OTD and we are broken - BFN confirmed

[amandac84]

Chemical pregnancy 4 days this week tested positive but faint and no change, this morning a home yest was stark white but went for blood test and confirmed its failed. I’m empty and broken. 😥 x

[amyw_15]

So sorry to hear that. Hope you’re ok ❤️ xxx

[Tugsgirl]

Very sorry xx

[Bosa19]

I'm so sorry! I hope you've got good people around you and manage to relax. Lots of love to you!

[Livinginhope2019]

I’m so sorry, sending you a big hug xxx

[Starsandsunbeams]

So sorry. It is just the hardest thing and I know I felt completely broken when it happened to me. I'm currently recovering from our 3rd failure and it doesn't get any easier. Time helps (cliche, I know!) but it just helps you learn how to manage the emotions and feelings that come with this whole journey. And if you're offered counselling, I would seriously consider it. Try and do everything you can to help yourself at this difficult time. Sending love xx

[amandac84 in reply to Starsandsunbeams]

Thank you for your kind words and I’m so sorry you’ve been and are going through so much pain and hurt. I am taking up the counseling offer. Thank you xx

[Leigh2244]

Oh Amanda so sorry to hear this I had a chemical pregnancy last December it’s so heartbreaking. Do take time for yourself xx

[amandac84 in reply to Leigh2244]

Thank you lovely. Thinking of you and hoping all going well xx

[Georgie17]

Amanda, I am so sorry. I know that no words can take away your pain. Take time for yourself and if you need any support, we are all here for you xx

[amandac84 in reply to Georgie17]

Thank you lovely. So incredibly kind xx

[andromedae9]

So sorry to hear this. Our first ever BFP turned into a chemical. All that build up and then nothing... Hope you can take some time for yourself. x

[amandac84 in reply to andromedae9]

I’m so sorry to hear this. Thank you xx

[Tiddly1984]

Hey, Really sorry to hear that. It’s such a difficult thing to go through. I hope you have lots of support...x

[Core]

So so sorry to hear this, this journey can be so tough xx

[Picalilli99]

I’m so sorry to read this. So devastating having such short-lived but intense joy/excitement followed so suddenly with absolute heartbreak/disappointment (we’ve had 3 chemicals this year so have some understanding). Take care of yourself lovely and we are all here to support you if you need it. Sending big hugs xxx

[amandac84 in reply to Picalilli99]

Thank you and I’m so sorry for your losses. Really appreciate it xxx

[DJBebe]

I'm so sorry to read your post. Our 1st ivf failed last month and we are still recovering. Hope things get better for u and you'll get sone answers in your debrief appointment. Xx

[KOT7]

I am so so sorry to hear this xx

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear this. It is so upsetting! I hope your consultation appointment would give you more information. Take time to heal. Sending you lots of good vibes and luck! Xx

[LazyLinePainterJane]

You poor thing. It's heartbreaking. We had our BFN on Wednesday and I'm having a really hard time of it too. Starsandsunbeams is right, time will help (this is our 3rd and you do get past it) but it's just awful while you're going through it, particularly at this time of year. I've found rubbish Christmas movies and seeing friends have helped a bit but they're just distractions. The sadness is still underneath it, but it's important to have distractions. Good luck, keep talking with your other half, and take care x

[Muppetgirl]

#hugs# and energy to get through this.

[Dreamingofbaby]

So sorry to hear that xx

[CLDxxx]

I’m so sorry to hear this 😔 take care of yourself. Sending love and strength xxx

[Zebedee1971]

Exactly same here, so if it helps you're not alone? We had a positive but lines were quite faint and weren't getting darker. We have the second blood test tomorrow but no longer have lines on the strips. So it's all over for us too. Hope you're ok? I'm sort of used to it all now, becoming used to the disappointment. Thinking of you x

[Noah1981]

Completely heartbroken for you i just don’t know what else to say to you darling xxxxx

[Cici85]

Am so sorry .

[HollyT7]

Hey my lovely the same thing happened to us and and we cried for a whole day and then got back up and reminded ourselves that we had two amazing frosties in the freezer waiting for us. Your bubba may just be getting chilly right now and can't wait to get in his mummas tummy! My second go worked a treat, even though I was convinced to be so lucky first time around that it wouldn't work but look at us all pregnant and shizzle. You have come so far already! Those positive pants are just waiting for you to jump in them after a nice boozy Christmas! The universe works in funny ways sometimes but just the way it's got it all planned! The way I looked at it was that this process puts things together that might never have found their way in the natural world and so maybe the first little bean wouldn't have been as happy and healthy as the ones waiting on ice? And all we want is a healthy baby that's made for this world right? You can do this!!! Big warm squishes to you. The new year is going to bring amazing things xxxxx

[CLDxxx in reply to HollyT7]

I love this 💞lovely works HollyT7 xxx

[amandac84 in reply to HollyT7]

Your messages are so warm, kind and true thank you so much xxx

[Ropa19]

Hi Amanda, I’m so sorry to hear that! this is exactly what happened to me last week. First ever positive then day 3 it started to fade then day 4 a blood test confirmed it was a chemical. It’s so frustrating, upsetting, infuriating and not bloody fair is it? That was our 4th fail but I’m trying my best to look forward and stay positive but it’s so difficult at times. Please get it touch if you want to talk! Xx

[amandac84 in reply to Ropa19]

Thank you lovely I have been following your story and I am so so sorry for you I can imagine it doesn’t get any easier and hurts just as much. Sending you lots of love xx

[Ropa19 in reply to amandac84]

Thank you! It’s just so shit isn’t it? I’m so glad we have this group though as it really helps having people in the same boat as you as think it’s hard for people to understand. Sending you lots too! ❤️ xxx

[amandac84 in reply to Ropa19]

Thank you yes it certainly helps having people who understand xx