Donor eggs

[Cheeky_84]

I had a call today with the clinic after 2 failed cycles, they gave suggested thinking about donor eggs for our 3rd cycle. Anyone have an experiences, I am so scared xxx

[Cinderella5]

We used donor eggs and am currently pregnant. Feel free to ask me any questions on your thread or privately if you prefer.xx

[L400ynd in reply to Cinderella5]

Omg!!!!!! Cinderella!!!! This is amazing news. You were such a help to me when my cycle failed and I followed your journey until I decided to take a break from all things ivf. I didn’t know you were pregnant. This is wonderful news!! How far along are you? Xxx

[Cinderella5 in reply to L400ynd]

Thank you!! We are 22wks along with twins!! Still cant believe it to be honest, not sure when it will sink in.🤯😳 Amazed and very happy though. If there is anything you need please just ask!xx

[L400ynd in reply to Cinderella5]

Oh that’s amazing!! I’m honestly so chuffed for you. I prayed for you so many times. You’ve had such a hard ride. I couldn’t be happier for you. Xxx

[Cinderella5 in reply to L400ynd]

Awww thank you, that's so kind of you!xxx

[Cheeky_84 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank u so much, I don't even know where to start, feel like I can't take it all in xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Cheeky_84]

It is a lot to take in. I was 38 when we got told DE was the best option forward. They said we basically had a 5% chance of success with mine. I was getting around 1 to 2 5 day blastocyst per cycle. To be honest I was a bit devastated even although I kind of expected it. There is a bit of a grieving process to go through. Like I say if I can help then dont hesitate to ask.xx

[ToughCOOKIE78]

Hey Cheeky! I’m also pregnant with DE..my inbox is open ask away! 😃💋

[Cheeky_84 in reply to ToughCOOKIE78]

Thank you, just don't know what to think just now x

[ToughCOOKIE78 in reply to Cheeky_84]

It’s a personal choice I made after 3 failed cycles and 1 miscarriage at 10weeks that broke me. After the miscarriage, I’ve done one more cycle but the two embryos we got were both abnormal. Some people keep going on and have more cycles, 5....7....and maybe at the 8th one they get pregnant. But personally, I couldn’t put myself through such mental and physical hell when I know there are other options out there that could help me fulfil my dream quicker and with less trauma (and less money!) ❤️

[L400ynd]

Did they give you a reason why they suggested donor eggs? Reason I ask is we’ve had 2 failed cycles and they haven’t mentioned donor eggs to us for our 3rd cycle. Sending lots of love xxx

[Cheeky_84 in reply to L400ynd]

They said as my first 2 cycles failed, could be the same with the 3rd as possible.egg factor x

[L400ynd in reply to Cheeky_84]

Good luck with whatever you choose to do sweetie. 🤞🤞. Xxx

[Ivfgotadream]

Personally I think 2 cycles is a bit soon to right off your eggs but depends on age and specifics of what happened on your first 2 cycles. I’m pregnant with twins after 5 cycles with my own eggs x

[Cheeky_84 in reply to Ivfgotadream]

I go on advice from them, they said possible egg factor, 2 failed cycles and I m 36. Congratulations, thats fab x

[fay2399 in reply to Cheeky_84]

I also think at 36 you might have good eggs! I’m moving to donor egg but I’m 43... chance is slim after 40

[minnesota_girl]

Hi Cheeky - I'm in the same boat as you - I've had two failed cycles at 41 - with 'mediocre' embryos that didn't make it to blastocyst so didn't even get to transfer. I've gone through a bit of a grieving cycle on my own eggs - what I'm doing is I have a longer-term plan to start with DE in the summer (as there's less time pressure with this, so I'm giving myself that break) - I'll start with potentially using my younger sister's eggs - but if that doesn't work will probably go abroad.

But while we wait for that to come to pass, I've been relaxing, resting, and will try one more cycle on ICSI next month to see if things improve. That will be our line in the sand.

What I find is I'm more okay with DE now that I've been through this - none of us are getting our perfect circumstance and it's okay to grieve for the things that we can't have, and won't go the way we expect - but I've decided that if what i really want is to be pregnant and a mother, it matters less that the baby is 'me' and more that the baby is mine but that's a hard process to work through xx