Hi all. I am new to this group. I joined today as I have been feeling really depressed at the prospect of not having the opportunity to have children. I am 36 in 4 months time and although I am dating someone it's nothing serious at this stage and I am not sure what the future looks like with him. I have been feeling really depressed as I feel like having a family is beyond my control. I have looked into freezing my eggs but the process is so expensive and there is still a chance that they won't produce a live birth at the end anyway. I don't have anyone to talk to and just carrying the burden by myself is making me feeling 10 times worse. I have tried looking for a group of women in the same situation but can't seem to find any on here. I am wondering if anyone can relate to what I am going through and /or offer any tips/ advice/support. Also if anyone can suggest a clinic that has a low-cost service of freezing eggs then that would also be good.
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Hi love. I know there are clinics where if you share your eggs, then the freezing is pretty much paid for (apart from a few costs). I don't know if that would be helpful to you? Would get the cost down significantly! Unfortunately, otherwise this "process" is expensive. We're £22k in and have nothing to show for it yet! There are lots of ways people on this forum manage it - I believe some clinics do payment plans, a lot go abroad where it's cheaper. A colleague of mine split it over some 0% credit cards - seems high risk that one. As for low cost clinics... I think I've heard abc ivf is low cost, but don't know much about it. x
Ahh thank you so much for your helpful advice. It's much appreciated. I have read about egg sharing but I think I have missed the boat which makes it more frustrating. I have only just started really thinking about this seriously over the past few months. Thank you for taking the time to reply
I would do an MOT first and then make a decision from there. They will check your AMH levels and do a scan to check everything is ok. That will give you some understanding of your egg reserve and if you have a bit more time on your side. It might be a jump, but I would also recommend freezing embryos with donor sperm as well as eggs because the success rate is so much higher. My friend just had a beautiful baby boy with a sperm donor...she hasn't looked back since x
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Oh, and treatment is half the price in Greece. So I would recommend going on holiday and doing it at the same time to save money. I can PM you some good clinics x
I was in exactly the same position as you 2 years ago and went to a clinic to enquire about egg freezing. As Anna_88 mentions, I had a full MOT. This ended up changing the direction of my life. I’ve an underlying autoimmune disease (that I’d known about by that point for a few years) and what I found out from my MOT was that it had really badly affected my fertility. Egg freezing went out the window sadly but two years on I’ve 5 frozen embryos (donor eggs and donor sperm) out in Spain waiting for me when the boarders open again.
I had one of those moments where I decided I wanted to be a mum more than I wanted to wait for the perfect relationship.
As ttcemmie says, it’s not cheap. I’m down a similar amount oF money with nothing yet to show for it (other than a heartbreaking miscarriage last year). I tried with my own eggs first knowing the chances were less than slim with an AMH of 0.4.....but I had to try and needed to know.
Knowledge is power in these situations and I constantly recommended friends to have the MOT, even if they’re not thinking about babies now.
Hey I’m not sure if this helps but have you compared costs with NHS versus private clinics? Might be worth looking into that if not. I was lucky and had my treatment funded via the NHS and they were good but everything does tend to take quite a bit longer! x
I'm not a Doctor but I have heard through different sources that the best time to freeze your eggs is in your twenties and that in your 30s is abit late. I would suggest like the others that you have fertility MOT then take it from there. But, be careful about AMH tests, my result for this came back low. But, I still got pregnant first time through IVF. I think AMH tests are controversial and are more to see what meds level you should be put on for IVF. If your new relationship becomes successful you probably won't need to go down the fertility route anyway if you haven't got any current fertility issues.
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