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BFN - OTD!!! but still waiting!!!

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Well as per above I tested yesterday on OTD and got a BFN. Heart broken! We had an amazing 6bb hatching blastocyst transferred. I was foolishly optimistic and amazed our little embie had done so well. However it doesn't appear to be! My AF has still not arrived and they have told me to carry on with my meds and retest tomorrow. I really am going through the motions not believing it's meant to be. Wondering why my body is playing silly mind games. Im so frustrated with myself. My body wouldnt accept a fantastic embryo and now no AF. This journey is so tough. Sorry for the rant.

Good luck to everyone in their 2ww and those looking for their miracles. A big thank you to everyone for sharing their stories and ongoing support, strength and bravery xx

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Tara2016 profile image
Tara2016

Really hoping it changes for you, hoping it was a false negative which is most definitely possible! You had a good embie so fingers crossed it sticks xxx

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NMP1026 in reply toTara2016

Thanks hun. I think it's just my body being cruel in an already cruel game. Thank you though xx

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E_05

Your definitely entitled to a rant, I’m so sorry I’ve been in a similar position last year and it’s so hard when your not sure if your body’s playing tricks on you. I really hope tomorrow it changes for you xx

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NMP1026 in reply toE_05

Thanks hun. I do think it's just my body being cruel. How are you? You are an absolute inspiration xx

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E_05 in reply toNMP1026

Ah thank you but honestly I’m not doing anything more than any of us would do, I’m getting there day by day. It’s so unfair, this journey plays enough games with our minds without this added. Will you continue meds until AF arrives? Xx

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NMP1026 in reply toE_05

Honestly hun your strength is amazing! I've got to do a test tomorrow and then if it's negative I need to stop all meds tomorrow xx

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E_05 in reply toNMP1026

Oh okay well il keep everything crossed for you that tomorrow brings a different result. Message me any time you need to talk xx

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Shanks_21

Sending big hugs lovely keeping fingers crossed that BFP appears xxxx

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NMP1026 in reply toShanks_21

Thanks hun. Unfortunately it's not meant to be xx

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Kyell2

I’m so sad to read this, it’s so unfair when you’ve done everything right.

I hope, hope, hope that tomorrow brings you better news xx

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NMP1026 in reply toKyell2

Thanks hun but it's a definite BFN for us xx

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Kyell2 in reply toNMP1026

I am so sorry, it’s simply devastating when there was so much hope and this happens. Sending you hugs, look after each other xx

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NMP1026 in reply toKyell2

Thanks hun. I'm really starting to question whether it's my eggs or my OH's sperm. I can't think of any other reason xx

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Kyell2 in reply toNMP1026

Aww, I think it’s natural to think that way right now.

They do say your chances increase with every cycle so it might not necessarily be true though. You’ve had so many tests done before getting to this stage surely they would have detected this.

It’s completely and utterly rubbish, hopefully you can get an appointment at the clinic soon to discuss what happened xxx

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NMP1026 in reply toKyell2

I don't know what to think. It's a tough game!

Our follow up is on the 20th. I guess we will just have to wait and see.

How are you guys? Did you make an appointment xx

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Kyell2 in reply toNMP1026

I know, the toughest game ever!!

At least the 20th is only a week away and hopefully you can make a new plan of action. I’d say stay positive but it’s not that bloody easy 😔.

Nope, we still haven’t built up the courage to make an appointment. I know we’re being ridiculous but it’s just so final, we’ve officially given up on my OH’s sperm (or lack of it) with that appointment.

We’ve made the decision, we both just need to do it xxx

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NMP1026 in reply toKyell2

Hey hun

Sorry it's taken a little while for me to reply. I needed some space.

Aww hun I honestly can't imagine. As I say the fact that you made that decision is massive itself.

I'm wishing you so much luck and I'm always here if you want to chat xx

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Cinderella5

Oh I'm so sorry honey!! I do hope it changes for you tomorrow. Sending big hugs xxxx

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NMP1026 in reply toCinderella5

Thanks hun. I hope you are hanging in there. Unfortunately a BFN for us xx

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Cinderella5 in reply toNMP1026

Ahhhh sorry that's been confirmed. Im not feeling too hopeful myself if Im honest but hanging in there and managed to refrain from testing early....so far! Thank you xx

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NMP1026 in reply toCinderella5

Aww hun I have absolutely everything crossed for you xx

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Kittygoo

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a bfn last week after a failed fet with 2 b5 day blasts. I know how heartbroken you must be. Take it day by day and be kind to yourself. Big hugs xxx

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NMP1026 in reply toKittygoo

Thanks sweetheart. I'm so sorry for you. Big hugs back to you xx

Oh no. I'm so sorry NMP. It really sucks having done everything right and with a good embryo and you get a negative result. If only someone had answers regarding what one can do to just get pregnant and give birth to a healthy baby.fingers crossed and hope you are not out. Xx

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NMP1026 in reply to

If only it was that simple I would love nothing more than that for every single girl on here xx

Good luck testing today. Xx

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NMP1026 in reply to

Thanks hun unfortunately a try again next time xx

in reply toNMP1026

Oh I'm so sorry, lovely. It's really heartbreaking. Good luck next time xx

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NMP1026 in reply to

Thank you xx

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Beebeestar

I really hope it changes for you. As you have no AF yet there’s still a strong possibility. 🤞

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NMP1026 in reply toBeebeestar

Unfortunately not meant to be. Thank you xx

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vic77

Oh hun I am so so sorry. bfns are the worst .I have had 4 now and they don't get any easier. af normally appears a few days after which is the worst and a reminder of what has happened to you. my af just finished after last bfn and I can slowly start to feel myself recovering emotionally. I am sending you so much love and take care of yourself...allow yourself to grieve and feel crap..better days will come xxx

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NMP1026 in reply tovic77

Thanks sweetheart. Its so unfair there are no words. Lots of love and hugs xx

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Lorry1984

Sorry to hear. I hope today brings a better result for you. xx

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NMP1026 in reply toLorry1984

Thanks hun. Unfortunately not xx

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Lorry1984 in reply toNMP1026

Sorry to hear that. xx

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Loopielu

Sorry to read this. OTD for me today and it’s a bfn too 😞. AF is nowhere to be seen for me either. Take care xx

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NMP1026 in reply toLoopielu

Aww sweet. We had out transfer on the same day too. Thinking of you. Hugs xx

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Loopielu in reply toNMP1026

I know 😞. Same to you xxx

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Tugsgirl

Af came 3-4 days later for me but I hope yours doesn’t come at all and that you get your bfp xx

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NMP1026 in reply toTugsgirl

Thanks hun but unfortunately not this time xx

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Tugsgirl in reply toNMP1026

😞 xx

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Coco24

Oh I’m so sorry to hear that. I will be keeping everything crossed for you that it is a false negative. Either way you will get through it, and you will have the family you long for. Xx

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NMP1026 in reply toCoco24

Thanks hun. Wishing you so much luck for your round xxx

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Coco24 in reply toNMP1026

Thank you. Xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Just, want to say I'm so sorry hun I'm sending you a big hug and hope your time comes soon such a headache this journey is never ending stress you lovely Ivf ladies have a, strength not many of us can compare with. Bless you hun hope your time comes soon. 💗🤗😘

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NMP1026 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Thanks sweetheart. When I started this journey I truly blamed myself and thought I was being punished. This forum and everyone on it has taught me that's not the case. If anything although I hate infertility and everything about it I am so proud to be one of these amazing, strong and courageous IVF girls xxx

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply toNMP1026

That's the spirit hun.

It's tough but your tougher and you will beat this 💗🤗😘

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NMP1026 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Everything crossed but if this hasn't worked I'm not sure what will xx

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Fredaflintstone

Sending hugs to you NMP. You’ve been so supportive to me and I feel so sad for young today. Look after yourself xxxxxx

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NMP1026 in reply toFredaflintstone

Thank you so much xx

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