Cancelled FET

[LMC2020]

Morning Everyone,

I haven’t written my own post before, so here it goes.

As like many others my FET has been cancelled. I was a week away from transfer.

I fully understand why and understand there are more important things happening at the moment and I should be grateful for so many things.

After egg collection in January I had to do a freeze all due to OHSS. I was so close to transfer and it hasn’t happened again. I’m am really really struggling mentally but then struggling with feeling selfish at the same time. The comments I’ve had, oh it’s probably for the best, better to wait aren’t helping and people who haven’t been through this just don’t get it.

Staying positive is tough at the moment but virtual hugs for everyone who is going through the same thing. ❤️

[RhinoCat]

Utter chaos and crappy situation . Just 😖🤯🤬😠😠😠😠😡😡😡😡😡😤😤😤😤😤

It’s not fair but apparently what is happening . 🤷🏼‍♀️

Any embryos I manage to get will be frozen too. 😩

You’ll be ok in a few days. Get the wine out and have three cappuccinos 😘

[LMC2020 in reply to RhinoCat]

It’s just rubbish isn’t it! At an all ready difficult time. It’s just the waiting.

I’m ok had a good cry and feeling sorry for myself but I’ll be ok! ❤️❤️

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi LMC. Oh bless you, it's not what you want to hear, but your little embies are quite safe while waiting to be transferred into you where they belong. I have have endless calls this week from patients in the same position - awful. Thinking of you. Diane

[LMC2020 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you for replying! ❤️

It’s a difficult time for everyone. I’m just so frustrated, we were so close!!

[Italy300618]

I am so sorry lovely, like you say, yes there's a lot of things going on at the moment, but ivf is always so time critical to us all, we all want to be moving as quickly as possible with our cycles. We get ourselves all ready with supplements and drugs etc. I would be annoyed with ppl saying" it's for the best " they dont get it!

Hopefully it wont be long until this blows over and you can have your transfer 😘 xx

[KiboXX]

Please don’t feel like you’re being selfish, you’re not at all. You’ve waited for this, twice now and you have every right to feel mad about it.

Hold onto the fact that you have those frozen embryos there and they will be waiting for you when this calms down. I know it’s not ideal but you will come out of this. Big hugs xxxx

[L2213]

I’m sorry to hear this and please don’t beat yourself up or feel selfish you are allowed to feel sad and frustrated it’s a crappy situation! My FET was cancelled today too, it’s really hard when we wait and wait and try to plan and get our hopes up for things to get cancelled. Sending you hugs, hope you are ok xxx

[Gpmg84 in reply to L2213]

So sorry to hear you had your FET cancelled too. I’m due to have mine next week but expect it will be cancelled as clinic is in London. Is your clinic nhs or private? X

[L2213 in reply to Gpmg84]

I’m in Nottingham, it’s a private clinic, I hope you get some answers soon xxx

[Gpmg84 in reply to L2213]

Thank you. Such a difficult time xx

[Gpmg84]

I’m so sorry to hear this. I totally get how you feel. This who process is agonising isnt it. I’m hoping for my FET next week but suspect the same thing will happen to me. My clinic is in London... are you nhs or private? X

[Maggiemooi]

Not at all selfish - you have a right to feel disappointed! I am new to ivf - Day 6 of first cycle - but can already see how gruelling it is on your hopes and dreams with the delays and disappointments. It feels like a constant battle to get to start treatment and then the world goes to pot with Coronavirus 🤷‍♀️

[LMC2020]

Thanks everyone!!

I’ve had a good cry and still feeling ever so slightly sorry for myself and my husband. I’m trying to take the positives from this. We have our embies in the freezer ready to go again when we can!

Hopefully we don’t have to wait too long! I’m a great believer that things happen for a reason! Don’t know what the reason is at the moment! 🙈

Thank you so much everyone! I feel I can share how I feel here and not be judged ❤️❤️

Love to you all!

[Net25]

Thinking of you. Please stay strong. There are lots of people with you in spirit. I know it's not easy xxxx

[LMC2020]

I should have asked;

My nurse told me to expect a period within 1-2 weeks. I was on Berserelin Nasal Spray 4 times and day. I took Progynova 6mg for a week

And 8mg for 2 days.

What happens now? Will my body go back to normal after this next “period”?

[LisaBeatrix1980]

I totally get it, it's just really unfair and when my transfer stage got postponed this week I had a really great friend say to me "it's just cr*p". And I was really grateful to her because I just really felt so devastated by it that I just wanted someone to say it's ok to be upset and annoyed and like it's rubbish, because it is.

The positives will come, and the optimism too, but I think it's also ok to let yourself feel rubbish when things really seem against you. This process is so traumatic, at so many different stages, so much emotion and future is invested in it, so you're entitled to feel however you need to. Just remember that we are all here, so many gone gone or going through similar, it really helps to just speak to people who get it.

Think of you and all the other strong arse woman on here battling xx

[LMC2020 in reply to LisaBeatrix1980]

I had a friend who told me I was allowed to be angry and she was angry too. That helped a lot!

It really has helped talking on here. Reminds me I’m not alone. I’m fine when I’m around people but when I’m on my own it’s hard not to over think everything and that the dream of having a family just keeps further away.

At least we have each other on here. People who truly understand the pain and feelings. ❤️