Sensitive update - measuring too small

[LCharlton]

For those who remember the long process I've been going through of being "sort of pregnant" after IVF - I had a super faint line on my pregnancy test on OTD, then low levels of HCG on blood tests although they were going up. I finally got to go in for a scan yesterday (7 weeks + 5 days) and the sonographer could see a fetal pole with a heartbeat, but said it was measuring 10 days too small - it was only 3mm which should be more like 6+3, not 7+5. We then saw a doctor who basically told me to be prepared as I'm very likely to have a miscarriage. We have another scan booked for Friday next week, assuming I don't start bleeding or anything before then. On the one hand I feel like it has to be a good thing that there was a heartbeat, but the doctor was clearly thinking things aren't going to work out.

If I do end up having a missed miscarriage or something like that, I'm worried about how to arrange medical treatment for it - we had to go private for IVF as the NHS wouldn't fund us, but we wouldn't be able to afford to get a D&C or anything like that through the private hospital. Does anyone have any experience of whether you can refer yourself to the NHS for a miscarriage after private IVF? I don't want to borrow trouble, but it sounds like there is a realistic possibility we could go in there next Friday and be told the pregnancy hasn't progressed, in which case I want to get clear about what my options are.

[Hidden]

Hey lovely - I am so so sorry what a horrible time you are going through

I desperately hope you don’t need this advice but to calm one part of your mind - absolutely - you will be referred to NHS EPU and they will arrange either medical management or a D&C and they generally offer surgery within a week. Please don’t worry about the fact you have had private ivf it makes no difference

Hugest of hugs xx

[LCharlton in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much, that's really reassuring xx

[DC5867]

Sorry you’re having to go through this uncertainty. Don’t worry at all about what happens if you have a miscarriage. The NHS will look after you regardless of how you became pregnant. It isn’t necessarily a d&c, it may be medically managed but they will let you know your options and you can decide what is best for you. Take care x

[LCharlton in reply to DC5867]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

So sorry. I was wondering how you were getting on. Really hope it’s good news next Friday. Will be thinking of you xx

[LCharlton in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, I'll let you know xx

[KiboXX]

Oh lovely, I’ve been wondering how you were getting on. I’m an eternal optimist though so I would be holding onto that heartbeat for now, who knows what the next week will bring but for now, it’s there and I really hope it’s a little fighter. Sending you a huge hug xx

[LCharlton in reply to KiboXX]

Thanks so much xx

[Cinderella5]

Awww Im really sorry you're going through this, so damn cruel. Sending love and hugs.xx

[LCharlton in reply to Cinderella5]

That's lovely, thank you xx

[Kitty230515]

So sorry this is happening to you! What an emotional rollercoaster.

With my missed miscarriage, the clinic referred me to the NHS EPU, who were amazing. So caring and understanding. They couldn’t have looked after me better. She gave me a hug when I asked her how much the medication was, and said you’ve back with the NHS now.

But fingers crossed everything will be ok for you and it won’t end in a missed miscarriage xxx

[LCharlton]

I did have a miscarriage last night - so after a month of not being sure what was going to happen, now at least I know! Thanks so much to everyone for their support - it was pretty scary for me last night when I realised things were really kicking off, but knowing so many of you here have got through it ok helped a lot xxxx

[Picalilli99 in reply to LCharlton]

So sorry to hear this. Sending big hugs ❤️ Xx

[KiboXX in reply to LCharlton]

So sorry to see this. Hope you’re doing ok, big hugs xx

[Hidden in reply to LCharlton]

I am so so sorry to read this, sending you love and hugs xx

[Hidden in reply to LCharlton]

I’m so sorry Hun 💔I know how you feel 💋sending love xxx

[Jem04 in reply to LCharlton]

So sorry to hear about your loss. this happened to me in September last year. I was ok for a couple of days but about 4- 5 days after the initial loss I had extremely strong period pain, it was unbelievably painful, I rang 111 and couldn’t get through so lay on the bed and took cocodamol (which I never normally take) it did pass and I managed it with pain killers but was a huge shock for it to be that painful. Hope it doesn’t happen for you but wanted to explain my experience and what helped. Take care and again I’m so sorry xx 💞

[Kurstx]

So sorry to hear this thinking of you ❤️❤️❤️ xxx

[LCharlton in reply to Kurstx]

You too xxx

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry LCharlton. Sending so much love to you right now xx

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry Hun 💔I hope things turn out well for you but if not....I’ve just had a mmc with surgical management (operation under general anaesthetic) done at my local hospital. Private clinics don’t deal with these things, so I suggest you check if your local NHS hospital has an EARLY PREGNANCY UNIT or EMERGENCY GYNAECOLOGY UNIT and go straight there to be been (you don’t need an appointment). There are 3 ways to manage a miscarriage: naturally, when you’ll pass the tissue by bleeding (and strong period pain), medically managed: they’ll give you a pill that causes contractions and after 2-3 days help you pass the tissue at home (with strong cramps and bleeding) or surgically managed: they will remove the tissue while you’re under general anaesthetic....xxx

[Coles2020 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Issy,

I know it’s very early days for you but hope ur feeling a little better. Ur support for others after what you have been through is really lovely - take care x

[Hidden in reply to Coles2020]

Thanks Hun xxx if I can help even a little someone who needs info I’ll be happy to xxx it’s hard times for everybody ❤️

[LCharlton in reply to Hidden]

Thanks, Issy, and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Everything happened naturally at home, which was hard going especially with not being able to get any help or advice from 111, but made it through and the EPU has now scanned me and confirmed that it's complete and I don't need any further treatment.

There's never a good time for this to happen, obviously, but I do feel like right now is the absolute worst!! Thinking of you.

L xxx

[Hidden in reply to LCharlton]

It is the absolute worst 💔but considering everything that’s going on in the world, somehow I feel ‘lucky’ that we’ve managed to get away with the physical part of this extremely painful process. I’m glad you don’t require further assistance and you can now be home 🏡 thinking of you too xxx

[Coles2020]

Will say a little prayer for you and ur little one xx

[Cmc2020]

My sisters baby was measuring too small from the very start he ended up my we 5 ounce nephew and he is now a healthy 6 year old ❤️x