2 definite BFN

[H0pe2]

Ok so took the FRER just now, and it couldn’t have been more negative 💔

What the hell is going on, it’s now day 34 of my usual 26 day cycle, and now i just want it to come so i can try again.

Feeling very deflated today.

Whats the best treatment/help i can do for myself whilst waiting for my Lap to give me the best chance?

I take folic acid and vitamin D, exercise and 90% of the time i eat healthy foods.

I have Endo (they think anyway) so one blocked left tube, and very low egg reserve, is there anything i can take to boost my eggs?

Would a pre seed actually help? (Tried before and didn’t do much. Also how do you track your ovulation properly instead of just the app.

Sorry its a long one, really not a good day to be seeing a negative 💛

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry I was so sure you’d get a BFP absolutely gutted for you.

Going forwards a lap sounds a good idea especially if they suspect endo.

You are doing all you can to give yourself the best chances. Do allow yourself treats too!

Some ladies take DHEA to boost egg reserve - best to check with your specialist first. I took some & decided not to try until my lap was done ( but I knew I had endo & knew it was impacting on my fertility negatively)

I couldn’t conceive until my endo was diagnosed & treated - we had a chemical pregnancy after first lap & fell after my third lap & had my daughter.

After my third lap I did a round of clomid even tho I do normally ovulate ( sometimes with my endo I saw Lh surge as early as day 7 which unlikely result in a pregnancy) maybe clomid might help you?

Big hugs 🤗 xxx

[H0pe2 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for replying! I was so sure as well, i just don’t understand whats going on.

Im waiting for a new appointment for my Lap as i have changed hospitals.

Is there where i would have to ask about DHeA and Clomid?

I have only been using my Flo app to tell me when im ovulating, maybe i need something more precise like the thermometer? What did you use?

I’m actually going to call the hospital for some updates, as i do have the xray on Friday and I’m still not keen, even though I know im not pregnant now, xx

[Hidden in reply to H0pe2]

Probably best to ask your fertility specialist. DHEA isn’t licensed in the UK so some drs don’t like to recommend it. You can get it from an American website as it is licensed there. Clomid can only be prescribed by a fertility specialist . I used a cough medicine alongside the clomid as it can make mucus thicker & harder for sperm to get through!

I used clear blue digital ovulation tests that only detect the Lh surge & I took a temperature chart (for the first)ironically the month I fell with Francesca! It was comforting to confirm the ovulation with the temperature chart recorded on a free app!

Up to you if you feel better postponing it until the period arrives that is understandable I’d be exactly the same. Do what is right for you xxx

[H0pe2 in reply to Hidden]

Unfortunately there’s going to be a delay on my treatment which is not good with my egg reserve been so low.

Soon as my period comes i am going to order a some test kits etc. I woke up today feeling really ill and really exhausted so it’s definitely on its way!

Xx

[Hidden in reply to H0pe2]

I’m so sorry it’s so difficult especially this time of year makes it feel even tougher. I used to dread it. My amh is very low -it was of a 40 year olds when I was 32 😳 god knows what it is now but I still managed to have a successful pregnancy & so will you. Hopefully the lap can give you some answers which brings you closer to your BFP xxx

[H0pe2 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks again for replying! Even after you have your miracle I noticed that you are still here al the time to offer support to everyone.

It is definitely harder this time of year yes, id already planned how i would tell people etc 🤦🏼‍♀️silly me.

I keep worrying its bloody menopause now 😂 👵🏼

[Hidden in reply to H0pe2]

I can remember how difficult it was & how isolated I felt at times. It was a long & difficult journey ( took us 7 years to conceive our daughter) This site helped me through the dark times & without this site not sure I would’ve got through it. It helped talking to others & everyone was so supportive. Even after a miracle you never forget it. It was the hardest but best thing I ever done. I like to try to help others & say that miracles can & do happen to keep going 🤗 i still can’t believe how lucky we got- Francesca has helped to mend our once broken hearts ♥️

It’s not silly to have hope of the dream happening hope is the only thing that keeps us going. I said to my hubby the moment I have zero hope I might as well “give up”.

I’m so sorry your period has come but at least you are no longer in limbo.

With my endo I had horrific periods- pain was unbearable not even morphine touched it & the pain was the lower left abdominal side - turned out my endo was on the pouch of Douglas & rectum ( it then progressed to uteroscaral ligaments too) it was helpful to know what it is was ( i was so worried) I looked at your last post. I found clearblue digital ovulation tests the best for me just ⭕️ for no Lh surge or a 🙂 for Lh surge no tricky lines to look at plus I could test 2-3 times a day during my fertile period - with endo I have excess amount of estrogen the dual hormone tests sometimes didn’t pick up the Lh surge which caused me more stress!!! I also temped on my TTC last cycle!

I hope your lap can give you some answers it does sound like endo to me xxx

[CLDxxx]

Ah I’m so sorry lovely. Was really hopeful for you.

Sounds like you are doing all you can.

Only thing I’d say is, when I did my round IVF I did everything by the book and although my egg collection was successful what interested me was months later I had a scan, I had completely relaxed with food, drink and life! And things were looking much healthier so basically don’t be too extreme and enjoy life a bit ☺️xxx

[H0pe2 in reply to CLDxxx]

Ive tried both tbh, relaxing and forgetting about vs trying at the exact times etc. Just going to try and focus on other things for now, xx

[Hidden]

Maybe you ovulated later than usual? Which could make your cycle longer. Sometime there is no answer and just an off cycle hopefully it’ll come soon and u can start again.

[H0pe2 in reply to Hidden]

Maybe, just play the waiting game now x

[DianeArnold]

Hi HOpe. Sorry to hear you are still waiting for your period to start. I assume you have been in touch with your clinic to see whether you need any medication to start it again?? With regards to improving your egg quality, adding more protein and zinc to your diet. can sometimes help. Acupuncture and hypnotherapy also have been known to improve blood flow to the ovaries, which help with your eggs. Diane

[H0pe2 in reply to DianeArnold]

I m in between changes hospitals atm, so not really got a clinic to call, waiting for Royal Derby to get my transfer notes.

I didn’t realise i might need medication tbh, I’ve never had this problem before and I’ve woke up feeling very drained today so can only assume its on its way now.

I will give all them a go,

Thank you xx