This is my 4th cycle and third transfer. It’s been 3.5 years with two losses. Does anyone wonder if there’s a limit to how much pain you can take? I feel like one day I might just drop dead from too much heartache.
There’s not much point to this post. I’m just pissed off and mostly so so sad.
Oh Mary I am so sorry to hear. We keep going because we still want a little babe but I totally understand how you feel about the limit of pain you can take. Every month or failed cycle feels like we can’t take more but we fight through.
I hope you have the time and space to grieve for your loss. It feels a bit silly to say don’t give up hope when we always feel so let down but I hope that your hope will come back to you when you’re feeling ready again. Enjoy a good glass of wine tonight Xxx
So sorry, every step back/complication/failure is another piece of heartbreak. I think many of us know that question of 'can i do this anymore?' Everyone will have to figure that out for themself, but lots of love, support and self care is best until you know what you want. Take some time, treat yourself and care for yourself in whatever way you can for the time being. Lots of love x
I’m so sorry, this is such sad news. I keep reminding myself that the pain of stopping the fight will be more heartbreaking than all the continuous bits of heartbreak endured on this journey, and it keeps me going. Look after yourself while the heartache is at it’s peak. Thinking of you
Im so sorry to hear of such sad news for you, lovely 💔😩
Im currently sat in the bath, with a face mask and some candles trying to make sense of why some things are so much harder for some of us!
It never gets easier, it always hurts and it forever makes us feel alone but if we are all alone, then we are all in that together too ❤
I know that no words can help, so be angry, be hurt, be sad and then pick your strong, resilient self up and start again! You have got this you absolute warrior!
Sending all my love and luck for the future 🍍🍀🤞
I'm sooo sorry to hear this 💔 I can't imagine how you are feeling .. life is cruel. Take some time for yourself, allow yourself to be sad.
You have got this, and you can do it. One day hopefully soon ..everything will be worth the heartbreak you are feeling right now.
Keep fighting for what you want.. and don't give up, in the end you will have you little miracle❤️❤️❤️ xxx
I’m so sorry. I too have dealt with non-stop heartache for 4 long years. I’m just so damn sorry. 💔
Hi
I m so sorry for your grief I can understand because I have gone through this but alhamdullah my 4th one worked and I m now 15 weeks may Allah protect this amin... So don't lose hope 4th one will be lucky for you as well... Best of luck for your next cycle and at the moment just relax yourself. ♥️
So sorry for your loss. Sending strength. It amazes me how much resilience people going through infertility have, outsiders have no idea of the trauma involved. You’re amazing! ❤️
I know exactly how you feel my lovely. But I just wanted to say please don’t give up hope. It will happen.
I have been through it and I do have a gorgeous little boy now. Baby no 2 is proving difficult but I am so lucky to have my son through IVF.
It’s worth fighting for. It will all be a distant memory once you have your baby.
Please don’t give up xx
I am so sorry 💔 Sending you a big virtual hug.
Hi there,
Well unfortunately your human!
Being pissed off is caused by you!
The only way out is to start to view events/feelings in another way.
Bloody tough!
But you can, meditating, tell yourself/your Brain. The thing is with all feelings we learn them so, a flight response. I found talking to myself when I felt my brain behaving this way was a way of talking myself out of a feeling/mood.
I have read up on the brain, pain, feelings. My first surprise on physical pain when I attended a Pain Clinic for my Chronic Pain was, the brain learns pain so even when it's not as bad tge Brain will tell us it is bad!
The specialist explained that given enough space between pain when it's only acute will tell us its slight and varied. Unfortunately Endo pain, feelings in thought can result in illness and depression. This applies to all thoughts and feelings.
Generally making yourself happier in other ways, spending less time thinking about a subject you can change the links in your brain to your learnt behaviour.
One exercise I learnt with depression was to stand in front of a mirror and force large wide smiles 5 at a time holding them for a few seconds while telling myself it was a lovely day, that I was happy/ lovely/relaxed/calm. At first it felt stupid but after a few weeks it started to work.
Just chill a bit. 🍸
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I see how you feel, many women get pregnant without even trying and we are so helpless 💔
I know how you feel. I've just had the fourth fail. I think that we must be close now, we've come so far and done soo much hard work that we can't be far away.
Stay away from triggers (social media!). Plan the next move, and enjoy this time alone with your partner because it may change soon. Keep hoping. It's just a bit harder for us but it will happen im sureX
Thank you so much for all your kind works. Xxxxx I’m going to take a break and have some more investigations done
I am so sorry for your pain, no words can describe the inner turmoils that fertility struggles bring, but with every step and every tweak to your cycle/transfer you are making positive changes and throwing your arms out to welcome that child that awaits you. Stay strong, keep believing, don't give up .. when there is a chance its worth keeping that dream alive! Now is the time to speak with a new Dr, dig for some answers, make investigation, also are you having PGS? Maybe consider this also. I don't know your diagnosis or your age but maybe something has been overlooked. You got this!! Hugs x
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