FET - Early testing pro's and con's? 2WW

[SupportTeam77]

Hi Everyone,

First time poster... my wife is currently 6DP5DT (FET transfer). This is our 3rd transfer, with the first two failing. Saturday is the day we've been assigned for a home test. After the two tries, neither of us can imagine anything but a BFN unfortunately.

The wait is killing us. I've seen a lot of people on here do test early despite all the advice saying not to. I understand the risk on a fresh cycle given the trigger shot, but with a FET...

- If it's a BFN on a 7DP then it's fine there's still time as it's an early test

- If it's a yes then that's stopped 3 days of unnecessary worrying

- If we test daily and they are no's constantly, it will help prepare us for the no

- No risk of a false positive given a frozen transfer

Are there any negatives to this I've not thought of?

And secondly, if this is bad news, my wife will be devastated as with a lot of people it's been a long road. Any advice on what I could do on test day to help would be really appreciated.

thanks in advance.

[MissSaoPaulo]

I look at it a bit differently:- If you test at 7dpt and get a negative you're no further forward and still left wondering if it's just too early, but you're left deflated and less hopeful.

- If it's a yes then you might well want to keep testing to check it's not a chemical and drive yourself crazy comparing lines.

- if you test daily and it's a no, then every day you're taking away that bit of hope you had that it would have changed.

But that's just me. I've done a couple of transfers and have always preferred to just get the straight answer with no room for doubt on the official test day. I feel like I'd be torturing myself slowly testing early, but I know a lot of people find it less difficult this way. Good luck whichever way you decide to do it, hope you get your positive xxx

[SupportTeam77 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Thank you, that’s really helpful, and you’re right. I think we will wait!

[Millbanks]

I have mostly waited until at least 9dp (my clinics official test date is always 10dp) but the one time I decided to test early (from day 4 onwards) the stress levels were insane. I had a faint positive on day 5/6 then nothing, then another v faint positive on evening of day 7. Then nothing after that. It was so stressful and I just felt all over the place. I decided after that that the only reason I would test early again would be if I noticed a symptom that made me think it had worked. Otherwise I just take it one day at a time and don’t think about the possible outcome. This helped a lot. Good luck for Saturday xx

[Millbanks in reply to Millbanks]

And to your 2nd question ☺️ It’s never easy to deal with a BFN but what helps me are a) getting out for a walk b) my husband telling me that we’ll get there, we just need to try some other things... I need to hear positivity and start to plan next steps. This isn’t for everyone but it’s what helps me most. Also a big glass of wine 🍷 xx

[SupportTeam77 in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you! We’ve decided to hold off testing until day 9 (our clinics recommendation). You’re completely right, I think I’m just impatient 😆. I’d better stick up on wine just in case!

[RhinoCat]

I Would just wait and then either way your answer will be right minus all the extra anxiety of testing early. If it’s positive amazing ish (then starts the worry until scans etc) if it’s negative, crushing! But recoverable ! It’ll just take time and support from you! 💐💖😘

[Savs]

Don’t do it! Wait til test day. You drive yourself mad if not. The extra few days of not knowing is so much easier than an early bfn and the anxiety of the few days following.

[Ranchu90]

I am am early tester and I don't blame myself for that. If I wouldn't have tested early I wouldn't have known that 3 transfers in the past ended in a chemical pregnancy. All these chemical pregnancies needs to be addressed as it can be something wrong with your body that is probably rejecting the embryo. My clinic changed each time the protocol and this time, the 4th one we been successfully, so far - we are 6 weeks pregnant tomorrow and all because of my early tests. I am not advising you to test early but I am just sharing my story from where others can also learn. Hope you will have a positive outcome. By the way the anxiety doesn't stop on the OTD when test is positive, it goes on and on... long time after that ❤️🤞

[SupportTeam77]

Congratulations!!!! That is a really good point, as nothing is more frustrating than being told “sometimes it just doesn’t work” multiple times.