*sensitive* 7 week scan measuring small

[ButtercupGarden]

Hi ladies, just been for my 7 week scan. It was measuring behind at 5+6 and they couldn't find a heartbeat. They told me there is small chance that it is just a slow developer but that I should prepare myself that it is probably a miscarriage. I'm heartbroken. This was my first FET and I felt so lucky to have got pregnant. I'd tried desperately hard not to get excited but I couldn't help it.

I'm so sad. Are there any stories out there where an embryo has been this far behind and not miscarried??

Sorry as I know this is an awful sensitive topic, I'm so sorry to anyone else who has been through this.

[Daffodils140]

Hi,

I’m so sorry. It’s completely understandable that you get excited, you can’t help but get excited as soon as you know you’re pregnant. When have your clinic said they will scan you again? Hopefully in a few days so you don’t have to wait too long? Keep on medication and drinking lots of water in case you do fall into the category of a slower developing embryo.

In my situation, unfortunately I saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks and 8 weeks but the measurements were small and by 9 weeks there was no longer a heartbeat.

Sending you love and strength, it’s a horrible, unfair situation x

[ButtercupGarden in reply to Daffodils140]

They suggested rescanning next Thursday (so a week later) but also took bloods yesterday and will take bloods again on Monday to see whether HCG levels are still rising. They really didn't seem very positive though. If HCG isn't rising I think they will diagnose miscarriage. I've already been sent an email about dealing with miscarriage from the clinic so I'm assuming the chance of good news at this stage is very very small. It's so sad.

[Roobs33]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is such an awful anxious time. This journey is full of so many highs and lows ❤️

This happened to me in March at my viability scan. They saw a heartbeat at 7+3 but I was measuring 9 days behind. I googled everything I could and even called the clinic to ask again their opinion on what they thought the outcome would be? Are you being rescanned next week? They just said to prepare for both outcomes but I felt like I knew it wouldn’t be good. I was rescanned a week later and they could no longer hear the heartbeat then. They said it was likely due to chromosome abnormalities. I was also offered the EMMA/ALICE tests which I had a few months later to check the bicrobiome of the womb.

I’m sorry I don’t have a better story to share with you. There are obviously exceptions to this and I think some babies can measure a bit small and be late implanters.

Sending lots of love xxx

[ButtercupGarden in reply to Roobs33]

I'm sorry to hear your story and thanks for replying. Rescanning next Thursday which feels like an eternity away, and having bloods in the meantime which might show HCG no longer rising in which case we will know it has stopped developing. It all feels so horribly unfair. I'll look into those tests you mentioned.

[Roobs33 in reply to ButtercupGarden]

It’s such a horrible wait until the next scan! It’s like torture. I’m so sorry you’re going through it and I hope you’re able to distract yourself for the next few until you know exactly what’s going on next week. Sending love xxx

[Kitca]

All my love xxx

[Meems22]

Hi Buttercup, Im so sorry you're going through this. Sadly, Im currently in the same situation. I went for my first scan on Monday, should have been measuring 7.5 and it was 6.5 or 6.3 (cant remember it was a blur). Ivf baby so dates should be bang on. She also said that the heartbeat was laboured/slow and so I should expect the pregnancy not to progress. I was pretty annoyed with how black and white she was with it all, but I guess thats just how they can be. It would have been helpful if a consultant could have been on hand to come and talk to me in more detail about it, but unfortunatley I only have nurses available at scans at my clinic.

Im going back in on Monday for another scan, so have spent the week filled with sadness, preparing for the worse.

I guess I can only hope for a miracle.

I hope you get yours too. Sending love xxx

[ButtercupGarden in reply to Meems22]

So sorry to hear you are in a similar situation. It's just awful. My bloods from Thursday showed relatively low HCG levels so I'm almost certain that it is no longer developing. I'm at a wedding this weekend and I just want to hide away and not talk to anyone. Having people ask how you are and having to say "fine thanks" and make small talk is horrific. Best of luck on Monday with your scan. Hoping for the best for you xxx

[Meems22]

Its just all so sad. Gosh I can't even think about socialising right now..hate small talk at the best of times! do what you need to do to get through this wedding..if you need to get "some air" or "go to the loo" etc multiple times for a breather then do that.. It might also be a nice distraction for you. See how you go. Just be kind to yourself and do what you need for you right now. Take care xxx

[Daffodils140]

Hi, I just wondered how you got on at your scan today? x

[ButtercupGarden in reply to Daffodils140]

Hi Daffodils. thanks for checking in. It wasn't good news I'm afraid. It hadn't developed at all and still no heartbeat, so they confirmed it is a missed miscarriage. I've been told to come off the meds and wait for it to pass naturally. It's all so sad but in a way I'm relieved to finally have an answer. The last week of waiting has been so unbelievably painful.

[Daffodils140 in reply to ButtercupGarden]

I’m so sorry to hear that. Very sad and unfair. Sending you lots of love and strength. If you want to chat or have any questions please feel free to DM me, mine was also a missed miscarriage and I opted for a natural miscarriage rather than having surgery. Lots of love x