2021]

Hey thank you for replying, it’s heartbreaking isn’t it? yeh I have too I just wanted a small glimmer of hope but I’ve mentally (as best as I can) prepared myself that it’s negative.

Yeh they said if it’s negative to retest two days later before sending in the outcome.

I would normally go have a wee chat with my Angel but there are so many road closures here with cop26 that I don’t even think I’d get there so that’s a downer too! I’ve asked my partner to bring me in some wine 🍷 this was our first transfer and I have no idea why I thought it would work first time.

I am so sorry for you too how many transfers have you had so far? How are you feeling? Xx

[hoping2021 in reply to Kate40]

Thank you Kate40 . I'm sorry you can't go and chat to your Angel.

Even though I think it's unlikely to miraculously change in 24-48hrs... definitely don't have the wine until it's definitely over (i.e. after the OTD date).

I've been TTC for nearly 8 years...

Fresh IVF cycle 1 2016: x2 blastocyst transfers =BFN

Fresh IVF cycle 2 2016: x1 blasto and x1 morula transferred =BFN

male factors then diagnosed

Fresh ICSI cycle 1 2018: x1 blasto BFN

Long break break from IVF process.... started FET from 2018 ICSI cycle in March 2021 after husband diagnosed with inflammatory arthritis and put on immunosuppressants:

FET 1 from ICSI : x1 blasto transferred = BFP, m/c 7 weeks due to chromosomal abnormality

FET 2 from ICSI: x 1 day 6 blasto = chemical pregnancy

FET 3 from ICSI: x1 day 6 blasto = BFN today.

I feel ok - as I feel I am getting used to the disappointment now. I've tried to be constructive today and now trying to think about switching clinics.

Have had made a follow-up appointment with my consultant, who I think is great but honestly I think he has forgotten half my history. I have also made a new appointment at a new clinic as feel like I need a fresh pair of eyes on my case.

Unfortunately there is no availability with the new consultant I want until mid-december.... so a bit of a awaiting game but will give me time to to get ready again for a cycle.

[Kate40]

Negative frer this morning on OTD I did expect it but still heartbroken 💔 xx

[Millbanks in reply to Kate40]

Aww I'm sorry lovely - I know it doesn't make it any easier but sending much love.Take it easy today and treat yourself to something nice xx