Has anyone decided against treatment

[diehardbear]

Hi, put a post up yesterday but I was just wondering if anyone in this group has ever decided not to go ahead with IUI or IVF, we don't know what our options are yet but was just interested to hear other people's decisions and how they decided x

[Millbanks]

Hi hun, for us it was an easy decision as I've had both my tubes clipped so we won't ever get pregnant naturally - but I can understand that there is lots to explore before you decide. IVF can take over your life, but for me I felt that it has brought me and my husband closer together as we plough through it. There are a lot of emotional and financial implications, but I find that it's best for me to try and take it one day at a time. Good luck with your decision xx

[diehardbear in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you, im just quite apprehensive about it being clinical and taking a toll on us. How did you get on have you started your IVF yet x

[Millbanks in reply to diehardbear]

So my husband does my injections which is nice as he feels involved too. It is quite clinical but there is also a magical side to it. I’m on my 3rd cycle so am old hat now! Xx

[diehardbear in reply to Millbanks]

Fingers crossed this is the one x

[Fertilityjourney]

Hello. I didn't want to go through IVF whatsoever and was pretty distraught to realise I needed to. But I agreed with my husband that we'd give things another 6 months naturally seeing a natural fertility specialist and if it didn't happen - I'd do it.

I saw a counsellor to help me come to terms with it before starting treatment. Our clinic offers 2 NHS funded sessions.

I must say it haa been much better than I thought. Yes it is tough, my husband had to do my injections and I got horrible side effects during down reg. But it has brought us closer together and I have felt we're moving closer to having our family. Xx

[diehardbear in reply to Fertilityjourney]

Thank you that really helps, hope we are able to see the specialist soon to find out what our options are x

[PenguinBlue]

Hi, we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Our clinic suggested we could start with IUI first and then if that didn’t work after a few rounds then to move to IVF. We were told our success rates for IUI were 10% and IVF were 50% so for us we decided to not do IUI and go straight for ivf as the chances of success were higher.

It’s definitely a journey but like the other ladies on here have said, it has really strengthened our relationship and have to say I think we are in a much better place now than we were 3 years ago to welcome a baby (fingers crossed!) xxx

[diehardbear in reply to PenguinBlue]

Thank you that really helps, good luck xx

[Ivfgotadream]

I also had no choice as lost both tubes to ectopics but we decided to go first with short protocol IVF so no down regging thus reducing time on drugs from 6-8 weeks to 2 weeks and then to natural modified IVF- even less drugs and whole process over in about 9 days. We got our best results with natural modified Don’t feel pressured that “normal” long protocol IVF is your own option as there are lots of different kinds of IVF which involve less drugs, no side effects, less invasive and gentler on the body (and mind) x

[diehardbear in reply to Ivfgotadream]

Thank you that really does help x

[Andrea1521]

My husband and I chose not to try again after doing one round of IVF (ICSI) on a long protocol. We needed IVF due to my husbands low sperm count. We sailed through most of the IVF and I got the pregnant but had a missed miscarriage which was just weeks of complete torment and heartbreak. We just couldn’t face that possibility again. I also suffered with mild OHSS just before egg retrieval, my hubby found this really scary to deal with seeing me so ill. We also had to self fund as I was over age 35. The one round cost about £8k whilst this wasn’t the biggest deciding factor to not try again it was a consideration. We are glad we tried as it was something we said we would do and I think we would if regretting not doing it. We have accepted it was just not meant to be but we gave it a good shot. Good luck

[diehardbear in reply to Andrea1521]

Thank you, sorry to hear it didn't work out x

[SRA8]

We did 2 pretty disastrous rounds of ISCI. Then looked into donor cycles and adoption. We decided we wanted to try and optimise everything as much as possible before considering any more treatment as our results were so bad. We found a naturopath got more thorough investigation and natural treatments (which actually made me quite sick) but improved my husbands sperms so much we got pregnent naturally..

I'm so glad we couldn't adopt and things worked out in the end.

[diehardbear in reply to SRA8]

Thank you and congratulations ❤

[Hidden]

We didnt get offered any treatment I had had 2 children in my 20's my fiance has no children, we had had 3 mc so got reoccurring mc test and basic fertility tests. Apart from low amh pretty much due to age (I was 39 at the time) everything else was fine. We were told pretty much go away and keep trying as we've a better chance conceiving natually, as for ivf they would suggest donor egg so I felt we'd come to the end of the road. My fiance didn't want to have ivf anyway I think for cost wise as we'd have to self fund. But I think everyones situation is different if I'd had no children I would have ivf regardless of the cost at least 1 go. After that appointment we had 2 chemical pregnancies then that was it for me I started moving on from ttc I was 40 and had been ttc nearly 3 years it had been a miserable time but I finally started putting it behind me and accepted we wouldnt have a child together I did really feel bad for my fiance but what could we do. We have since conceived again naturally in September I'm currently 15w+1 all going well so far.

[diehardbear in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for replying and congratulations ❤

[Savvy_teapot]

I am in a similar situation to you and just having pre tests before discussing with consultant what our options are. Also trying to support my partner as much as I can. Mine has other stresses so this is another thing on top of those. Also had arguments about things unrelated but I think it is kind of a cause of the fertility issues and feeling disappointed. It's ok to feel sad and angry that it may not happen the way or when you planned. I also think as I haven't gone through all the tests like ultrasound and hsg we may find other issues related to me. Hopefully not though!! I have decided to be open minded. I am terrified of all the tests and problems that could occur. But just going to decide once the consultant has spoken to us after these tests. We don't have a lot of spare money around so hoping for the NHS funding. Feel free to message me if you want to talk further.