Is it all over? 11dp5dt bfn

Hi ladies,

This is actually my first ever post on here (although I find this forum to be a huge help in this wild and crazy ride called infertility). I just turned 39 last week and have low AMH for my age. My honey and I have been TTC for 2 years, starting fertility treatments last fall.

After 3 failed IUIs, this is our first round of ICSI/IVF. Egg retrieval was in early March just as all the Covid stuff started to hit the fan, then the clinic closed for three months shortly after. We ended up with two 4AA embies, that were both transferred on July 9.

At first I was just so happy that our embies we’re finally ‘with’ me, but the 2ww has been so challenging. I have my beta tomorrow but was going crazy with the waiting, feeling lots of symptoms (cramps, sore breasts, back ache one day, very tired). I decided to test this morning to prepare me for results tomorrow (if I receive them at work). Sad to say it was a stark white, BFN on Clearblue test. 😭.

Feeling overwhelmed that will all be over tomorrow, and we will have to start from scratch (if we even can, financially). I live in BC, Canada so there is no funding for fertility treatments. This all just feels so hard and unfair. How anyone gets pregnant naturally is amazing! I really thought this was going to be our turn.

Anyone had bfn 11dp5dt then gone on to get bpf? Needing some hope today!

Side note, sending lots of love to all you warriors out there! Your posts help me feel less alone along this journey. Hugs from Canada 💛🌸

[liz35]

Hi.

I'm from England I've gone through IVF 4 times. Each time having different feelings in the 2 week wait! The meds we take can give us period/pregnant like symtoms. It messes with your head. Everyone is different, there is no hard fast rule to how you should feel.

But the one rule is don't test early! Please just try to relax. Going through this is enough, try and make it easier. I know this is hard.

I always waited at the end of two week wait to test. I hope for you that it is a positive but if not please don't lose hope!

I can happily say that IvF does work as i now have a lovely 17 month old baby. I was 39 when he was born.

I think knowing of people who been on the journey you are on and had a positive result helps to give hope! I truly wish the best for you! Stay strong.

If you want to talk, contact me. I'm happy to listen and answer any questions. We are all in this together.

Take care.

[Hidden in reply to liz35]

Thank you so much for the kind words. I am devestated to say that our blood test came back negative. The doctor said to stop taking the medications. Feels so overwhelming to get so close and it all ripped away. Somehow feels even more brutal that there were two in there and now they are gone. Man, this is just all so hard. Tests you in so many ways. Back to square one now. 💔

[liz35 in reply to Hidden]

I am so sorry!

Yes this is very hard! Apart from my first go. I always had two embryos put in. Even on the one where it worked i lost my sons twin at 9 weeks.

I'm telling you this so you know I know how hard it is. I have been where you are. You are not in this alone!

Let yourself grieve because it is grief that you are feeling. Grief for what might have been.

But plan something positive for you and your other half to do. Go out for the day...anything! This does help.

Around every go I always try and have something planned with my hubby. So its not all about ivf.

I must be mad because I'm going to put myself through all this again, as I'm lucky to have 4 frozen embryos!

Don't lose hope! You've got this!!!

[Hidden in reply to liz35]

Thanks so much liz35 ❤️ Great advice there, and thanks for sharing your story. Onwards we will go! Best of luck to you on your journey. X

[Seha04 in reply to Hidden]

I’m also in the same boat as you. Feeling so down. Now I’m just waiting for my menses to come.

[Hidden in reply to Seha04]

Aw, I am so sorry to hear this. It is heart breaking and feels so unfair. Do you know how long after stopping medications that AF usually arrives? Mine has not come yet. Sending you all the love. X

[Annakabana]

hello,

I am in a similar situation. I am 34 but with low ovarian reserve and after our 2nd ivf with the highest dose of medicine we only managed to have 1 low quality embryo.

I tested yesterday at 11dp3dt with a pharmacy test (in the afternoon, because I couldn't help myself) and it was bfn. I haven't told my husband yet, my beta test is on Thursday.

This is so draining. Sending you hugs from Greece, it's nice knowing that we are not the only ones dealing with all this stuff.

[Hidden in reply to Annakabana]

Sending hugs back to you and sending good vibes for your test result. 🤞🏼