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Inspiring letter to those who almost lose your hope

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Not so long time ago I found a post about doubts. Honestly, I often come across such posts and they make me cry. There is so much unfairness in the world!

People dear, do not stop and do not lose your heart! Our life is only in our hands and you are your only limits! No one except you will build it.

I will say, in my own experience, that the diagnoses can be false, the doctors can be incompetent and the situations can be complex, but you should always look for a way out.

I've been trying to conceive for a year, but nothing came of it. We went to the local clinic, had all the tests done, and the doctor said that the sperm count was slightly lowered. He prescribed vitamins and sent us home. After he took all the pills nothing has changed. We still couldn't get pregnant. We went to another hospital, where they told us that we will be able to have children only using donor sperm.

Eathan was desperate, so I barely persuaded him to go to another hospital in his home country. I am really happy that he did not refuse. Our doctor gave us great chances to have children, our OWN children, and I hope that it is going to be soon. ”

Never lose hope. I believe and you should believe

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Skye_Ify

I am 39 I have not had a period for 3yrs, doctors recently told me it is early menopause and my chances of having more children are slim. I feel shattered knowing this, I have no symptoms of EM, in fact I have not felt so happy. News has damped my fire but I am staying optimistic

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Mary80 in reply toSkye_Ify

Early menopause? Have you being diagnosed of Pcos? Becos my sister had similar symptoms as well and pains. She went to the hospital and was diagnosed of Pcos. She lost weight and was eating organic foods. She has three kids now, first child at 34 and last child at 40.

May God see you through. Pls try another hospital, gynaecologist or a specialist. Hugs

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Skye_Ify in reply toMary80

Hi Mary, thank you so much for your beautiful message. I have gained abdominal fat, and in general weight. I am trying to change my whole dietary intake.

Very greatful for your message, it has really given me hope.

God bless you and your sister that is excellent news!!

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Nickon in reply toSkye_Ify

I've read your comment and remembered one story that our Dr told us. He managed to retrieve sperm cells from a man who has no sperm. Now, his son is almost a year. Can you imagine? Sorry, nothing common with you but, there is always space for great and unexplained happenings. The same may happen to you so, don't lose your hope beforehand.

Baby dust xx

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Skye_Ify in reply toNickon

Hi Nick, really appreciate your message more than you know. I have none of the classical symptoms, and yes GP do get it wrong. All the best with your son, that is beautiful news

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Nickon in reply toSkye_Ify

Hi Mayah, I am glad that I could inspire you a bit. I think that you need to find a good clinic for the treatment or another doctor to consult with. I am sure that with the right Dr you will have a chance! And as for the overweight, I can tell you that I weighed 80 kilos and now - 58. I used a special blood type diet plus physical exercise three times a week and have lost 22 kilos. I believe in you and your success! You can do it!

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Skye_Ify in reply toNickon

Hi Nickon, interestingly I saw a baby boy waving at me profusely while his grandmother pushed him by, I somehow know I would have another child. I agree with you about having a second opinion, some doctors can be so negative, I know they are only doing their jobs but they have zero faith.

Yes, the weight is my biggest battle right now, i am jogging each morning, (snail pace) my weight is on my stomach

How is your son/daughter, how old are they now?

Really appreciate your message.

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Nickon in reply toSkye_Ify

I have no children yet. We are just trying. It was a real story from my Dr's medical practice. One of his clients had no spermatozoa in his sperm and the doctor was managed to retrieve some cells and now he has a son.

Do you have a special diet? How long have you been fighting with your weight?

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Skye_Ify in reply toNickon

I have been jogging daily as it’s something I enjoy, but my nutrition consumption is very poor, I have a baby looking bloated stomach which reduces size in the morning, I was pretty depressed a few months ago, but a lot better of lately

Am sorry, thought you had children, I pray we both do and can leave our testimony to give others hope

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Nickon in reply toSkye_Ify

Thank you, dear. Baby dust to both of us and everybody who needs this.

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Mary80

My dear you will have your own children in Jesus name. We suffered for 6years and it was horrible. Sperm count issues as well. My husband started taking proxeed plus for Men while I take proceive max for women. It helped a lot.

Your miracle is on the way.... Mum to be. Hugs

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Skye_Ify in reply toMary80

I would love to keep you posted on my journey sis, my email is iformayah@outlook.com

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Skye_Ify in reply toMary80

Would love to update you on my journey sis, my email is iformayah@outlook.com

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Core

Thank you so much for your positivity xx

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