Title says it all. Second FET and its negative. I did have hope but this journey is going to be a long and gruelling one.
I'm so tired of negative result after negative result. IVF was our big guns and it's kicking our butts. I don't know what to do from here. We'll keep going but I feel pretty defeated and I know my husband is feeling it too. Three embryos of excellent quality and only one chemical to show for it.
Back to egg collection *sigh* TTC has already consumed so much of my life! I want to get to the next level already! LOL
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It is painful...that balance between hope and disappointment is exhausting. I am already considering if I need to look at DE. I am 38 and we have spent over 3 years working with essentially no sperm...and then the last 6 months in IVF. I'm getting older every month and while we wanted to have two little ones...I am just hoping so hard that we can get one. I'm not greedy, just sad and desperate! LOL
Egg collection crippled me last time and I have put on so much weight from these treatments that I worry hubby wont find me attractive as I'm finding it incredibly hard to feel attractive when nothing fits anymore! So I am terrified of the next cycle but also desperate to start it. The contradictions never end.
I'll soldier on and get that next cycle started the instant my doc says it's ok. Another 20k out of our savings. It's so much money to keep throwing at something with no guarantees. I'll keep doing it but sheesh...I am jealous of those people who make love and get their free baby! XD
It is the worst process ever, with no guarantees!!
Don’t lose hope, is all we can hold on to!
I’ve just gone through failed FET and it did break me. I’m feeling a bit better being back in work, which is a helpful distraction.
I will be going through the whole process again now at the end of March. I just feel like our life is on hold at the moment and it literally consumes my thoughts 24,7! My husband is brilliant, bless him!
Thanks Chiefly xxx I'll do my best! And then it's onto the next cycle! 😁🙄 I am in AWE of the ladies further along in their journey. I just hope I have the stamina! In 5 months I have had an egg collection, three failed transfers and 1 cancelled transfer. So I've spent 4 of those months popping pessaries and taking needles...and I'll be doing it again next month if I can manage to work out a new cycle with my clinic in time! Crazy days! 🤪
It’s a tough journey... we spend a lot of time worrying about BFN and what we don’t want... we need to focus on BFP and what we DO want... and imagine our babies in our arms as if it’s reality TODAY. Energy flows where attention goes. Meditation and blessing our amazing bodies that look after us, being grateful goes such a long way to relieving my anxiety. According to neuroscience we need to have a clear intention (electrical field) feel the positive emotion linked to it (magnetic field) to form the electromagnetic field - and let go of the outcome... the law of attraction. Easier said than done, but I’m trying to work on this aspect. Mind over matter. We can control our exercise, the thoughts we have, the nutrition we eat... and then we have to leave the rest to a higher power / nature/ God/ universe...keep positive xx 😘🙏💕
That is so sweet of you! Xxx I'm just trying not to think of it and I've written up a big list of jobs that I can do around the house now that I'm not pregnant. I'll keep myself busy and "nest" for hubby and I. I'll also need to work out a list of questions for my FS when I finally get an appointment with him. I may change clinics but I literally have a choice of two and felt like shooting myself for being "ancient" when we visited the first specialist. Going back to her makes me want to shrivel up and die but a lot of her patients feel that way - she has a terrible reputation for being incredibly depressing to couples. When I'm so "spoiled for choice" it's hard to know if I proceed with my clinic or go back to the other one 🤔
I'm so sorry to hear this.. I completely understand how you feel, seeing negative test result never gets easier 😣
My wife's going for her 2nd egg collection at the end of march she's so nervous about it 🙁and I've got ERA test booked in for 2 weeks. The cost of everything is hard along with the emotional stress and constantly putting your life on hold.
You will get there ❤️ I have everything crossed for you xxx
Good luck to you and your wife!!! 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞 I have a profound respect for people going through IVF. This stuff is SO HARD and until you're in the thick of it you really can't understand the hope and heartbreak of each transfer. Those negative tests...I honestly thought I'd become immune to them after 3 years of monthly negative tests! 🤣 But IVF showed me! I'm already psyching myself up to accept going down the DE rout when 6 months ago I was downright POSITIVE and excited that IVF would work for us! How naive I was! 😅
It sucks. My 3rd transfer just failed. I thought I wouldn't feel as sad this time as I'm almost getting use to failure. But no it hurts all the same.
I'm sorry you have to start from scratch. This transfer l had was from a new cycle. But hopefully it will lead to a great outcome.
Lol I was hoping I'd be able to offer more happy inspiring words. At the moment I'm more likely to swear and cry. But all I can say it sucks but there's a great community on here and things will feel different for us over time x
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So I am terrified of the next cycle but also desperate to start it. 
The contradictions never end. 
BFN again 😥 
Second embryo transfer Bfn again
D12p5dt BFN again 
