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Hi guys,

I did my test this morning and it was a BFN ๐Ÿ˜ข. Itโ€™s so sad and I feel sooo disappointed. I donโ€™t know about anyone else but I did the usual self preservation trick of not allowing myself to think it might work. But oh my does it hit hard. Xxx

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Sayusayme profile image
Sayusayme

When is your blood test scheduled?

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Yogi42 in reply to Sayusayme

I donโ€™t have one scheduled. I have let the clinic know via the app and am waiting to hear from them. I used clear blue which is meant to be super accurate. Xxx

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Sayusayme in reply to Yogi42

U still have ur beta hcg test to confirm your pregnancy...

So still have time....

Just relax for now.

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KiboXX in reply to Sayusayme

Hi sayusayme,

A lot of clinic in the UK donโ€™t do beta blood tests and just ask you to do a home test.

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Sayusayme in reply to KiboXX

Oh ok

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Yogi42 in reply to Sayusayme

Thankyou ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ. Xxx

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KiboXX

Really sorry to hear that Yogi42, I know that telling yourself it hasnโ€™t worked doesnโ€™t make it any easier.

Have you spoken to your clinic yet? They may ask you to stay on your meds a few days extra and retest. Your OTD is quite a few days earlier than mine and we had our transfers the same day. Sending big hugs xxx

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Yogi42 in reply to KiboXX

Hi Kibo, I feel absolutely gutted ๐Ÿ˜ข. Nothing prepares you for it. I will have to have a laparoscopy now (3 month waiting list) then round 2.

Iโ€™m just waiting to hear from the clinic.

How are you feeling ๐ŸŒŸ?!. Xxx

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KiboXX in reply to Yogi42

Hope the clinic gets back to you soon. Was this your first cycle? Sorry that you canโ€™t go straight forward with the next one, hope itโ€™s not too long a wait for your appointment.

Iโ€™m feeling ok, happy and terrified still. Obsessively testing like a crazy person ๐Ÿคช just hoping it sticks!x

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Yogi42 in reply to KiboXX

It was my first cycle everything had gone so smoothly and then not so today.

Aaahhh you must be sooo excited iโ€™m so happy for you ๐ŸŒŸ!.

Still waiting to hear from the clinic. Xxx

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KiboXX in reply to Yogi42

Thank you ๐Ÿ˜˜โ™ฅ๏ธ xxxx

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KiboXX in reply to KiboXX

Did the clinic get back to you?x

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Yogi42 in reply to KiboXX

They did, I have to re test Sunday if i donโ€™t start bleeding heavily. I have my follow up appointment on 3/2. I donโ€™t really want to do another test and feel that horrible feeling all over again!. Xxx

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KiboXX in reply to Yogi42

I know exactly how you feel, my last clinic made us do the same and I just felt like it was needlessly prolonging the torture ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

However, my last round I did there, a close friend was also doing hers, our transfer dates were literally one day apart. She got a bfn on OTD and then a BFP 2 days later. I know itโ€™s super unlikely but it does actually happen so itโ€™s worth hanging in there, even just for the smallest possibility. X

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MrsH17

Ahhh sorry to hear this it really is sad ๐Ÿ˜” I was surprised at how it made me feel when I failed my FET in November. Itโ€™s does get easier that I can promise.

Will you try again? Xxx

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Yogi42 in reply to MrsH17

It is crazy!. I think it was shock then I just cried for a couple of hours and now I just feel flat ๐Ÿ˜ข. I will try again after a laparoscopy.

Did you get straight back to work or have a few days to digest?. Have you tried again?. Xxx

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MrsH17 in reply to Yogi42

I know exactly how you feel. I couldnโ€™t face seeing family for the first few weeks. I just sent the not pregnant test to them. I did find when I was open and talked about it I felt better even though I really thought I couldnโ€™t talk about it. Yeah I went back to work I dreaded it and thought I wouldnโ€™t get through a 11 hour day but it did me good to get back to normality and I was fine.

I went to the clinic on Wednesday to set up doing a fresh cycle soon.

Xxx

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Yogi42 in reply to MrsH17

Oh great!!!. You must be excited/anxious, iโ€™m Wishing all the best for you.

I am meant to be back to work tomorrow on a 12 hour shift then nights next week at the moment it feels impossible but I know itโ€™s the best thing to do!. I also feel better when I talk iโ€™m not one for holding my emotions in ๐ŸŒŸ. Xxx

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Littlepeax in reply to Yogi42

I had the weekend to take it all in. 12 hour day seems so long but might be quite good for you โ™ฅ๏ธ when I went back to work on a Monday I asked my boss for a pay rise to take my mind off the BFN (I never would have asked otherwise!!) he asked why I thought I deserved one so I explained and it worked lol the distraction did help ๐Ÿค— try and do something positive to take your mind off the sad news xxx

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Yogi42 in reply to Littlepeax

Brilliant!. Maybe iโ€™ll try that ๐Ÿค”. Xxx

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MrsH17 in reply to Yogi42

I am excited and anxious lol. I booked it as soon as I knew it had failed it was like I needed to be proactive. I am in no rush to start like I usually am so will be a few months probably. We might end up doing a cycle at the same time :) xxx

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Yogi42 in reply to MrsH17

Absolutely and good for you!. I have booked my follow up and requested the letter for a laparoscopy. It feels better to be doing something rather than wallowing which I really want to do!.

Oh yes that would be wonderful and hopefully weโ€™d both get great news this time!. Xxx

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Italy300618

I'm so sorry yogi it's the worst feeling in the world, sending big hugs to you ๐Ÿ’— xx

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Yogi42 in reply to Italy300618

Thankyou so much ๐Ÿ’ž. Xxx

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Cinderella5

Im sorry to hear this, never gets any easier to see that stark white test!! Hugs.xx

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Yogi42 in reply to Cinderella5

Itโ€™s horrible makes your heart sink. Xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply to Yogi42

Be kind to yourself, you deserve it!xx

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Littlepeax

I'm so sorry ๐Ÿ˜” hope you're ok โ™ฅ๏ธ when I had my BFN I found it so hard, it was horrible. Spoil yourself and do everything you couldn't have done before ๐Ÿ’ซโ™ฅ๏ธ xxx

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Yogi42 in reply to Littlepeax

I am taking today to take it in and go to hot yoga which I gavenโ€™t Been able to do for 2 weeks!. Thankyou for the advice ๐Ÿ’œ. Xxx

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Littlepeax in reply to Yogi42

Great idea ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ’ซ xxx we are all here for you

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Yogi42 in reply to Littlepeax

Thankyou so much ๐Ÿ’–. Xxx

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Core

So sorry to hear this BFNs are so so tough sending hugs xx

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Yogi42 in reply to Core

Thankyou ๐Ÿ’ž. Xxx

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Lots8788

So sorry hun xx big hugs

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Yogi42 in reply to Lots8788

Thankyou โค๏ธ. Xxx

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Lots8788 in reply to Yogi42

โค๐Ÿ˜˜xx

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Tiddly1984

Sorry Yogi. Itโ€™s very disappointing and in some ways very hard to prepare for no matter hard you steel yourself. Iโ€™m sure the future will be kinder. Hugs x

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Yogi42 in reply to Tiddly1984

Nothing can prepare you for it ๐Ÿ’”. Xxx

Ash2016 profile image
Ash2016

Sorry to hear that lovely, it never gets easy x

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Tiddly1984

No, I donโ€™t think it can. I think the hope is to simply not experience the disappointment at all. My first transfer didnโ€™t work, but my second transfer did. I truly hope next time you have better results...x

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Yogi42 in reply to Tiddly1984

Thatโ€™s fantastic!!!. I have everything crossed for round 2 ๐Ÿคž๐Ÿผ๐Ÿคž๐Ÿผ๐Ÿคž๐Ÿผ. Thankyou for your support. Xxx

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Tiddly1984 in reply to Yogi42

Thank you and youโ€™re welcome...x

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Picalilli99

So sorry to hear this. It is just the worst feeling. Sending you huge hugs. Enjoy your hot yoga! xxxx

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Yogi42 in reply to Picalilli99

Thankyou ๐Ÿ’–!. Iโ€™m sure it will make me feel a bit better ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ. Xxx

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Keepingfaith85

So sorry Yogi42 ๐Ÿ˜” Sending you a big hug! We are all here for you X

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Yogi42 in reply to Keepingfaith85

Thankyou ๐Ÿ’ž!. You are all a great support ๐Ÿ˜Š. Xxx

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FrancyItaly

So sorry to hear that, I know the feeling. Clearblue are not so sensitive though. First response are better. I hope youโ€™ll have your baby soon x

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Yogi42 in reply to FrancyItaly

Oh really!. I have to re test Sunday so iโ€™ll Try first response. Xxx

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FrancyItaly in reply to Yogi42

The ones you can use 5 days before period is due are very sensitive. Good luck, I hope you get a BFP on Sunday! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

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