2WW Help

[Krystal_43]

Can't believe I'm actually posting this, but here goes.

Just finished my 3rd fresh round of IVF. This time they retrieved 9 eggs, but only 4 became embryos, 2 turned to blast and they were transferred on Wed afternoon.

So now I'm in the 2ww wait and despite all of my prep for this (meditation, saving episodes of drag race to watch), I am losing my god damn mind.

It's so weird, I just feel nothing (no niggly cramps that I can tell myself are implantation, no "heavy feeling down there" that you read about on the forums) and am just convinced it hasn't worked. Like I just feel it in my bones - but I'm only 2dp5dt so I'm being insane, right?

[Millbanks]

Yep! It's easy to say but symptom spotting won't do you any favours. Everything can mean that you are pregnant and everything can mean you aren't. And nothing can also mean you are pregnant.... What I find most helpful is to take it one day at a time. Don't think ahead to what it would be like if your test is positive or negative. Just be. Good luck! xx

[Krystal_43 in reply to Millbanks]

It's mad isn't it? Last week I was telling myself everything you have written and was like "I can do this" - and now I am crumbling! Two days even! I'm sure I at least made it to Day 5 last time!

[Millbanks in reply to Krystal_43]

Haha yes - it's so hard! I also try to think that whatever happens I will be ok - I will survive and I will get through it - no matter how awful. I know that sounds super negative but it's about preparing for any outcome! x

[Krystal_43 in reply to Millbanks]

My partner says exactly the same! I know I’ll be okay but sometimes - it really does get to you doesn’t it? thanks for the pep talk

[Millbanks in reply to Krystal_43]

It really does. You’ve got this! Stay strong x

[Mohai in reply to Millbanks]

I am taking it the same way, hope for the best and get ready for the worse

[Mohai in reply to Millbanks]

I agree, the best way is to take it each day as it comes. I am on day 13 after D3 embryo transfer and don't think ahead and any symptoms can be either positive or negative so don't even think about them. After 3 X rounds my motto is hope for the best and get ready for the worse as we all agree this is extremely hard for everyone. Keep it up and everyday as it comes.

[Jonesy84]

Hi lovely, having no symptoms doesn’t mean it’s hasn’t worked as this happened to me. No symptoms what so ever and I drove myself silly googling what symptoms I should have so by the time I had tested I had long ruled myself out. I was wrong when I seen the positive staring right back at me. It’s hard especially with lockdown as their is not a lot to try and distract the mind but keep the faith!xx

[bbti]

I think it's completely normal for you to be thinking like this, the 2ww is really hard and no matter how much you tell yourself to not symptom spot you can't help it! One thing I found helpful was to put my thoughts down in a notebook. I felt like I passed them onto the paper somehow which made me feel a little better. Also at the end of each entry I would try to write 3 things that I am grateful for in life, helps focus you on positive thoughts. Good luck with everything xx

[Jam-master]

Yes lol. But that’s completely understandable!! When we start meds and go for scans and all that, we feel that we’re at least doing something. When you get to the 2ww you basically do nothing so that does make you go crazy! That’s why our minds race with symptom spotting or lack of. I know I’ll be the same in a few weeks, doing my 3rd FET. But I am already trying to just take one day at a time and concentrate on that as I’ve already started to loose my mind lol.xx