Hope!!

[Rubytasier]

Hi,

I’m just reaching out to get some positive advice and stories!

I’ve been going through fertility treatment for over a year now. I have had 4 failed IUI transfers, 1 full failed IVF cycle and I’m now onto my next IVF cycle.

This journey has been the most emotional journey I’ve ever been through...I want to go into this next natural embryo transfer next week with a clear, hopefully and positive mindset but I’m really struggling to keep motivated.

If anyone can give me any advise or stories on how I can change my mindset, that would be greatly appreciated!

[F_J_762301]

Hi Rubytasier,

Sorry to hear you have not had any positive outcomes with your treatment so far. This can be a long and tiring journey. I have been having fertility treatment since Nov 2017 and was also on clomid prior to that. Sometimes I dont know how I keep going! I try to put my mind off it in between treatments but in the run up like you are now it's hard to think about anything else! Just wanted you to know youre not alone ❤ I distract myself with box sets, films, reading, music, baths (before transfer only) and these all help me to feel relaxed. Best of luck for your next cycle! X

[Rubytasier in reply to F_J_762301]

Thank you so much for your reply, I can’t imagine how your holding up...your certainly a strong person to keep motivated and keep going! It mad how much of a mental rollercoaster is it! I really appreciate you messaging and I’m glad I’m not alone going through this..I’ve definitely been taking some baths and watching plenty box sets. I’ve also been trying to listen to podcasts to see if that helps but it’s really hard. I hope your doing ok too....I appreciate your reply to my message! X

[Lovemylion]

Hi Ruby. O bless u. There is most definitely hope! It is such a hard journey! From my understanding IUI's have about 10/15% of working each time so it's pretty common to have multiple failed rounds so do not dispair. IVF is higher success rate than IUI's on av 33% a go (depending on age/egg quality/sperm etc) but can also take a good few goes. So perhaps see the IVF route as a new journey rather than accumulated failed rounds. Quite often the first round is the taster to see how your body responds to the drugs etc. Have u had a follow up consultation to see what can be done differently next time? Xxx

[Rubytasier in reply to Lovemylion]

Hi, I really appreciate your reply. I do feel like it will happen at some point, but it’s wearing me down every time when I really feel I should be getting stronger to hopefully help it! In my first IVF round I only retrieved 2 good eggs, which both failed in fresh transfers. I’ve been for my next egg retrieval (I went on different medication) and I got 4 eggs this time. I did a fresh transfer after retrieval but it didn’t work out.

Your right, I really need to try and think this is a new egg, different month and really try and think this is a new round. It’s really tough!

Appreciate your message, thank you

[Lovemylion in reply to Rubytasier]

Yes that's a really good mindset to get into. New egg, new opportunity. Sounds like a positive step forward with 2 more eggs on the second round. Plenty of people with low amh get pregnant on here! Just to give you some perspective... we have low fertilisation issues....even though I have had plenty of eggs collected. I had 16 eggs collected last time and only 1 fertilised and that one is my 19 month old. Goes to show it really does only takes one! Also important to have an honest discussion with your consultant. Donor sperm has been suggested to us on a number of occasions but we pursued with my partners sperm and we got lucky. We're trying again for a sibling and hope we get lucky again but we also know our odds....we can only try 🤞🤷🏼‍♀️ xxxx

[Sweatsour]

Hi Rubytasier, you are a very strong person and I will keep my fingers crossed for a positive outcome with your next treatment. I underwent ICSI IVF treatment at age 38 last June and currently I am 37 weeks pregnant. Throughout the whole process I tried to focus on staying positive. I listened to guided meditation and mantras every day, I was visualising the positive outcome and in my head I was talking to myself, my body etc to support this whole process, I.e..growing eggs, supporting the embrios after the transfer, etc. I know it may sound strange but in my case it worked. I was also going for walks as much as I could in Covid lockdown and I was gentle with myself. I know it is hard as the fear always appears at some stage but I tried to overcome it with the techniques above. At the end of the day I applied the approach that I am trying to do my best, I may not be able to control the outcome fully but I will give it the best shot and trust that everything will be fine (in my life in general, not only with the pregnancy if you get me). Sending you lots of positive energy. Best of luck.

[Masief]

Hey Rubytasier, I am 40 (nearly 41) started at 39 and have had more fails than success. However very early days I just got a BFP and I agree with Sweatsour on positive thinking, yoga and mediation, trusting your body and taking it easy. I feel this has helped me. It's amazing that your second round yielded more eggs! Every little victory like that must be celebrated. I know too well how doubt can creep in but that won't help, I have learned that over this journey so far. Good luck xx