Has anyone ever used one before? I think I need to speak to someone in regards to dealing with my anxiety in this pregnancy. It’s all consuming and I can’t find it in me to be positive or even enjoy the pregnancy at all. I keep planning in my head for it to end. I feel it would be beneficial for me. Just wanted to know if anyone has any experience with them and it helped?
Thanks so much!
I haven’t but I want to wish you well and please seek some help if you need to. You have nothing to lose by taking to someone 💕
Thank you so much for responding. I Will definately do that. Just need to get this anxiety under control because it’s just so controlling, I won’t let myself have any hope that this pregnancy can make it xxxx
Don’t think like that lovely! I’ve had anxiety most my life and I am now 41. Advice will always be ride it out,it won’t last and switch off till it eases. Distract the palpitations with something to do with your hands that you have to concentrate. I bake a lot! I know it’s absolutely debilitating at times but you always come out the other side trust me 💕
I will try and listen I promise 😘😘thanks so so much xx
I have used a fertility therapist throughout my fourth and success transfer, and up until I was about 11 weeks pregnant. I had a hour session on a weekly basis, and I’ve found it beneficial for my mental health. It’s good to offload to someone who understands and is able to be constructive.
Your clinic will have associated therapist that you may be able to access for free? Xx
Thank you so much for responding to my post, I am going to look into a few that people have kindly suggested to me and will definately look into the one at my clinic . I feel better already for making a plan about getting one. Thanks so much again xxxx
So sorry you are feeling this way. It's so hard isn't it?! I'm feeling the same atm, can't enjoy a single moment and wishing the months away. I spoke to my midwife and the only word I could use to describe how I was feeling was "detached". She offered to refer me to a councillor. Maybe speak to your midwife and see if your area offer the same service. I hope you get some help and can start to enjoy your pregnancy x
That’s exactly how I feel, you have described it in one. I won’t allow myself to believe this is happening and by accepting that it’s not going last is like my defence mechanism. It’s absolutely horrible feeling this way but I’m determined to change the way I feel. Thanks so much for reaching out and I’m so sorry you feel the same 😞xxx
Hello, I would speak to the midwife in the first instance. She will be able to advise and give you names of counsellors. I used one during my 3rd fresh cycle and just getting someone to listen to how I was feeling inside helped. I do think pregnancy hormones can make us feel down so hopefully with the right support, you will soon be able to enjoy the rest of pregnancy before baby arrives. All the best xx
Thanks so much for replying. I had to admit defeat and now I have a feel better. Hopefully the lady I’m speaking to on Monday will be able to help me find coping mechanisms to help with this horrible feeling on constant anxiety. All the best to you too xxx
Hi there, I started counselling with Petals after my second miscarriage and kept it all throughout my current pregnancy (am 36 weeks). I don’t know how I would have coped without it. My anxiety has been pretty high throughout and the worry of something happening with the pregnancy has been overwhelming at times. My counsellor taught me to live with the anxiety like an acquaintance rather than trying to push it away. People said “ just try and enjoy it now” and “don’t be anxious”. They were well meaning but it didn’t help. The support of a professional was so invaluable to me and I do recommend it. I know how you feel and wish you luck x
Thank you so much. So glad it’s helped you. My husband is wonderful and tries to tell me not worry and be positive but he just doesn’t understand. I think my anxiety is bigger than any of us is able to deal with on our own xxx
I’ve been seeing a counsellor for the past year and it’s been amazing, it’s helped me in so many aspects of my life, places where I didn’t even realise I may have been struggling or just not quite myself! It’s just really helped me to deal with whatever is going on inside and around me. She specialises in fertility and pregnancy etc so I think I will continue with it for a while during this pregnancy! Best money I have ever spend, good luck x
Thanks so much! So so glad it’s helping you. I am so glad I posted on here last night asking for help. I feel better today and have a plan in place xxx
Yes I have had counselling, it was more a year ago when I had a missed miscarriage, but I find counselling really beneficial and enjoy it, I would have it every week if I could. I saw a counsellor through my clinic but we didn’t click at all. In the end I saw a counsellor who wasn’t specifically a fertility counsellor but that was one of her interests and specialisms. She was absolutely great and got me through a very dark time. I would highly recommend counselling but also don’t be worried to find the right person for you if you don’t click with the first person xx
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Thank you so much for responding. I have made an appointment on Monday to speak to someone and I feel better already xxxx
Brilliant well done. Often facing up to these things or starting to take steps to take control of how you can feel better has such a powerful impact. Best of luck xx
You are so right! Thanks so much again xxx
I have done both group fertility counselling (group of women doing IVF) and seen our clinic's fertility counsellor together with my husband. PM me if you would like details. x
Thank you so much. I have found someone starting this Monday. Should this not work out (which it hopefully will as she sounds so lovely!) I will definitely bare that in mind. I might also have a look at group fertility group counselling, never heard of that! Thanks again for your help xxx
Hi Nebergiveup21
Counselling is very beneficial especially after going through fertility treatment.I had three sessions of counselling as I had three major issues to deal with, coming to terms with having had IVF treatment, anxiety during pregnancy and bereavement, the loss of my Dad whilst pregnant, which exacerbated my anxiety.
My counsellors and I looked at my triggers and put in strategies in place to help me cope.
One of my triggers was going to maternity appointments alone as it remided me of my Dad who I lost. My Dad was a great support during my IVF treatment, he was a retired gynaecologist and obstetrician, so gave me great advice. Sadly I lost him when I was 9 weeks pregnant. If my Dad was here he would have supported me through my pregnancy. To help me feel more supported I ensured that my partner or a family member would attend every appointment with me.
I also went for a couple of private ultrasound scan which reassured me that my babies were doing OK.
It's good you recognise you need added support. As you progress through you pregnancy you will get more confident provided you have support in place.
I hope that this helps. Xx
Oh my goodness I can’t imagine the pain. So difficult and so sorry you los your lovely dad, especially at such a vulnerable time in your life. So sorry. I have reached out for help and starting on Monday which is a huge start. No matter what I do now won’t change the outcome of the pregnancy But I need to learn to find coping mechanisms to help me not feel like I’m drowning in my worries. Hopefully she can help. Thank you so much for all your suggestions and for reaching out. It helps so much xxxx
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