Advice for staying positive during the TWW?

[starviolet]

We had our transfer this morning and only 1 embryo made it to Day 5 transfer. It was graded 5CC.

I felt so excited at the transfer and I cried happy tears knowing our little embryo is inside me now.

But since I’ve gotten home, I’ve not been able to stop crying (sad tears) because of our low graded embryo.

The last thing I want is to be sad right now.

I want to stay positive and hopefully until OTD.

Any tips or advice for staying positive ?

[Catlady12345]

Ah congratulations for getting to transfer stage, so many women don’t, so there’s number one positive thought for you. Try and take no notice of grades, if it’s good enough to transfer it has every chance to work. I’ve had 3 top grade transfers that haven’t... so honestly I wouldn’t focus on that. Just enjoy the two weeks until you test, I know it’s hard but there’s nothing you can do to control the outcome either way. Good luck to you and your lovely little embryo xx

[LegoBatgirl]

I had the same thing after my first transfer, I couldn't stop crying for days on end. Just sitting on the sofa, watching Grey's Anatomy and weeping like mad. The embryo didn't stick unfortunately but I learned a lot about my mental state under stress and the impact of all the hormones!

I haven't found a way to be "positive" but I've found it helps to stay busy and distracted, instead of wallowing and watching TV I now go for walks, go to work and trying to do projects like sorting out my clothes or makeup to keep my mind off it.

Hope you find something that works for you x

[Glasgow1981]

Hey, I had my transfer today, like you only one made it this far. We can keep each other company ☺ have you been given a date to test yet?

[starviolet in reply to Glasgow1981]

Awww sending you lots of baby dust ❤️❤️❤️My official test day is 28th of April

How about you?

x

[Glasgow1981 in reply to starviolet]

I'm not sure tbh! My day to day treatment is at a local clinic and I have to go to a specialidy unit for egg collection/transfer and I've been given different dates by both. Ldo one says cheap dip test they gave me the other says use a clear blue. I'm going to ring the clinic today to ask what I'm supposed to do. X

[Glasgow1981 in reply to starviolet]

My test date is 28th too!

[Jane8412]

I'm sorry you are feeling this additional stress at what is already a very emotionally taxing time. It is so hard to stay positive but please try remember that embryo gradings are tough because you can get a great graded embryo that doesn't stick and a poor one that does. There are so many stories out there of this happening. My first transfer was of a good quality day 5 4AB. Unfortunately it didn't stick and I started another fresh round of IVF on my next cycle. Unfortunately this cycle went poorly and we only got 1 egg that fertilised normally. On day 3 they said it was looking average and they couldn't predict if it would make it to day 5. I went for a last minute day 3 transfer and had low hopes due to the quality. I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with my average embryo and all looked good on 12 week scan. It is tough, but please try remember there is always hope for the lower graded embryos and they wouldn't transfer if there wasn't a chance it would work. I hope you start feeling better soon. Sending you lots of luck xx