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We are due to have our first frozen transfer this Wednesday (15th) and was wondering if anyone else will be starting there TWW this week?

This is our fourth transfer, We previously has three fresh cycles at another clinic, first one was a MC at 6 weeks and then following that two BFN. Never had anything to freeze 😒

Feeling frustrated and like we weren’t being listened to, we moved clinics and did our first short protocol with freeze all approach. We were amazed to end up with 3 beauties in the freezer and feeling excited but very nervous about another transfer. Trying to think positive but my head is already preparing myself for it to fail.

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RhinoCat

Not quite ready for transfer yet but I’m bringing up the rear!

Bless your heart! I totally get why you are stressing.

Must be nice to have the date though.

Someone recommended the Mindfulness IVF app to me. Wasn’t sure I’d be into it ...... but I downloaded it and think it good for getting your brain calm when it flickers to panic/negative stuff. It’s free and has sleep stuff, anxiety stuff etc then there’s a frozen cycle section for Β£2.99 I think. Etc etc. I use it at night mostly when my brain takes off. Tried it this morning too and it defo makes you calm your brain and mind. I can’t even imagine your anxiety.

Try to get your head in the β€˜here and now’ mode. The app says β€˜I am here, I am ok’ etc and gets ya to breathe . Might give ya ten minutes brain break and calm your soul.

Do you note your plan for the day down? ( like Mrs Hinch style?) I literally write boring things like β€˜shower, breakfast, make soup, movie’ etc etc and tick the day off as I go. It helps me chunk the day and plan β€˜rest’ and β€˜me focused’ slots. I also put in medication etc . Feels like the passing of time is sorted and that I’m in control of something.

Over next wee while I’m going to try and do slots of reading , the mindfulness app and colouring in πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ€£ ugh sound ridiculous but my counsellor recommended having 4/5 things to do to keep my mind running over negative and let me get my mind calm which keeps my body calm. He even suggested getting a simple word search book or something if other stuff was too taxing .

At end of the day the simple wee plans throughout the day give me control of the routine and keep my brain calmly occupied.

Maybe some of these ideas would help you too? If not , just know I’m thinking of you and hoping for the best this time πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»

Sending love and hugs and understanding your way.

Breathe....

All the best,

Rhinocat x

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KiboXX in reply to RhinoCat

Thank you so much, I will definitely give the app a go! I am definitely trying to keep busy and it’s helping. Honestly I haven’t really worried about any of it until today and then it suddenly hit me I’m going to be in that dreaded tww again in just a few days and the realisation that it might not work. Never gets easier does it?! 🀯

Fingers crossed you have your transfer date soon! Are you on your FET drugs already?x

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RhinoCat in reply to KiboXX

Bless you πŸ’

Yep, started my triple dose tablets on Saturday. That’s me on day 3 of drugs. First scan on 20th.

It’s all fun and games.

Hope you can find a way to steady yourself again and just do one step at a time. You’ve survived two week waits before. So you can defo do it again!

Stay strong sister πŸ’ͺπŸ»πŸ˜˜πŸ’ƒπŸΌ Keep that uterus relaxed 😌

May this be your time πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»

Breathe

Rhinocat x

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KiboXX in reply to RhinoCat

Thank you. Got everything crossed your scan goes well 🀞🏻β™₯️

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RhinoCat in reply to KiboXX

All the best for tomo KiboXx

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KiboXX in reply to RhinoCat

Thank you 😘😘😘

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi Kibo. Just wanted to add my good wishes for you as you go through your FET. I shall be thinking of you. Diane

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KiboXX in reply to DianeArnold

Thank you 😊

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Cinderella5

Just wanted to wish you luck for transfer. Hope you get that magic BFP!xx

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KiboXX in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you ☺️

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ttcemmie

Transfer this week! What an exciting time for you. Best of luck. Remember to be practically bursting with water! Also, best wishes for the anxiety-riddled 2WW with the mixture of emotions that it brings. Always a hard one. RhinoCat's suggestions sound great.

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KiboXX in reply to ttcemmie

Thanks! Super not excited about that desperate wee I’ll be needing πŸ˜‚

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Mystic9

Hi Kibo, I had an embryo transfer today so will just be a couple of days ahead of you. This is my first transfer so I don't have anything to compare it to. My otd will be Friday 24th.

Good luck x

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KiboXX in reply to Mystic9

Congrats! Hope your transfer went well and you’re enjoying a nice relaxing evening 😘

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Mystic9 in reply to KiboXX

Had a bit of cramping but otherwise has been quite a normal evening. I start a new job tomorrow so at least my mind will be occupied.

It sounds like this cycle is quite different to your previous cycles, I hope this is the one for you xx

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KiboXX in reply to Mystic9

Thank you, I really hope it is!

Oh perfect, any distraction is welcome and a new job is great for that! Good luck on your first day x

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