Thank you to everyone for the support *Sensitive* 11 days post 5 day transfer (4th transfer)

[LegoBatgirl]

OTD was yesterday the clinic did a blood test and said it was positive 💕

I know it sounds crazy but I couldn't believe it until I saw it, so I insisted that hubby bought some PTs from the supermarket!

As some of you know, we've been trying for 4 years - been through 2 collections, 3 previous transfers and never had a BFP before.

As with all people who have fertility treatment, I know BFP doesn't necessarily equal a healthy baby in the end. I have to take things one day at a time - until I see a healthy progression of scans it probably won't feel real. I'm hoping to get some counselling to try to stop me from obsessively worrying and just enjoy getting further than we've ever managed before!

If anyone has any tips on staying positive, managing mental health or dealing with all the uncertainty please get in touch 🤗

[minnesota_girl]

Congratulations that's amazing 🥰🥰 wishing you the best on the next stages!

[LegoBatgirl in reply to minnesota_girl]

Thank you so much, I'm still in disbelief! I'm hoping that the 6 week scan comes round quickly because I'm probably not going to believe it til I see it!

[Cinderella5 in reply to LegoBatgirl]

And you probably still wont believe it!🤪🤣xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Cinderella5]

The whole thing feels impossible! I'm so glad I booked this week off work so I have a bit of time to adjust x

[HemBella]

Congratulations!!

[LegoBatgirl in reply to HemBella]

Thank you!

[XOXO13]

Congratulations!! 🍀 xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to XOXO13]

Thank you! X

[Millbanks]

Amazing!! Congratulations xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you! X

[Lovemylion]

Congratulations! That looks like a super strong positive. Xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Lovemylion]

Thanks, I didn't know how it was supposed to look - I was too scared to test early! X

[Sweethear]

Congratulations

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Sweethear]

Thank you x

[Zaazee]

Congratulations!! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy 🤰🏽 and baby 👶🏼. xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Zaazee]

Thank you so much, that means so much to me. I think I'll be scared all the way through but I'm keeping everything crossed! X

[Londongirl84]

Congratulations on your BFP!! Take it easy and I hope your pregnancy goes well. Xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Londongirl84]

Thank you! X

[LegoBatgirl]

I'm in such a weird head space- I feel like IVF gives you so little privacy. We wouldn't want to tell anyone til 12 weeks but his parents and my mum and sibling already know, as they knew we were having treatment and asked for the outcome of the test (I needed family support to make it through the emotions of IVF so there was no keeping it quiet that we were having treatment).

I'm so scared of disappointing people and so aware of all the things that could go wrong 😭

[Lovemylion in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Look, my close family, couple of friends and work know I'm having IVF and will need to know the outcome but I know I need support from all of them, whatever happens. Don't worry about it. Unfortunately this process takes away any surprise element. For me personally, I'd rather have the support. You'll be fine hun. Xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Lovemylion]

Thank you, I really appreciate you taking time to respond. It's all a lot right now and every bit of support means the world to me! X

[Arya10 in reply to LegoBatgirl]

The support is so important, and the validation that you’re pregnant is so needed! We told both sets of parents at 8 weeks because I was so unwell I couldn’t hide it, and I’m so glad we did. It was so nice having some people to talk to about it, including my worries, people checking in with me. It was quite lonely before that. xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Arya10]

Thanks, it's good to know that telling them early can have some upsides x

[RhinoCat]

Amazing news 🤩💖💐 enjoy this moment 👏🏻🥳🥳🥳💐💐💐💐💐

[LegoBatgirl in reply to RhinoCat]

Thank you! X

[LauraEW]

Congratulations!! xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to LauraEW]

Thank you! X

[Beechnut1]

Yay!! Congratulations 4th transfer babies are the best! Not that I’m biased 🤣

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Beechnut1]

Thank you, I'm keeping everything crossed. Really hoping that everything looks ok at the 6 week scan x

[Beechnut1 in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Just enjoy this moment 💕

[Cinderella5]

Ahhhh I'm so happy for you!! Absolutley fabulous news!🤗🙌🏻🥰 Nice strong line too! The only advice is to go one day at a time. Best of luck lovely, you've worked hard for this moment.xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you, this whole journey is so stressful and hard. I definitely need to try to take it easy on myself and celebrate this win - it's the first time we've ever gotten this far and that in itself is a good thing x

[Cinderella5 in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Awww definitley celebrate this win....its the biggie we all strive for! It's all about the hurdles now. Fingers and toes crossed for you!xxx

[Alwaysbelieving]

Congratulations 😃 wishing you all the very best with your pregnancy x

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Alwaysbelieving]

Thank you! X

[Zari2]

Congratulations

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Zari2]

Thank you! X

[Arya10]

Congratulations!!! You’re pregnant 😀 (I cried when someone said that to me on here).

It is a really tough journey when you’ve had fertility issues but I found it got easier with each milestone. Don’t hesitate to seek out help if you have any concerns at any point. Sometimes you just need reassurance.

I kept telling myself there’s nothing I can do now to change whatever the outcome so just focused on getting lots of rest and avoiding stress xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Arya10]

Thanks I need all the advice I can get! I'm counting down the days til 6 week scan and hopefully it'll get easier after every milestone like you said x

[XxjustmexX]

Congratulations xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to XxjustmexX]

Thank you! X

[Core]

Congratulations fantastic news xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Core]

Thank you! X

[strawberriesandcream]

Congratulations! I put a post on a few weeks ago about dealing with anxiety after infertility and miscarriage - there are some fantastic suggestions on there so have a look xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to strawberriesandcream]

I definitely will, I need to get as much advice as i can! X

[Faith103]

Congratulations lovely line xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Faith103]

Thank you! X

[Sparklylife]

Congratulations! That is fantastic news!! So happy for you! 🥰😁 I don’t have any advice really for you regarding the worry - as I am struggling at times with this myself - just want little one to be healthy and here safe! It does get easier though. And I try to distract my negative thoughts. By making myself think positive .. I go for walks, listen to calming music and podcasts. Treat myself every so often to a hot chocolate or something if it is really bad. I do not overly worry or obsess with it, but the week before a scan I can feel the anxiety building up. But it does get easier with every little milestone .. so just take one step at a time! I try to enjoy all the good news we are given! Rather than focus on what could go wrong.. and I keep happy and healthy, so feel it will be out of my control. Which is a really hard thing to accept 😇🥰 Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy and hopefully you will find ways to enjoy it too!! Xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Sparklylife]

Thank you so much, I appreciate any advice and totally agree that I need to try to focus on the positives! X

[hifer]

Congratulations!! I know it’s so hard to take in. I would really recommend counselling- that’s a great idea. I started counselling after my second miscarriage last year and have continued all the way through this pregnancy as anxiety levels have been very high. I honestly would have been lost without it. You’ve got this far and you can certainly do this xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to hifer]

Thank you, I'm going to ask my clinic if I can start counselling x

[soccerkt6]

Congratulations! This really is such lovely news! xx

[cazchoc]

I was just thinking about you 😀. It didn't feel real for me till nearly the end of pregnancy. I didn't buy a lot till later. My Mam thought I wasn't excited enough. I was scared and worried it still wouldn't happen was very excited inside. She found it hard to understand. I started yoga for bump n me early as I could. This helped me loads with planning for pregnancy and my breathing. Hypnobirthing was good too. We still do yoga now together. Enjoy the rest your week adjusting and relaxing. Excited for you. Xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to cazchoc]

Thanks so much, I'll look at pregnancy yoga - sounds like a good way to bond. I'm still on a knife edge about the 6 weeks scan but hopefully I'll be able to calm down when I've seen a scan on the 20th x

[cazchoc in reply to LegoBatgirl]

I will be thinking of you. Definitely great for bonding too. I developed a play list on you tube of positive birthing stories, favourite music, relaxing music, hypnobirthing relaxation and sleep tracks. Played all through pregnancy and still play songs with my little one now. She loves Take That now hehe 🤣 RuthSabrosa.com helped me to be calm for hypnobirthing. I saw her in 2019 at a baby event. I have done things since on line. Xx