When move on to do it eggs?

[Chasing123]

Hey guys after 5 unsuccessful ivf cycles I’m about to start on number 6. We’ve got pregnant twice but missed miscarriages both times. We only have been able to get to 1 embie per cycle on average and my bank balance is empty. Should I make the call to move on? A bad day today with a lot of pregnancy announcements.. I’m 36 now with AmH of 5

[Melodys99]

Hi, I feel for you as I've just finished fresh cycle number 5 and I'm 37. You are really young and obviously I completely understand how financially crippling this is, I'm at least 35 grand down but have you sought a second opinion from a different clinic ? This will be the last cycle I do in the uk, I will move onto to a clinic abroad but still using my own eggs until I reach 40. My only regret is that I didn't go abroad sooner as my first consultation with a Greek clinic was a breath of fresh air and completely different experience. Best of luck x

[Chasing123 in reply to Melodys99]

Thanks Melody. Thanks so much for your reply. Sending all my positive thoughts to you! That’s a really good point it’s probably time for a second opinion, I’m a little limited as I’m in New Zealand and there’s one larger clinic but I should try a consult at the other one. I’m happy for you that that experience in Greece was so good!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Chasing. So sorry to hear that you haven't had much luck so far. However, I assume you have been put on some sort of blood thinner e.g. low dose soluble aspirin or heparin to ensure no clots form in your lining and the blood flow is good too?? If not, then it might be worth asking to give your little frostie its best chance. Thinking of you. Diane

[WeeJacs in reply to DianeArnold]

Hi Diane I’m curious about this, what is the evidence for this addition? My clinic aren’t keen to introduce anything different for our last frostie but I just feel after 3 fresh, 2 frozen and 2 MC’s I would like to throw everything at this 3BC 😘xxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to WeeJacs]

Hi. It’s just that I have heard successes following the use of blood thinners, as many early losses have been reported to due to clot formation, although I haven’t seen documentation to support this theory. See what your specialist feels. Diane

[WeeJacs in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane I was discuss xxx

[Chasing123 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane! Funny you should say this that what the doctor has just suggested! Wish I had found that could help sooner. They called it the Colorado protocol so fingers crossed! I’m feeling more positive today. Thank you for replying.

[FrancyItaly]

I’m sorry to hear about your losses. Pregnancy announcements are very emotional too, I understand that very well! Did they find out the reason for your miscarriages?

[Chasing123 in reply to FrancyItaly]

They couldn’t find any reasons which makes it harder I think! They’ve done further blood testing now including blood testing my husband but no answer. I’m feeling a lot more positive today those damn announcements all in a row get you down! Thanks for replying!

[Cinderella5]

Hey, Im so sorry for your losses and your tough journey so far! Its hard to know when to move on....its different for everyone but for us we were in a similar situation with only getting 1 or 2 embryos each time to blastocyst over a 2 cycles out of around 7/8 being fertilised....no pregnancies. I was 38/39 and my AMH was 7.19 when I started at 38. After being told the issue was more than likely my eggs they said I probably only had a 5% chance of success. Huge smack in the face but we had already been thinking about donor eggs and took the leap. I havent had success yet, many other issues to sort out but the good news was that in our next DE cycle we got really good numbers of embryos and very good grades, 6 in total which cemented we had made the right decison. We decided to go abroad too as its a bit cheaper than the UK and anonymous (including travel). Only you can know when to say enough is enough with your own eggs, there is a bit a grieving process to go through but we couldnt realistically afford to keep throwing money at my eggs and it was time to make that move. Best of luck.xx

[Chasing123 in reply to Cinderella5]

It’s so hard isn’t it! That’s awesome that you got good results with DE number and quality! I think after this cycle If it doesn’t work I’m feeling more comfortable about moving on to DE and trying the financial stress of keeping trying with no result is doing my head in! Although with DE I think the cost is similar here ( in New Zealand) I’m hoping that it could result in more than one that makes it through so at least a few chances for the same spend! Sending all my positive thoughts to you!

[Cinderella5 in reply to Chasing123]

I think its really important to know that you've tried your best with your OE before moving on which is sounds like you're doing. Eeek oh yes treatment is more expensive over there isnt it! That was what we felt, to get more embryos instead of essentially throwing our money at my OE made much more sense. All the best, hope you dont need it but happy to chat on here or privately if you need a chat about the DE thing. Good luck and thank you for your kind thoughts too.xx

[WeeJacs]

I feel u too, we are in the exact same position, 3 fresh attempts, 2 MC’s and 2 BFN’s with only 1 frostie left. We’re looking into NK cells now before making the move on our last 1. I’m 39 now and tbh have totally gave up on my eggs. Thinking of DE abroad next year. It’s souls destroying isn’t it but like some of the others says u know wen the time is right for u xxx

[Chasing123 in reply to WeeJacs]

Oh I feel for you too it’s so hard! We’re now going to try what the doctor called Colorado protocol this time with blood thinners and something else that they said can reduce the response of your immune system? So fingers crossed! I’m thinking after this cycle if we don’t get a result I’m feeling like I can move on to donor eggs knowing I tried my best. Gosh it’s difficult. Sending all my positive thoughts to you too!