Being pregnant

[Bluelady-sing]

Did people come up to up you when you were pregnant? Given what I having to go through I don't want people coming upto me they can take things for granted, I can't

[cmbxm]

I’m not too sure what you mean? I’ve not had any issues with anyone taking my baby or pregnancy for granted, they’ve acknowledged the struggle if they knew the full story and the shock of me actually being pregnant initially because we never thought it would happen but most people are just happy there is a baby and can’t wait to meet her, I’ve not experienced any negativity just positivity

I don’t think anyone would be deliberately rude about your pregnancy and take it for granted, strangers don’t randomly come up to you and ask questions (at least in my experience) but children and pregnancy is generally a celebrated thing, not something that’s frowned upon especially after fertility issues, so I wouldn’t worry and if it does happen you just explain how that comment has made you feel and ask them to be more considerate in the future x

[Bluelady-sing in reply to cmbxm]

I am so desperate trying for oy makes me feel worse.This day 9 - 12 bleeding a bad sign J think,

My sister in law just had two pregnancies in 18mth. Now saying they can not afford I am pissed of

[cmbxm in reply to Bluelady-sing]

I’d definitely speak to your GP about mid cycle spotting, I’ve experienced this but I have endometriosis, I get brutal ovulation pains and often bleeding and I was convinced this was a bad sign but apparently it’s normal for some women and my GP ruled out anything sinister which put my mind at rest. You’ll feel a lot better once you know what it means for sure too and won’t be worrying if it is a bad sign or not.

I’m sure your sister in law doesn’t mean it in a malicious way when she says she can’t afford her kids, if anything I’d sit down with her and explain comments like that upset you because she’s a mother that’s had two pregnancies in 18 months and you’re hoping for just one pregnancy and it might be worth just asking her to be a little more considerate towards your situation especially when talking about how hard parenting is and the cost of raising children if it’s upsetting you xx

[Bluelady-sing in reply to cmbxm]

Thanks xxx

[Bluelady-sing in reply to cmbxm]

When I am pregnant you will be the first to know

[cmbxm in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Can’t wait 🥰

[Bluelady-sing in reply to cmbxm]

I don't want people coming up to me

[cmbxm in reply to Bluelady-sing]

I doubt anyone will, but if they do just make it clear very clear it’s not a topic that’s open for discussion and they aren’t allowed to pry, you don’t have to talk to anyone about anything you don’t feel comfortable discussing especially to people just randomly approaching you and catching you off guard xx