💔 6 week miscarriage after a short bleed

[Li12]

I feel numb. Devastated. Hopeless.

I saw the empty screen at my 6w2d scan that confirmed my worst fears after a bleed on Saturday. This is my second, first at 5weeks.

As the tears roll I am thinking will I ever get to hold my own baby. This whole journey has done nothing but cause pain for 5 years . I've pushed friends away as they have had their own babies. My work i used to love feels draining and just a place i drag myself to, to make money. I feel like giving up on everything. Please give me some motivational stories. Why has this happened again 😭

[Picalilli99]

Sorry I don’t really have any motivational stories to share but I did not want to read and just scroll past. I just wanted to say I’m really sorry for your loss. I’m sorry it’s happened again. I understand the feelings you describe (we have experienced multiple losses too). It is terribly unfair and sometimes there just aren’t any answers. Try and give yourself time & space to heal if you can. Sending love and hugs xx

[COAGMS]

I’m sorry that you have to go through this again. Life can be cruel and my heart breaks for you. Please speak to someone if you’re struggling, your fertility clinic should be able to refer you to a councillor x

[Li12 in reply to COAGMS]

Thank you 😪 i think i will speak to someone this time. I feel im on the verge of depression. So many stories on here i read everyday that are heartbreaking and cruel. I can't see the future being bright for us. Thank you for giving the time to give advice xx

[XOXO13]

Ow I’m so sorry for your loss, both of them 💔 I feel every word you’ve said and have been where you are. After my third transfer ended in a CP, my second miscarriage (first at 12+5), I was in a very dark place - nothing seemed to matter to me and I had ran out of steam. I allowed myself to cry and be sad, and the next day I went and booked my hair in and treated myself to something. I also focused on my physical health, jumping back into exercise and I scheduled a therapy session and reflexology. These things don’t take away the hurt, but they help in making you feel a little more like yourself.

I don’t know your story, or how many transfers you’ve had, but for me after my third I knew I needed a change for the sake of my mental health amongst other reasons. That change did me so much good, mentally mainly.

For now, take good care of yourself. Sending you big cuddles xxx

[Lovemylion]

Hi Li12. I'm sorry your going through this. It's just so cruel. I feel your dispair as I'm currently going through my second miscarriage. First one I found out at 7weeks. And this one at 9.5weeks I went for a reassurance scan after some bleeding and found out that the heart had stopped beating. Devastated. Fortunately, I have got a 2 year old from a round a couple of years ago so I know IT CAN happen (I hope you see that as some sort of reassurance). People do generally get their happy ending on here even if it is an awful slog to get there....so I'm holding onto that. For me my thoughts are that I've been a bit unlucky on this pursuit for a sibling and I'm still hopeful that I will eventually get there and you will too! The way I see it, there's no rules with IVF. I hope you get some support. Xxx

[Ell493]

So sorry 💔 Have you considered adopting an embryo, or using donor eggs? That's what we had to do.

[Fertilityjourney]

I'm so sorry for your losses. Sending you a big hug

Take time to grieve and look after each other. And speak to a counsellor when you are ready, I think it helps to talk about how you are feeling.

When I had a miscarriage at 6 wks after a previous chemical pregnancy I asked for help on here as I felt so upset and not sure I could go through it again.

A lovely lady advised me to get immune testing which I did and showed I have active NK cells which can cause miscarriages. The lady who helped me was treated and now has her baby 💕So I'm praying it helps me.

Hang in there, I know this is devestating but I believe you will get there. Xx

[Masief]

Hi Li12, so sorry for your loss. I've had three now and my clinic are rubbish at looking at they why. Have you considered other factors like seeing a reproductive immunologist? I'm discovering there are a few things that can impact pregnancy like thyroid. I recommend getting things checked out, I wish i had done this before my third m/c and after my first one! Also get the tissue tested if possible (i had a d&c). It confirmed the baby was chromosomally normal. Good luck and sending love xx

[Greeneyes14]

Also read and couldn't just scroll past, I have lost 2 babies myself, and appreciate how you feel. Sending much love and strength xx