BFN💔 End of our IVF journey

[Laura3101]

BFN on test day today, I couldn’t sleep so was up at 530am testing! We made the decision before this last FET round that we wouldn’t do anymore after this. We have had 5 transfers in total. 3 fresh ones and 2 Frozen including a double embryo transfer. We are extremely lucky that our 2nd fresh round worked and we have a daughter & although we would have loved a sibling for her we cannot justify the expense & the hard work on the body of doing any more rounds. I hope you all get your long awaited BFPs soon 💗

[Lovemylion]

So sorry to hear to hear you've reached the end of your journey without the outcome you've hoped😢 it's just so so hard at times. I'm so glad you have your baby girl. I'm also TTC a sibling with no luck so far and if these next two rounds don't work it's likely to be over for us too.....like yourself I don't wanna keep wasting time money and emotional energy on rounds. Wishing you all the best as your family of 3. Xxx

[Laura3101 in reply to Lovemylion]

Thank you, yes I feel bad that she will be an only child as I am one of 4 sisters so I know how good it is to have siblings (albeit annoying when your younger ha ha) but I think to concentrate on what we have rather than what we don’t have is the best way forward. We can make sure we give her the best we can x

[Jess1981]

I'm so very sorry it wasn't better news , but I think that you've made the right decision for your family tho it can't have been an easy one, you definitely gave it your best and that has to be good enough. I wish you every happiness with your family and hope you can now find peace in time Xx

[Laura3101 in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you, yea definitely as much I didn’t want her to be an only child and have a sibling I don’t want to spend money on ivf after ivf which then in turn may mean she misses out on things that we otherwise could have done with her x

[XOXO13]

So sorry 💔 this journey is so tough, both physically and mentally and anyone going through this is a real warrior with so much more resilience and strength than they ever know. You’ve done amazing to go through everything that you have, and you’ve made a brave decision that I’ve no doubt was a difficult one. I’m so pleased you have your baby girl to love and snuggle 💗 wishing you so much love and peace for your future xx

[McQueeny]

I’m so sorry, and impressed with your strength like you we have an IVF baby boy and trying for a sibling. We had a FET from our last frostie that didn’t work, we are now going for IVF again - see how we do, but like you we won’t try forever. Enjoy your baby girl and wishing you a wonderful future xx

[Laura3101 in reply to McQueeny]

Yeah we had a FET then a fresh round and a last FET but we had to draw the line somewhere and think the money on ivf could be spent on doing things with her (we wanna do Disneyland etc when we can) and that money on ivf means we would have less for the family we are right now x

[McQueeny in reply to Laura3101]

Absolutely. We’re totally in the same position. We’ve paid for two rounds in advance with a multi cycle - but if those don’t work I think that will be it for us… we’re not getting any younger nor richer, and we have our gorgeous little boy so we have a wonderful future to look to no matter what ☺️ As much as I’d love for him to have a sibling he’ll have a great life even without one , as will your little princess x

[Hidden]

So so sorry to hear this 💔 I can understand your decision. I would say certainly don’t rule it out of ever happening… not to give any false-hope, but I’ve read so many stories about people giving up and then falling naturally. Stay strong and look after yourselves xx

[HemBella]

So sorry for your news xxx

[Maui2020]

So sorry to hear about your bfn. We have also had 7 failed transfers since our ivf baby in 2018. I thought I would have the strength to keep going for that sibling but we may also have some decisions to make over when to stop and I’m becoming more accepting of this. Our life is at stand still as we’ve been putting all of our spare time and finances into this. Wish you all the best and hope you have some peace that you did what you could xx

[Laura3101 in reply to Maui2020]

Yeah we felt like we had to have that end decision set so that we knew we would give it our best and if it didn’t work then we tried. Don’t get me wrong if we had a win with money I would carry on & I wouldn’t say no but I’m just not prepared to use what we do have said now. My Hubby said if I wanted to he would go with what I thought but it’s defo hard work emotionally every time it doesn’t work x

[Givemesunshine1]

So sorry Laura3101 Like you say it’s definitely exhausting & I can understand not wanting to carry on. Wishing you the best XX