Fertility rant

[Buisquits]

So... I know its silly to expect to get pregnant in the first month of trying. Still, I feel so disappointed...

I have severe endo. A little IVF miracle of 18 months. Had a mc in April from natural conception that I was told will never happen. Obviously as soon as we realised that we can get pregnant naturally we started trying. Got ovulation strips. Got together every day for 10 days, and 3 days after the positive ovulation test.

Today I got my period. We have done everything we can and I'm not pregnant. Why?? Was the natural pregnancy just a one off? We are booked for appointment with our clinic in December to start FET but I may move it forward now...

Why it didn't happen???

Sorry. Just had to let it out.

[Fingerscrossed34]

Just remember that in people with no fertility problems it can take up to a year to conceive so I guess if it’s happened for you once naturally it could happen again. I know it’s hard but try not to torture yourself while you wait for your FET. Always a good place for a rant. x

[Buisquits in reply to Fingerscrossed34]

Thank you.

I know all that. I know we have slim chances, if any, as my tubes are mostly blocked. It's just ssooo annoying knowing I got pregnant naturally. And the scam was empty. Knowing others just get pregnant when they want to. Knowing I'm doing all I can i still nothing... So annoying.

[MissSaoPaulo]

I'm so sorry about your miscarriage, how awful after the lovely surprise of the natural pregnancy. As it says above and as I'm sure you know, even people without fertility problems probably won't fall pregnant the first month of trying, but it's still a kick in the teeth every month when you see that blood.

Do what makes you feel best, either pushing ahead with the FET or focusing on trying naturally but be kind to yourself and maybe take a little time to look after yourself, your loss is pretty recent still and you may be trying to push that down by focusing on other things when perhaps you need a little more time to process xxx

[Buisquits in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Thank you for your kind words. I do struggle to take time and look after myself. I tend to keep busy to avoid overthinking. Stupid habit.

[HollyT7]

Think back to how much science was involved for your little ivf bubba. I find it crazy that anyone even gets pregnant naturally! Remember that a lot of this is all down to a hell of a bit of luck! 🍀🍀🍀 xxx

[Buisquits in reply to HollyT7]

It it true! It was so tricky to get the first pregnancy! The fact that I have the boy does keep me going. I cannot imagine the pain people go through who do not have the first miracle to hold on to...