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Hi everyone I have had a missed misscarrige

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Hi everyone I have had a missed misscarrige at 7 weeks 1 day I was meant to be 9 weeks and 1 day today...

If I'm honest I had a feeling this pregnancy was not right.. why.. because when I got a positive pregnancy test I was bleeding for 7 days.. then my bloods were not doubling...but then I got a heartbeat at 6 weeks.. at 6 weeks it measured 4 days behind.. but was told it's normal.. from then on my instinct was telling me that something was not right...but as days went by I got a little confident.. but still my instinct was saying no something still feels wrong... So... Went for a scan today to check and was told there was no heartbeat..and baby was measuring 7 weeks 1 day thing is I had no bleed since I was like 5weeks and 4 days... There was no bleed no pain just mother instinct... So yea missed misscarrige... I will be miscarrying at home natrually... And then try natrually straight away as the nurses said that's when fertility is high... We have 4 frozens left blastocysts..so if we ain't caught natrually by the time clinics are open we will have a fet.

How I'm feeling now...I feel relaxed because deep down I knew something was not right... And felt like this since the positive test.. it's now confirmed so stress has been lifted...I believe aswell it could of been abnormal so it is a blessing in disguise... That's what the nurse told me today which is so true... I don't have to worry about this pregnancy anymore.. I can focus on moving forward... My husband is a great support and family we have a beautiful 4 year old daughter. Which we are so grateful for don't know if I would be this strong if it wasn't for her... So yea that's my update! Xx

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LizzieBW

Hi Eram,

I'm so awfully sorry for you. Your strength is amazing and just wishing you so much comfort right now. Look after yourself xxx

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Thanks Lizzie sometimes you have to stay strong in this situation and remain hopeful I got pregnant first try through icsi that tells me it will happen again so having hope is what you need to cope... the nurse said today that a healthy baby would not have a heartbeat that stops.. So it obviously was not compatible with life blessing in disguise. Xxx

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LizzieBW in reply to

That's such a positive way to look at your experience. Pregnant first try with icsi is amazing so everything crossed for your next chapter whatever that looks like. The nurse that supported you sounded lovely. So glad you have support to keep you strong. Take care xxx

I’m so sorry to read this I was so hoping that it would be better news but am also glad you have some closure.. and you now know what’s going on xx

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Thanks daisy deffintley feel so relaxed... I was working in a care home before... My husband turned around to me today and said he does not want me to go back because that place is soooo stressful... We are both healthy so want to give trying natrually the best chance... Xx

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That sounds perfect - you can try and take control now. We had a Mc at 9 1/2 weeks after a heartbeat at 7 and two other mmc so I totally get what you are going through. We are all here to help if and when we can

😘xx

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You poor thing daisy. Did you have a heart beat with all three? Was there any causes or unknown? Xx

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ttcemmie

Oh god, so sorry to hear this Eram12. This is awful awful news and you are doing well to process this. Sending lots of love and hugs, and really feel for you. :( :( :( xxxx

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Thanks hun I just understand mother nature has taken it away because it was not compatible with life... If mother nature didn't play it's role it would of been worse... A lot worse in the long run... Me and my husband are very healthy so it's not us... As far as we are aware... That's what is giving me hope...xx

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ttcemmie in reply to

That is a great way to look at it, but it's obviously still a really difficult to go through. Glad you are okay and having a good support system. xxxx

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Yes course it is.. but was not plain sailing from beginning which is were I started to get prepared for the worst... Deep down.. so in a way I was ready for this.. but yea it is still horrible.. xx

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Cinderella5

Awww Eram, I'm so incredibly sorry! I wish your instincts had been wrong. Sending love at this difficult time.xxx

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MissSaoPaulo

I'm so sorry hon. I think the way you're looking at it is very healthy and logical but I know it must still hurt. You've a lot of positives going forward, but for now - big hugs xxx

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Thank you xx

Thanks Cinderella it's ok hun of its not meant to be no one can control it... Xx how are you?

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Cinderella5 in reply to

No that is very true, there isnt a damn thing we can do about it but it doesnt hurt any less that's for sure....!!😥 I'm doing ok thank you. Wishing this covid nightmare would disappear as quickly as it came so we can all get back to normal! Thinking of you.xxx

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Yea I know but if you are healthy with no fertility issues it's just a matter of time hun getting the right embryo.. if you look at it like that it does help. This coronavirus is a pain I can't wait till it's gone..I can't even go back to the gym! Because of it I feel fat after progesterone 😆xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply to

Such a positive attitude at a difficult time! Here is hoping!🙏🏻 I've transferred so many embryos but we have found so much out since then! Hopefully it is just a numbers game now as you say!! I've been having far too many treats recently....feeling very fatter than every and that's with no progesterone!🙈🤣xxx

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Corchi

So sorry for your loss. Your outlook is amazing. Xxxx

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Thanks hun xxx

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Tiddly1984

So sorry Eram, but glad to hear that you’re doing ok (all things considered) and that you have a supportive family and plan going forward...x

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Thank you xxx

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Hope4040

I’m so sorry to hear this. Your handling it all incredibly well - a lot better than I did. I admire your strength and outlook on it.

Xxx

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Kurstx

So sorry to read this it’s so unfair been so many of us recently 💔 thinning of you take care ❤️❤️ xxxx

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I had a chemical pregnancy a year before conceiving my daughter like you I felt something wasn’t right you just know even I didn’t want to believe it tho.. but did think probably something not quite right with the baby which made us feel a bit better we wanted a healthy baby ... I’m glad you have your little girl but I know that doesn’t ease the pain. Just because this pregnancy didn’t work out doesn’t mean another wouldn’t miscarriages are normally just a one off unfortunate event. I wish you the best & hope you fall soon xxx

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Thankyou well will have to try natrually for now... Until clinics open.. to do a fet.. so holding on to that. 🙂Xxx I did hear they are a one of event... Do you know why that is? Xx

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I’m no expert but I think it’s usually an issue with chromosomes with that embryo ( doesn’t mean the other 4 are no good) Sadly nature doesn’t always get it right 😢 I think when something’s not right nature knows & aborts. Doesn’t make it hurt less😢 I didn’t realise how common miscarriages can be before I had one- 1-4 ( maybe coz we can test early we see more losses ) but the positive is most women who miscarry will go on to have a healthy baby. And I’m sure you will to whether it’s naturally or IVF. Be give yourself time & do whatever feels right for you xxx

Oh my gosh, I’m so so sorry lovely, this is such sad news & my heart goes out to you & your husband.

I know there’s probably nothing much anyone can say at the moment to help but I hope you find comfort in your husband & little girl - they’ll give you the strength like you said to get you through this.

Things will get better & you will get your little miracle the next time. Be kind to yourself and take care xxx❤️

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Hi hun thanks 🙂 it's ok... Just was not meant to be nothing anyone can do about it... Xxx hope are well xx

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Picalilli99

Really sorry to hear this. Big hugs xx

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KiboXX

Oh Eram, I’m so sorry to read this. I know you’ve had a difficult road with this pregnancy so far and I’m gutted to see it hasn’t worked out. I really admire your attitude though and it’s great you have such a good support network ♥️ big hugs xx

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J3nna

So sorry to read this, fingers crossed go your natural cycles ahead. Xx

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Kama41

So sorry to read this. I’ve now had two missed miscarriages one via IVF and one natural so I know how you feel. I had the same instincts as you both times and the nurse also told me the same thing about it not being right so I took some comfort in that. Keep strong and good luck for the future. X

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Bramble_

I have a chromosomal condition that causes miscarriages and until I found out what was causing them, I tortured myself. It has given me so much peace to know that they were never compatible with life and would never have survived so it’s good I lost early. I think your outlook is correct and really hope you are successful. 4 in the freezer is amazing! X

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Hi I'm sorry you have suffered losses it's really hard but have to keep strong.. yes I have 4 left but time will tell now if they would work... May I ask how did you get tested for chromosomal condition? Xx

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It was quite random, my 4th pregnancy was a missed miscarriage and I opted for an ERPC so we could get it tested, and it came back with a trisonomy so they recommended katyotyping. Which we got on the NHS. It showed up my balanced translocation and the trisonomy was just a random fluke. But I think it was a blessing is disguise as we never would have found out the real reason without it

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Oh dear I'm so sorry... that's horrible 😔have you got pregnant since? Xx

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Bramble_ in reply to

Yep currently 22 weeks so a bit to go but hope for all of us x

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Congratulations! Good to know gives me hope xx

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Paxita

So sorry dear dear but thanks be to your little girl and i really admire your strength may God see you through

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Shelleybean

Really sorry to hear your sad news. You sound so positive and strong, I really admire that. Hope things go as smoothly as possible. I had a very similar experience with a mmc and the natural process didn’t end up being too traumatic at all, so hopefully the same for you. Take care of yourself xx

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Chel91

So sorry to hear this 😔 thinking of you!! Glad you are remaining hopeful xxxx

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Sammy246

I'm so sorry to read about your loss but really amazed at your positive outlook. Sending you lots of hugs xx

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Buisquits

I am. So sorry it happened to you but I admire your attitude.

I'm in the same boat. Natural conception (miracle as been told it will never ever happen) Missed miscarriage, now in 2 weeks wait for natural solution. One miracle boy at home, ivf, 5 embryos frozen. Will start trying again as soon as we can but after 6 months we will go for fet.

I just want it all to be over now...

Ale the best!

in reply to Buisquits

Oh dear I'm sorry how far along were you? Xx

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Buisquits in reply to

I was 6 weeks when they descivered an empty sack. They gave us hope saying it might just be early. Got back a week later, and again at 8weeks. The sack grew but nothing inside... I'm now 8+ 6, the bloods has stop going up but nothing is happening. Just waiting...

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Oh no that's horrible.. what grade was your embryo? If I'm honest I'm so scared of the miscarriage starting its not started yet came of progesterone yesterday. 😐

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Buisquits in reply to

It was a miraculous, unexpected, surprising natural conception. When during ivf I've never asked about the grades of embryos as I don't think me knowing will influence anything and if they good enough to freez they must be good!

I'm scared of it coming to... Not sure what to expect an dhow to deal with it...

You are so strong dear Eram❤️ im very sorry for your loss. I love your attitude and for what its worth you are such a inspiration ❤️ for that i hope God / the universe give you back what you deserve. So happy you have the support from your husband. Love and take care of eachother you seem lovely parents ❤️

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