Low day...too many celebrity pregnancy announcements

[Prayingforafamily]

Having a real low day after hearing another celebrity pregnancy announcement after IVF. It’s so difficult as I don’t wish infertility on anybody and do wish the best for people going through it... but I really struggle with celebrity announcements esp when they have had IVF. On one hand I praise them for highlighting their fertility struggles but then ... I always think... they have endless amount of money to use... access to the best care and consultants etc that their journeys are so unrealistic!! I hate the phrase ‘ we would never give up’ ... some of us have no choice...... I hate myself for feeling like this. ☹️

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I can relate to this. This last month i had at least 4 instagram announcements. Everyone is getting pregnant. Even girls i know for a long time and saw them grow up! Many colleagues on mat leave as wel and i see bumps everywhere as soon as i open social media. Its hard like you said as some of us need to fight for one extra blood test. Dont feel bad though lovely. If one thing i have learned in these 4 years is that no woman that wants a baby is coming from a bad place. Keep your head high xx

[pelvicpain123]

Sending you a virtual hug ♡

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Prayingforafamily. Oh dear, so sorry you are feeling so down just now. Of course it is more than difficult when you have been on this journey for a while now. Some of these celebrities you speak of, I have spoken to on the Support Line, and believe me they are in a mess too most of the time. the makeup and smiles is just for the cameras, and yes, some do achieve their dream of having a baby, but you must think of you, not them. Switch them off or turn the page, and put yourself first. You are not a nasty person, you want the best for others too, so just keep some hope for you too, as I will, along with the ladies here. Thinking of you. Diane

[ashbb]

I can relate a lot. Family gushing over the little ones in my family is so so hard. I often think "why can't it be me and my wee one they gush over". I'm good at wearing the mask and being a doting Auntie but it's exhausting and just makes me sad.

It's rubbish you're feeling so low but know you're not alone and the wave will pass again xx

[LizzieBW]

Hi fellow warrior, I've noticed your posts over the time I've been on here and although I am just about to start my first IVF from Covid delays, we've been trying for 5 years come January so just wanted to stop by and say that pit of the stomach sick feeling, weight of emotional turmoil, I really relate with pregnancy announcements.

It catches me so unaware. I'll feel absolutely fine and then new news it's like a kick in the gut. Last announcement I was stood at a checkout in a supermarket and my Husband (yes, my own Husband!) innocently says "Oh I forgot to tell you our friend X is pregnant, I found out last night" then his face dropped....he realised what he'd said and where. We try to be normal but younger, newly married friends get married & fall pregnant at the drop of a hat. Lovely for them - so, so happy they aren't put through the torture of infertility but my god it cuts deep, as a reminder it's still not us.

Lots of love to you xx