Advice on separation

[OlsonM]

Husband moves out tomorrow after a month of complete hell trying to sort through things

Any advice from anyone who has been cheated on or going through the same would be appreciated

I have a reasonable support network but struggling with feelings and emotions. The not eating etc is also taking its toll

Xx

[Emmaxxx]

My advice is go out tomorrow and stay out until he is gone. I went through this when I was 5months pregnant with my second child. It will be hard but stay strong. Thinking of you xx

[OlsonM in reply to Emmaxxx]

So sorry, that’s just awful

Unfortunately it can’t be a clean break, we’ve sold the house so waiting for all that to go through and we have a dog too. He isn’t taking everything tomorrow, just what he needs for a bit xxx

[Beanybeanz]

I’ve been through exactly the same situation six years ago aged 29 - you are going to be absolutely fine.

I am now 35, have been with my lovely other half for 5+ years and we live a lovely life trying for our first child. You are seriously going to be fine.

Tips of things that helped me:

Chat chat chat to your friends/ family - talk it all through over and over til it sinks in what’s actually happening.

Realise you haven’t lost anything - you’ve gained a future free from all the drama that comes with someone whose moral compass is so skewed your life would’ve been horribly and unnecessarily weird through no fault of your own.

Don’t go back!!! Do NOT go back!

Book a holiday with a friend/friends/family.

Feel relieved.

Xxx

[Beanybeanz in reply to Beanybeanz]

Ooo also change your name ASAP it feels so liberating!

And take anything sentimental / expensive / dog before he does 😀 x

[User20]

Hope you are doing OK today. Sending you a virtual hug xx

[Shelleybean]

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you 🌷 It maybe doesn’t feel like it now, but you will get through this and things will be better for it. Not been through it myself, but seen a fair few friends and family split from marriages/ long term relationships and can’t think of a single one who isn’t happier with their new life. Lots of self care is in order right now. Look after yourself 💕💕 xx

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My advice is to avoid and sooth yourself as much as you can. Make plans to be away whenever he's there to move things out. Treat yourself as much as possible, and as much as you can afford (and what's allowed during Covid). Massage, mani pedi, nice walk or workout class, a movie night at a friend's place. You WILL get over this difficult time and feel better. Stay strong! xx

[OlsonM]

He’s saying I can have 50% without getting sols involved but we will see x