Unexplained infertiltiy

[Mrs_Newbz]

Hi All...

2.5 years of trying to conceive, 31 failed attempts at falling pregnant. Every month gets harder, has anyone got tips on how to not let the inability to fall pregnant literally take over your mind/life?

[Hidden]

Did you try ivf?

[Mrs_Newbz in reply to Hidden]

Not yet... we only finished all our fertility testing a few months back, the week I started the process of a IVF referral, COVID-19 happened and no new cycles are taking place.

[Hidden in reply to Mrs_Newbz]

Unexplained infertility is much better than known infertility cause.

Ivf will be successful for you believe me.

[Sorax]

Oh bless you it’s extremely hard and it’s all you can sometimes think about☹️. If you do feel like it’s taking over I would defiantly recommend counselling someone else to talk to it really helped me. Are you planning on having any fertility treatments? X

[Mrs_Newbz in reply to Sorax]

Yes... we started the process for self funded IVF just before lockdown, and obviously there is now a suspension on new cycles. It’s just so exhausting, I keep thinking I should just give, but there is this little bit of hope that won’t let me.

I have tried counselling... but I felt like it just got me even more obsessed with why is it not happening x

[Sorax in reply to Mrs_Newbz]

Don’t give up it can still happen the waiting is the hardest bit you feel like your in limbo it’s all out of your control especially with the lockdown!! I found myself feeling so much more happier when we started our ivf I finally felt like I had abit of control and doing something about it rather having to wait for doctors and testing. Even if it hadn’t of worked i could look back and say I tried instead of wondering what if. You’ve got this 💖🤞🏽💖

[Kay09]

Not knowing is defiently the hardest as you have so many questions running through your mind and the longer it is the harder it is to keep that positive vibe but like we all know wouldn't be a journey if it wasnt so damming long and hard ... even tho it's not fair that we have to wait or go through this but unfortunately that's our hand in this journey and with this lockdown I would take that as a sign to reconnect with your partner and put yourselves first as theres nothing that can be done during this covid-19 ... taking care of your self and doing things that you enjoy as you and for you is so important.... I didnt know for 3 years why I wasnt getting pregnant untill I changed doctors and those 3 years I got really obsessed with being pregnant to the point that I had to take a step back because it was getting to much and the more I wanted the more I saw others getting pregnant... it is so hard to try and see the positive and not to let it over take but as I said this would be the best time to just have some joy and nothing to do with getting pregnant of course keep doing the deed lol

I am enjoy not going back and forth for tests and seeing this covid-19 as a break a mini holiday from it even tho in my mind I am like why cant I still move forward lol but with no option to move forward holiday limbo is the best place at the moment

I know you said counciling wasnt for you but maybe this group can be ... it's nice to just be you on here and enjoying being listened to knowing what you say is being heard by people who can relate and let you have your time

Stay strong ... I am feeling much better today after so much love and support I hope you do too ❤❤

[Mrs_Newbz in reply to Kay09]

Thank You ☺️

[Love_the_mountains]

Don’t give up. It took me just under 3 years to get pregnant. I was about to start IVF and had my first private consultation when I found out I was pregnant shortly after. I honestly never thought it would ever happen, let alone naturally. Likely cause for me was low AMH. I will never forget the pain I experienced in those 3 years and can honestly say I was totally consumed by it all. I did however feel more in control once I got the ball rolling with ivf and went private -

maybe that helped me let go a bit but who knows. Try and keep yourself busy (Although I know that’s tricky at the moment), focus on other good things in your life but also accept what you are feeling is normal. I wish you all the best. Xxx

[Weareback2]

To give you some hope we have unexplained infertility. First round of ivf ended in a miscarriage however now currently 11 weeks 6 days pregnant! There is no guarantee it will work but with unexplained there seems to be a bit more success rate! Xx

[Mrs_Newbz in reply to Weareback2]

Congratulations 💜

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We were told it is more successful as we have unexplained infertility but unfortunately miscarried first round. Hoping it will work second time round. How many embryo's did you made? At what grades?

[Joy35]

Hi Newbz,

We have been trying for 2 and a half years as well and I feel exactly the same. We also have unexplained and were also meant to start IVF mid April. Then it was cancelled due to covid.

Last month I ovulated on my birthday and got myself convinced this was our month.

I don’t know why I still do this to myself.

This month is my lowest yet. I’m so exhausted with the whole thing and just want to turn it off. I think about it constantly. Like every time I eat something/drink something/do exercise etc. It’s just too much.

This month I’m not doing the ovulation tests and trying really hard to stop obsessing.

Let me know if you figure out a way to turn this off. I’d love to know xxx

[Mrs_Newbz in reply to Joy35]

I’m exactly the same... my husband told me last month I’m obsessive about it, and I wish I could just flick a switch and turn the desire to have a baby off, as it’s literally taking over my life, I link everything up to having/not having a baby. If someone/something could just tell me what we are doing wrong xx

[Joy35 in reply to Mrs_Newbz]

Sometimes the unexplained feels worse. If I knew what was wrong I could maybe try to fix it. Not knowing is making me crazy. I Need to stop reading stuff. I have tried so many things. The castor oil packs, fertility massages, acupuncture, fertility yoga, so many vitamins and supplements, diets, I even stopped using plastic!!

I also try and make my other half do these things. He’s amazing and doesn’t complain but I can tell I’m doing his head in haha.

I can’t keep living like this and I swear the next person who says if you just relax and stop stressing it will happen!! 😡

It feels good to have a rant on here tho and have people who understand.

I hope you can figure out a way to turn it off at least some of the time. Hopefully we can start out ivf soon and it give us our babies xxxx

[Peanutchips]

Hi lovely, we’ve also been trying for 2.5 years and I know how hard it is. I have some really dark days and just feel so hopeless and cut out of the normal world (all my friends are having babies around me etc). You’re not alone. For me, it’s having a plan for the next step that has kept me going (been tough since the Covid19 clinic shutdown). IVF definitely helps give hope as there is so much they can do! It’s an emotional rollercoaster but you feel like you’re doing something productive that might actually work. I bet you’ll be successful with IVF 😙

[Mrs_Newbz in reply to Peanutchips]

It’s so nice to know how I feel is normal... thank you 😊

[Peanutchips in reply to Mrs_Newbz]

It’s definitely really normal, it’s such a hard thing to go through. Be kind to yourself xx

[Florencenightingale]

It's really difficult isnt it. It takes over your life every month and when that period comes it starts the agony all over again. To stop the emotional side of it all I tried to convince myself I didnt want children (not that it worked). I finally got pregnant after 4 years but had a MMC at 10 weeks. After losing the baby it took a while but I was kinda at peace with it and didnt torture myself over it. In the end I was diagnosed with endometriosis and we had successful IVF. Wishing you the best of luck in your treatment. Massive tip.....relax xxx

[Mrs_Newbz in reply to Florencenightingale]

Thank you 😊

[CC2018]

Hi! Please don't give up hope, were unexplained for 3 years(we spent just over 18 months of that having testing done). Eventually we had 1round of IVF on the NHS and despite good results initially with fertilisation, they only deemed one of our 5 day embryos good enough to put back. We were very fortunate that it worked and we now have a gorgeous 13 month old daughter. I am now also 5 months naturally pregnant with our 2nd baby which was a huge surprise! During the time trying to get pregnant I became very down and anxious to the point I was having panic attacks and refused to see any family or friends who were pregnant or had babies. In the end I started doing acupuncture, yoga, walking more and using free mindfulness apps to help myself be calmer and happier. It really helped me xx

[k82510]

Don’t give up. I’ve had 5 years of unexplained secondary infertility, 5 years of the rollercoaster of hope and heartache. I tried everything: conceive plus, reflexology, diet, vitamins... nothing. However IVF was very successful for us, first attempted - BFP (ended in mc) second attempt also BFP - Currently 32 weeks pregnant! I am so pleased i didn’t give up. Xx