How common are first time embryo transfer successes?

[Net25]

Hi girls getting my head around the fact that other than an actual official test day negative, my first transfer didn't work. Though devastated k, I am trying to be pragmatic going forward. We have 2 frozen blastocysts waiting after this. I think my main question is, how likely was it that id have been successful on this attempt? Am I in the majority for it to failed, the minority or somewhere in between?! I'm 36 with an amh of 14 and one miscarriage after conceiving naturally last October. Any insight from you girls would be great just to get my head right!! Xxxx

[Rach82]

I think it is sadly all a game of chance, the figures for live birth success first time average 22%. So you are in the majority, I also got bfn first time.

Chance varies depending on age and use of donor eggs, etc. You can get details on the hefa website if you're willing to trawl though the data.

But don't be discouraged! Get rested and then get back in the fight because (no apologies for the cliche) we are all warriors and we can do it!! Xx

[Net25 in reply to Rach82]

Thanks so much for the reply. Yes you are right. I think I got confused because on our first consultation I was estimated at having a 35% chance of success per cycle and then, after my blasts were made another consultant told me I'd have a 50% chance implantation. And those two figures to me seem to vary widely. And then you're absolutely right, when I look at the hfea website it looks close to being 25%. Totally confused! But I guess one thing these 3 figures have in common is that they are massively involve chance and luck! Xxxx

[12356]

My first ivf was successful, my Son will be 2 next month, I think is God and a game of luck too.

Wishing you all the best

[Net25 in reply to 12356]

That's a lovely inspirational story xx

[Sorax]

My first ivf was in March I’m now 20 weeks due in December 🤞🏽🤞🏽I still won’t believe it until I have him in my arms xxx

[Net25]

Best of luck hun x

[Ivfgotadream]

I think 1st time success is very much the luck of the draw. Took us 5 egg collections and 4 transfers

That being said I have the worst track record compared to anyone else I know who has had IVF and they’ve all had success on their first round

[Net25 in reply to Ivfgotadream]

Thank you for your reply. That gives me some hope 🙏xxx

[recidwen]

I am 30 and have had 2 fresh, 2 frozen and about to embark on my third frozen. Some are lucky but for the majority, it takes time. Xxx

[Net25 in reply to recidwen]

Thank you for your reply... We will get there!!!! Xxx

[Hidden]

Hi There, I’m 40, 3 past natural miscarriages and I did my first round of IVF in March and success rate was only 11%. We had only 2 viable eggs to implant, none to freeze and only one of the 2 were at good stage. Happily we are now 20 weeks with a little girl so like the others have said unfortunately it is down to luck. When I started the only way my husband and I could deal with this was to think that as the odds were so low more than likely it was going to fail and this felt like the kindest way to deal with it on our hearts. I have always thought it is easier to fall from a small height rather than think it will work and then if it didn’t be absolutely devastated if it didn’t. I hope your next round is your round 🤞

[Net25 in reply to Hidden]

That's a lovely happy ending for you. Thank you so much for your kind reply xxx

[Peanutchips]

I think the general stats say it takes on average 2.7 goes to get your BFP, so statistically your BFP is there if you had three embryos. It’s really hard to get a BFN though. Wishing you all the best for the next go xxx

[Net25 in reply to Peanutchips]

Thank you so much. I'm so annoyed at myself for being sad when I knew the odds 😢😢😢

[Peanutchips in reply to Net25]

Don’t be, it’s totally natural to feel this way. I was devastated when my first transfer failed. I found it helpful to view it as a process and that it was still totally possible to have success on future round (I keep having to remind myself this!) xxx

[Net25 in reply to Peanutchips]

Yes I think when I shift into the mindset of this being a marathon like process with many stages, I feel better as it seems like a more reasonable outcome for one toss of the coin to have failed. Its when I zoom into the emotions of this individual transfer it feels far more catastrophic to me. So I guess, mentally the trick is to view it by taking a step back and seeing it as entire multi step process! Thank you for your words of encouragement xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Net25]

Yes I that’s really helpful and positive way to look at it. BUT don’t feel bad about feeling low, it’s still a big disappointment and really emotionally challenging. Take time to let yourself feel how you feel right now (if that helps) and look after yourself. Do some nice things just for you xxx

[Net25 in reply to Peanutchips]

😊😊😊😊💕

[Court_88]

Hey there, I did a ‘freeze all’ egg collection and my first frozen embryo transfer failed in Feb like you, I was expecting it to work out after they’d told me the chances were really good with a 5 day blasto, young etc.... it’s been really tough to stay similarly positive for the next transfer now, especially because like you most of the stories I’ve heard have worked first time. I’ve got 3 embryos left, and just trying my best to stay positive that the journey is still early xx

[Net25 in reply to Court_88]

Im so sorry to hear that. What I will say is much of they're search I've done since yesterday suggests that only 1in 3 or even 1in 4 work the first time so I would take comfort in that. Also you've got 3 frosties, one more than me I'd say that's a really good chance for you there. Best of luck for the next round. Xx

[Court_88 in reply to Net25]

Thanks so much. I will take it day by day and keep positive. I keep thinking they need to change something or do *something* differently so it doesn’t go wrong - the idea it was ‘bad luck’ that it didn’t work and there’s not much I can do is just so much harder to process! Thank you so much. Do you know when you’ll be starting again? I’m on down regs for a while so will be in Sept for me xx

[Net25 in reply to Court_88]

I think it's because most of us like the idea of control and that hard work should get us results. The reality that so much of this is chance Is a bitter pill to swallow. So I don't know officially until Wednesday that it failed but have pretty much prepared myself for this outcome. I'd like to start again ASAP so I'll speak to them on Wednesday. Please do try and take it a day at a time. This is a marathon unfortunately not a sprint xxxxx

[Court_88 in reply to Net25]

Hey I know you’ve probably heard it many times, but it’s not over until it’s over. You just never know. Wishing you so much good luck for weds, and thank you for your kind words - you’re right, will get through the marathon and we’ll get there

[Net25 in reply to Court_88]

Thank you so much lovely. Best of luck to you too 😘😘😘😘