Hello

[Elle34Inz]

Morning all

I am feeling a bit down today after the news on Friday.

Any tips on how to make myself feel better?

Elle xx

[Hidden]

Hey Elle- good morning ❤️like the new profile pic! It’s very normal to feel down, you’re processing what’s happened...plus all the hormones are all over the place...I’d say treat yourself to something nice, spend some quality time with your partner- go for a nice brunch, eat your fave food 😋relax....cry if you feel like it, you’ll feel better after. There’s no ‘prescription’ on how to feel better unfortunately...it’s what works for you 💗sending you lots of love and a tight hug 🤗💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋hope you have a good Sunday 💞

[Elle34Inz in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much my lovely xx honestly I have been so upset since Friday as I could not respond to anyone or message anyone on here - I had no choice but to set up a new account. Has this happened to you before? This forum is the only thing keeping me going! I have felt lost without it xx I’m wondering if someone reported me?? Now I do sound crazy xx yes I am going to go for a walk as the sun is shining and I need to understand I will feel this way xx how are you doing?

[Hidden in reply to Elle34Inz]

No way someone had reported you! Why would you think that? You’ve been only super nice and sweet to everyone here even during your hardest time ❤️And I’m sure we are all grateful for that! Yes I’ve been in your shoes....to the point that I haven’t even messaged one of my dearest friends when she had a baby months after my first IVF cycle failed. No messages, nothing. She texted me to say she’s had the baby and I didn’t even replied- I couldn’t. Now 2 years have passed and I still haven’t met her baby...O haven’t been a good friend at all 😱but we’re human. And IVF is soooooo hard. We deserve to look after ourselves, and if you don’t feel like replying on messages here, don’t ❤️Do what makes you feel better, you are your priority number 1!!!!! Xxxx

[Elle34Inz in reply to Hidden]

My account basically stopped working - I wanted to reply but it was saying I didn’t have permission and I had private messages which I wanted to respond and same message unable to send message!! Not sure what has happened! I have contacted Diane to see if she may know the reason xx yes I didn’t think I would of said anything wrong on here as I am trying to support everyone too xx yes I just feel very sad today but I realise I will have these days and it’s ok! It is a tough journey but as I say this forum and the strength of everyone on here is incredible and admire xx

[Hidden in reply to Elle34Inz]

We’re always here for you! 💗💗💗

[Elle34Inz in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so so much xx really means a lot! Always here for you too xx

[Hidden in reply to Elle34Inz]

Hi Elle,

I also got bad news on Friday so can completely understand how you feel.

I booked myself in for a facial Friday afternoon to make sure I felt pampered regardless of the results and had lunch with a friend who knew what I was going through.

I've also booked myself onto lots of classes at the gym as that always helps me get out of a bad mindset...I suffer from depression anyway and exercise always helps. Hardest thing is making myself do it but once I'm there I feel so much better. Sending big hugs xx

[Elle34Inz in reply to Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear this - I am here for you if you need anything my lovely xxx 😘

[ttcemmie]

There is obviously nothing that can make it better. I will assume you are Elle32Inz reincarnated btw! xxxx Different situation, but if this round fails, I am booking myself in to an expensive spa/hotel that I have wanted to go to for years! That and obviously doing all the things I'm not otherwise allowed but love - sushi, wine, maybe even trampolining! Do whatever you need for yourself. I insisted family and friends came round to support us and hang out, but if you're not feeling people-y, don't do that! Anything you need, and don't be afraid to tell your fam and friends what you need. xxxxx

[Elle34Inz in reply to ttcemmie]

Yes it’s me Elle32Inz for some reason my account stopped working on Friday and I could not reply or post anything! I don’t know what happened??!! Thank you so much my lovely that is a fab idea I love the sound of that xx I really appreciate all your support ❤️😘❤️yes I have just been over to my sister and had a good cry with her and my mum! I need to let this emotions out. How are you doing? Xx

[ttcemmie in reply to Elle34Inz]

Glad your sis and your mum are there to support you. This is an awful awful thing to go through. I know I had days where I was okay, and days where I was panicking in the middle of the night or sitting on the edge of the bath crying. It gets easier, but that's not much help right now. Just be patient and kind to yourself and don't expect yourself to feel any certain way.

I'm good. Started my injections on Friday and currently not feeling well, but really happy to be on this cycle! x

[Picalilli99]

Oh Elle I’m so sorry you are feeling down today. I think it’s perhaps understandable though with everything you have been going through recently. You have experienced a loss and it is important to give yourself the time & space to heal. Be kind to yourself, cry if you need to (I think it can be good to let it out). But everyone is different so it’s just about doing whatever feels right for you right now. Getting out for a little walk sounds like a great idea if you can. After our losses I found that there were times when I thought I was doing ok, then something could just come out of nowhere and completely floor me. So try not to worry if you have bad days, I think it’s part of the grieving process. Know that we are all here for you. Sending you big hugs lovely ❤️ xx

[Elle34Inz in reply to Picalilli99]

Thank you so so much I really appreciate all your support and kind words and your right you have to just take each day as well as how you feel xxx ❤️ how are you doing?

[Cinderella5]

Awww its totally normal to feel down just now! There are no quick fixes honey. You need to give yourself some time to process what you have been through and grieve for your loss!! I think getting out for some fresh air, maybe a nice long walk. Treat yourself to whatever you fancy to eat or drink. You'll get back on your feet, it just takes time. Love & hugs.xxx

[Elle34Inz in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you so much my lovely I really appreciate your kind words and support it means so much xxxx ❤️ always here if you need anything too

[Cinderella5 in reply to Elle34Inz]

Thank you! I dont know what I'd do without this forum. It's my little support and safety bubble because nobody really understands...even if they try to they just dont get it!! Be kind to yourself.xxx

[Elle34Inz in reply to Cinderella5]

I am totally with you and I have been so upset the last 2 days as I could not message anyone on here or respond to private messages so I had to set up another account! I was really lost xxxx honestly only thing that is getting me through - so important to share and understand other people experiences xxxxx

[KiboXX]

Hi Elle,

So sorry you’re feeling down 😢 it’s completely normal to feel like that though, you’ve had a really tough time.

Not sure if it’s an option for you but after a loss on my first cycle, me and my hubby booked a holiday away just the two of us. It was really nice to just get away from everything for a short while, forget about IVF and just be us. It was honestly the best thing.

Sending you big hugs xxxx

[Elle34Inz in reply to KiboXX]

Thank you so much my lovely xx I really appreciate your kind words and support means a lot! Yes we are thinking of booking a holiday however we want to see consultant first to discuss next cycle so that will be on 16th and take things from there! I’m so up and down it’s awful x first day back at work tomorrow eek 😬

[KiboXX in reply to Elle34Inz]

That sounds like a great plan 😊

Hope your follow up is nice and positive so you can get away after feeling like you know what you want to do next xx

[Elle34Inz in reply to KiboXX]

Thank you so much lovely xx yes I think as we have 3 on freeze we just want to go as soon as we can x x I left it almost a year to go for a second time so feel like I need to strike whilst the iron is hot as such whether that’s right or not you have to go with how you feel xx 😘 third time lucky 🍀 who knows

[KiboXX in reply to Elle34Inz]

I think only you know when you’re ready to go again, so if you feel like you’re there then go for it! I found frozen cycles much much easier as well so that’s amazing you have three little Frosties ♥️ xxx

[Elle34Inz in reply to KiboXX]

Thank you so much my lovely xx yes I don’t have a clue about how frozen cycle works so would you mind if I asked you what I can expect pls? Thanks so much ❤️

[KiboXX in reply to Elle34Inz]

Yes of course, I don’t mind! I’ll send you an inbox message xx