probably miscarriage 7weeks and :(

[Sea_tan]

Always wanted kids for as long as I can remember. Married late in life. Husband also kids-loving. Prayed very hard and did everything (food, reducing toxins, not carry heavy things). Scared of needles so the egg retrieval process is painful to me. Had our first BFP, very happy, my husband happy. We were overjoyed when we saw heart beat at 7 Weeks but now at 8 weeks scan we're told embryo is small and there's no more heartrate. I know many of you may have done IVF more times than me but everyone's different, it's been tough for me... Also know the chances for older mothers like us are very slim... Don't know why I'm posting this... Probably just sharing with you all in the same boat... Words of encouragement, advice, feedback or Wisdom are welcomed.

[Jess1981]

I am so very sorry. I've had 4 losses one was at my 20 weeks scan and it is just the worst words you can hear no heartbeat 🥲 let me reassure you it is absolutely nothing that you did wrong it is nature sometimes it doesn't always get it right for reasons we don't know why. It's nothing you did wrong. Miscarriages are so devastating especially when it's such a wanted baby. I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope you have plenty of support. Let me also say just because this pregnancy didn't mean another wouldn't most ladies who miscarry do go onto have a healthy baby and I'm sure you will Xx

[Sea_tan in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you, Jess

[Hidden]

I am so sorry, I have been there and its just horrific. Take some time, sending you a huge hug. I so hope you get to go again and next time you have better luck. Like Jess says this doesnt mean that you won't get your baby xx

[Sea_tan in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[MammaMia86]

I am sorry to hear that.

I am generally a positive person except on those bad days.... and it is then when i need someone to share the positivity that i no longer have.

Don't loose hope, it is a great thing that you were able to get pregnant and they say that the older you are there are more chances for the first pregnancy to be a miscarriage. This doesn't mean that it will happen again, I am sure we will see the light at the end of the tunnel and have a healthy baby. On moments like that I try to focus on what I have and all the other things in life that brings me joy.

The reason why you are sharing this is the same reason we all do. This is a safe place, where you are surrounded by other people in similar situations. We all want the same objective and we all suffer because our path it is more difficult compare with others.

I think it is good to write even though nobody reads it at least you are expressing what you are feeling.

[Sea_tan in reply to MammaMia86]

Thank you Mammamia

[Bella_Bee]

I'm so sorry to hear it. Sending you big virtual hugs. Take your time to grieve but don't let this defeat you. Miscarriages are heartbreakingly common. And it's not just due to age, I had 2 when I was "just" 32. I really wish you the best of luck!xo

[Sea_tan in reply to Bella_Bee]

Thank you, Bella_Bee!

[JoyfulStar]

I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear this. I can only imagine how heartbreaking it must be. I don’t have any words of wisdom but will have you in my thoughts and prayers 🙏🏾

[Sea_tan in reply to JoyfulStar]

Thank you, JoyfulStar! I still remember our last conversation on adoption and surrendering to God

[JoyfulStar in reply to Sea_tan]

So do I. I will pm you something that is on my mind.

[Sea_tan in reply to JoyfulStar]

Please do.

[Squeak1955]

Bless you, it’s a hard process but draw on the support of this group, they share everything you are going through, the knowledge of these ladies have drawing on their own personal experiences is endless, so don’t be afraid to ask anything at all

[Sea_tan in reply to Squeak1955]

Thank you

[Beatrix_K]

Just wanted to say sorry sea_tan 😔 xx

[Sea_tan in reply to Beatrix_K]

Thank you

[ashalez]

Hi,I'm so sorry to hear this😭😭Just let you know we all are same boat, you are not alone,look after your self.

Sending you virtual hugs xxx

[Sea_tan in reply to ashalez]

Thank you

[Daughterofaking]

Look after yourself, you will get your baby by God's grace.

[Sea_tan in reply to Daughterofaking]

Thank you, Daughterofaking! By Grace

[Tiddly1984]

So sorry to hear of your loss. Some things in life just shouldn’t happen. Hoping that one day soon, once you’ve grieved, you’re able to hold a child in your arms, close to your heart…x

[Sea_tan in reply to Tiddly1984]

Thank you Tiddy1984

[Miracolo2]

Really sorry to hear that! Even if I haven't experienced this directly, I can imagine it's devastating. Hope you'll have your baby rainbow soon. It's a good thing that you got pregnant though. I am also one of the oldies trying desperately to conceive. Just started my last IVF. X