Anyone else pregnant but anxious

[Clairelee86]

I feel so full of emotions right now. Its took 3 yrs & ivf to get pregnant, I thought as soon as it happened I would be buzzing and all my years of worrying and being upset I would finally get to put behind me, as I would of gotten the one thing I'd longed for. But I still can't shake the anxious feelings that it's going to be snatched away from me. I had a viability scan 6w5d and all was good, measuring 7mm and a heartbeat. I thought great now I can stop worrying, but i cant! I'm now 8 weeks and I feel fine, I'm physically fit and mentally I've been pretty good throughout the ivf process, up until the 2ww n then I've struggled & had ups n downs since. I've got no morning sickness, my boobs look a tiny bit fuller but apart from that I don't feel overly tired or any of the other symptoms I keep reading I can expect, ive got 3 other friends who are all pregnant too, who do have all the "symptoms" and I feel like there must be something wrong that I don't. I want another reassurance scan but my partner doesn't and has just told me to chill and that everything will be fine and keeps telling me it's our time at last. My best friend had a missed miscarriage and I keep reading things about them and I keep thinking is this what's happening to me?!

Is anyone else 8w plus and having no symptoms or feeling like this?

[Yehong78]

I’m 7.5 weeks and no symptoms except sore boobs from time to time. I only feel reassured every time after the scan and seeing the heartbeat! Many of my friends said I should feel lucky, but I do feel worried from time to time! I guess we just have to deal with this stress! Good luck

[Clairelee86 in reply to Yehong78]

Thanks and congratulations on your pregnancy!! 🎉id love to be one of these super lucky women who sail through their pregnancy feeling great and bypassing all the morning sickness etc. I just don't know if I am that lucky. It's like a minefield of emotion in my brain 🤯xx

[shia123]

Congrats clairlee to get pregnant and this feeling of consciousness is also apart of ivf as we are so vulnerable and little thing can make us so scared and worried as I am also similar like you and now 29 weeks pregnant but still panicking and hoping everything is fine, the midwife was talking to me last week and she said it’s precious pregnancy as they call ivf pregnancy a precious pregnancy and maybe the reason is how difficult way we got pregnant and ofcourse it is precious and that’s y we are feeling very anxious at every step, May Allah bless us healthy and happy babies ameen

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Clairelee. I think you need to stop reading stuff and listening to your body too closely, and look forward to your first scan, which will reassure you. Not long now until you get to meet your little "bean" and marvel at his/her heartbeat. Hope all continues to go as it should. Diane

[CLDxxx]

Hey Claire,

I feel you! I had a viability scan at 6+6, told myself relax now, didnt. Had another scan at 8+5 again told myself to stop worrying, then my 12+6 one said the same thing - guess what? Still worrying 🤯

I have felt well except tiredness which I wouldn’t wish on anyone as it’s like being hit by a bus 🥱 but my friend didn’t even have the tiredness and all was well with her pregnancy.

I’m now 15 weeks, no bump and feel so normal. I guess we are all different so try not to worry - even pregnancy websites say no symptoms are normal!

Please try not to read about the negative things and believe all is ok. Not long till your next scan now.

I know it’s hard believe me but try and enjoy this time & the fact you’re not feeling poorly 🤗 💕

Xxx

[Bunnywoo]

12w+1 here, i had my 12w scan yesterday, showing a happy bouncy wriggly baby, but i still feel so anxious all of the time. I've had absolutely dreadful morning sickness (24/7 sickness they should call it!), but also huge bleeds, and have a large haematoma sat just above the baby. I'm terrified I'm going to lose this baby. Usually the 12w scan is the point people announce their pregnancy to the world but i just feel I can't do that yet. I'm thankful every day to be pregnant, but I'm just so scared our precious baby will not make it. So sorry i have no helpful advice really, but just wanted you to know you're not alone in your worries, big hugs xxx

[Peony85]

I can completely relate. I am 5+4. I think I am particularly anxious because I had a MMC my last pregnancy, and so I am both hopefully awaiting and dreading my viability scan in 1.5 weeks. Sometimes I feel optimistic and remind myself each pregnancy is different, and then I start freaking out. I feel like I’m being completely bonkers as when I have no symptoms I worry that there is nothing going on but when I do have cramps and aches which are supposed to be normal I what if this time they are a bad sign 🤦‍♀️ Anyway just wanted to say you’re not alone. Wishing you the best for your pregnancy xx

[Corchi]

I worried with my son until u held him in my arms and I had the control. Same for this pregnancy. It’s a weird semi detached feeling. Protecting me I guess ... after so many miscarriages and hardship it’s difficult to enjoy but try it’s also truly magical this life growing inside us

[Sorax]

I’m 28 weeks after first successful cycle and I still worry everyday, I won’t be happy until he is in my arms. But please try and enjoy it it’s so easy to google everything and compare yourself to other peoples pregnancy’s but everyone is soooo different. Try keep busy and relax and sometimes staying of the web and apps helps as it deffo made me more anxious🤦🏽‍♀️ xxxx

[ashalez]

Congratulations ♥️♥️♥️Don't worry Clair I know it's hard to say then done 😒speak to your friends and family keep your busy watching movies play board games.

Look after your self lovely

[Lucyhannah1]

I also spent 5 years trying to get pregnant and fortunately am pregnant on my first round of a frozen cycle. I am 33 weeks and I am still anxious! I had a couple of private scans in between for reassurance which made me feel better as like you, I didn’t have any symptoms. Some hospitals are different but because I had ivf I have extra scans anyway so I had a scan at 28 weeks and another at 32 weeks.

Once I started feeling the baby moving from 22-23 weeks I found this reassuring however I don’t think I will fully relax until I have her in my arms! X

[Clairelee86]

Thank you all for your kind messages, it really has helped. Im on holiday for the next week camping in woolacombe so im hoping the fresh sea air and time away will help me relax a little. I'm seeing the midwife on the 23rd so I figure I may as well speak to them about how I feel as well, as ultimately I suppose they are there to provide support and guidance and she was absolutely lovely on the phone during my 1st appointment and very excited its an ivf baby 🤷🏼‍♀️ thanks again all and congratulations to all the ladies who are pregnant xx

[ashalez in reply to Clairelee86]

Good to see You have a very good plan take care xxxx