11DP5DT BFN 👎🏽

[Londongirl84]

Looks like I’m out. My nurse has asked me to carry on taking my meads for another two days and to retest but I think that’s the end of this transfer. Gutted, I kept having dreams last night I tested and it was positive. I had convinced myself that it must of worked as I was feeling nauseous all day yesterday. How long do you have to wait to try again with another frozen transfer?

[XOXO13]

So sorry 💔 it’s so difficult when it doesn’t work out. I waited one cycle before I started my second FET. So I had a withdrawal bleed after stopping meds, and then started new meds on CD1 of my period xx

[Londongirl84 in reply to XOXO13]

Thank you! Okay that’s not too bad. Just don’t know if I should take a break. The process is so exhausting. Xx

[XOXO13 in reply to Londongirl84]

It’s so exhausting. For me personally, I can’t bear to take a break and I like to keep going as soon as I can. Even waiting a month leaves me impatient. Go with your gut, if you need a break and you’re okay with that then definitely take one 💛 xx

[Idril]

Oh no, so sorry. I was reading one of your comment because it happened the same thing to me when I had my positiv before, vivid dreams etc. This time nothing and my hope are not very high, test day is Wednesday but I also thing it's going to be BFN as I have no symptoms and loosing a bit of blood. I haven't waited very long after a frozen cycle last time, just a month also but it ended up in BFN so I don't know...

[Londongirl84 in reply to Idril]

Good luck!!! Really hope it works out for you when you test. It’s so hard mentally and physically but I suppose you just have to keep trying. Xxx

[Lovemylion]

Ah no 😔 sorry to hear about your BFN. They suck! You sound like a positive person and raring to go again so go u! 💪💕 All the best xxx

[Londongirl84 in reply to Lovemylion]

Thank you lovely for your message! I see you are in your TWW!! Hope it goes well for you! Good luck!! Xx

[Lovemylion in reply to Londongirl84]

Thanks hun. Yes, torturous 2ww, so full of hope and despair at the same time. Only a 2 day transfer so am not getting my hopes up. Natural to try and protect ourselves as much as possible in this process. Hope you've got a nice bottle of wine and a takeaway planned tonight! Xxx

[Londongirl84 in reply to Lovemylion]

TWW is the worst! You never know it might be the one. I’ve read a few stories where there have been positives with day 2 transfer. 🤞🏽

I wish I could have wine. I have to carry on with my drugs and retest on Wednesday. I know what the result will be but I’d probably best wait two days. Xxx

[Lovemylion in reply to Londongirl84]

Ahhh I see. Well I guess two days isn't long then you can have some treats. Thanks 😊 you just never know I guess. Xxx

[RhinoCat]

Awh no 😏😣 sorry to hear this. Sending hugs. 😘💐💐💐 The pain will ease, just cry when ya need to and take all the help and support you need to 😘💐💐💐💐💖💖💖💖

You can go as soon as your mind is ready 😘💖💐

[Londongirl84 in reply to RhinoCat]

Thank you Rhinocat! I’m sorry to read your transfer didn’t go ahead. I can’t even cry, I just feel empty. Xx

[Londongirl84 in reply to Londongirl84]

God that sounds so depressing doesn’t it! 🙈

[RhinoCat in reply to Londongirl84]

It is what it is. The pain is real. I hope your tears come soon so that you can process, feel and step on. Massive hugs to you this hard day 😘💖💐

[RhinoCat in reply to Londongirl84]

The trauma of it all is real.

We just reach saturation point with the despair of it all. 😘💐💐💐💐💐 I get it. I hear ya. Sending love 😘💐💐💐💐💐

[Londongirl84 in reply to RhinoCat]

Thank you! That’s so lovely of you. 💜💜💜💜

[Bernie150781]

I'm so sorry to hear this, maybe your test wil suprise you x x

[Londongirl84 in reply to Bernie150781]

Hi Bernie! Hope you are doing well!! Thank you. Hmmm I don’t know. My glass is half empty right now 🥺 but you are right I should keep my fingers crossed until Wednesday. Xxx

[MakingbabyN]

So sorry. 😓 we had a few tears in our house over the weekend but now getting ready to go again. We have one poor quality embryo left which apparently we have to use before we can do another egg collection 🤷🏼‍♀️ Because I had a natural FET I can go with this cycle, so it won’t cause any delay and I’ll plan to start stims on the next bleed assuming the transfer doesn’t work 😩 xxx

[Londongirl84 in reply to MakingbabyN]

Hope you are okay! 😔 It’s so hard isn’t it. You never know your last embryo might be the one. I really hope it works out for you. Until then try and enjoy the sunshine that’s coming this week! Xxx

[MakingbabyN]

Hope you’re ok too 💕 what a roller coaster it is. I’m trying to not be a negative Nancy but it’s hard! Xxx

[Elizabeth1988]

I’m so sorry! The wait is just horrendous and it seems so unfair after that time to get a negative. Really thinking of you. Sending you lots of hugs. Xxxx

[Londongirl84 in reply to Elizabeth1988]

Thank you lovely! Xx

[Hidden]

So sorry to read this.! Do test on OTD as I have read some stories on here of late implanters . My clinic want to wait 3 months between cycles. Defo check with your clinic as I know some ladies start the following month xx

Lots of love and well wishes for u x

[Londongirl84 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your kind words. Xx

[Millbanks]

Hi lovely, so sorry to hear about your BFN. I always have totally messed up dreams too when in the 2ww -it's so cruel! I always find the progesterone makes me feel a bit nauseous too.My clinic likes me to have a withdrawal bleed then start on my next period CD1. So you're probably looking at 4 weeks before you can go again. Do you have some frosties? xx

[Londongirl84 in reply to Millbanks]

It must be the progesterone then! It’s so cruel!! 😩😩 I have five frosties left. I have the fear that non of them will work. Just realised I’ve been TTC for two years this month and that makes me really sad. Just remembering how excited I was to try and never thought It would be this hard. Where are you with your Ivf journey? I saw that you also had a BFN not long ago. 😢 Hope you are doing okay! Are you starting a new cycle or do you have some frosties? Xx

[Millbanks in reply to Londongirl84]

It really is so cruel - but 5 frosties is great! There is a really good chance that some of those will be normal and will stick don't give up hope!It is really hard when you think back, but I try to think of it as just a different stage of life - it's something that I have to go through and whether it works or not I will always appreciate the chance to try and the growth in me that has happened as a result of it.

Yes it was our 5th BFN - which was hard but we only just had an ERA test done so all our previous transfers had been at the wrong timing - so I was really hopeful but it's likely that it was an abnormal embryo.... We are doing embryo banking at the moment with the aim to PGT-A test as many as possible. I don't want to do another transfer without knowing that we have the best possible chance. I've also had my immune panel tested and both myself and the hub have had karaotype testing done (which checks our own genes for abnormalities) - so hopefully we'll be getting some answers at least!! xxx

[Londongirl84]

That’s a lovely way to look at it.

I’m sorry to hear this has been your 5th BFN. Looks like you are taking some positive steps. Can I ask what an ERA test is? I think it’s sensible to do the PGT-A test. I just feel like it’s pick n mix. It would be good to know that you are only transferring good embryos. They should offer that for everyone as standard. I wish I had done it. The thought didn’t cross my mind. I’m guessing you can do the test once they have been frozen? Xxx