*Sensitive Post* - Fourth Transfer Success

[anz07]

I hope this post gives hope to those who need it.

After two egg collections and four transfers, our latest transfer has been our lucky one. We transferred two low grade (C) embryos and had strong positives on OTD. We couldn't believe it. We kept waiting for that precious second line to fade away as it had always done on our previous rounds, but it stayed strong. At 7 weeks, we had a twin pregnancy confirmed which was just the best news ever!

Unfortunately I had a bleed at 8 weeks and we lost Twin B, but Twin A held on. The first trimester was truly horrible - I was very sick and had to be signed off work for 6 weeks. The trauma of previous losses, alongside losing Twin B, really haunted us and we spend each day terrified that we'd lose the pregnancy. So I can't say it's been the happiest of pregnancies but I know that is the case for the majority who walk down the rocky IVF road.

On the bright side, I am 21 weeks today and baby is doing well. We found out we're having a little girl and are thrilled!

We are both still pretty traumatised from our IVF experience. The emotional rollercoaster, the physical battering and the financial burden of it all really did take its toll. Including the purchase of donor sperm (we are a same-sex couple), we've spent close to £35k to get here. I really hope things change for people in our position in the future. I was never eligible for any IVF funding, even after recurrent miscarriage, just because of my sexuality. I will keep speaking out about this and campaigning for change.

I would like to thank all who have given me invaluable advice on here throughout my journey. This forum has been a place of safety and support during the darkest times.

We have documented our journey on YouTube for anyone who is interested in watching (link below). Please don't hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.

Wishing you all the very best, whatever stage of the journey you are on. Keep fighting.

youtube.com/channel/UCw2gOj...

[Nevergiveup21]

Look at those big smiles 😍😍 congratulations mamas! Your journey has been very hard but so so worth it. Wishing you the happiest and healthiest of pregnancies! ♥️♥️♥️

[anz07 in reply to Nevergiveup21]

Thank you so much! Keeping everything crossed for you moving forward!! xox

[AFoxcraft]

Wow!!!!! A huge congrats to you both!!!! That's such brilliant news.We are a same sex couple too. Three embryo transfers so far - all good grades - one chemical pregnancy and two that didn't take. Then all the estrogen started a thyroid problem so I've had a break for six months which has been so needed. Hoping we have some good news too soon... 🙏 xx

Ps. Don't get me started on the inequity with gay couples and fertility treatments, it's just insane and makes me mad thinking about it.

[anz07 in reply to AFoxcraft]

Thank you so much! I am so very sorry to hear of all you have gone through. The journey can be so brutal at times. I hope your fourth transfer is the one, will be keeping everything crossed for you both.💜 And yes, the inequality in funding is just infuriating - change must happen!! xxx

[AuroraXen]

This is so lovely to hear. Congrats both, well on track now 😍. I agree completely, it's awful that you aren't entitled to any free attempts. Really scandalous. I/we were not eligible for any NHS goes either, but that's a very different (and complex!) situation. You definitely should have been able to get some help xx

[anz07 in reply to AuroraXen]

Thank you so much! I am sorry you weren't eligible for funding either. The eligibility criteria is so restrictive and is sometimes as ridiculous as postcode. This really needs to change. Unfortunately, most people don't seem to care as it simply doesn't affect them. Need to keep raising awareness! 👍 xxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi naz. All looking fab to me! Hope the last hurdle goes well for you. Diane

[anz07 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you so much Diane! 💜 xxx

[Marley15]

Congratulations xx

[anz07 in reply to Marley15]

Thank you so much! 🤍 xxx

[DOCIreland]

Amazing news 🤗🤗 congratulations to you both ❤

[anz07 in reply to DOCIreland]

Thank you very much! 🤍 xxx

[LiveandLetLive42]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

[anz07 in reply to LiveandLetLive42]

Thank you so much! 🤍 xxx

[Kat_15]

Many congrats, so pleased for you both! xxx

[anz07 in reply to Kat_15]

Thank you so much! 🤍 xxx

[Picalilli99]

Congratulations! Hoping the final leg of the journey is much smoother for you! Lots of luck xxx

[anz07 in reply to Picalilli99]

Thank you so much, here’s hoping! 🤞🏽🤍 xxx

[Jazmin222]

Congratulations!!! It’s so worrying throughout a pregnancy but getting to the 20week scan is a bit of a milestone! So glad your little girl is doing well 💕💕 -also pleased to hear you got such good support on here too!! I’ve always been encouraged by the kindness on this forum!xx

[anz07 in reply to Jazmin222]

Thank you so much! Yes, the 20w scan is definitely a milestone. I'm still in disbelief that we're at this stage. Everyone on here has been so supportive and kind, I'm so glad I found this forum! xxx

[try2020]

Congratulations 🧡 🤞 for plain sailing from here on, that is a story of perseverance and hope 🥰

[anz07 in reply to try2020]

Thank you so much, here's hoping! 💜 xxx