Me and my partner have been trying to get pregnant for 3 years with no success. We went to the fertility clinic and had all the tests and all results where good apart from the fact I am not ovulating. I was given medication which did make me ovulate and I have been taking it for 12 months but still no success.
The clinic have said we can now go on the waiting list to start IVF but my partner is refusing, he hasn’t really given a straight answer as to why, other than he would rather wait a few years, knowing what he is like he might change his mind in a few years and say wait even longer or that he doesn’t want to do it at all.
Has anyone or is anyone in the same situation? How did you deal with this? I have given my partner all the information about the risks etc. We both understand it might not work and that is fine but I don’t want to get to 40 and find out we are to late and we didn’t try.
Any advice would be great.
Ps I am 29 years old and he is about to turn 32.
I have a few health issues but nothing that should stop me from getting pregnant or make IVF a risk.
Thanks
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Hi, me and my husband were TTC for 2 years during that time I made significant changes to my diet and hormone levels which i'm convinced contributed to my successful IVF cycle and current natural conception with baby #2 (medication didnt work prior to IVF). I also wasn't ovulating and therefore had to investigate my hormone and insulin levels further to balance my hormonal health. Did they test your insulin and cortisol levels? For me, these were the problem hormones that i needed to address with diet and lifestyle changes. Taking some time to look into other ways to boost your fertility and support an IVF cycle when the time is right could really improve your chances x
They didn’t do any tests like this, only the test to see if I was ovulating, the scan to make sure there wasn’t an blockages and checked my partners sperm count and they said his result where above average and I wasn’t ovulating so they gave me tablets, they did make me ovulate but didn’t fall pregnant, I have just taken the 12 round but I would be shocked if it worked.
I have managed to talk to my partner and we have agreed we will wait 1 more year and then go on the IVF waiting list. My sister-in-law is now 5 months pregnant after her second IVF cycle and she has a lot of health issues so I feel positive about the IVF. Any advice on health/ diet changes to make to prepare my body for it? X
You're giving yourself the perfect opportunity over the next year to really focus on you and your diet/hormonal health, there is also the chance you can start ovulating naturally with certain changes. I was in the exact same position, don't let the worry of age creep in either - i was 32 when i started my IVF cycle and currently 35 pregnant with my second. I would love to work with you, if you follow me i can send some more details x
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So, so hard. I would really pinpoint why he doesn’t want to do IVF....you are the one going through all the injections, all he has to do is go into a little room and hand over some sperm 😊
You should be reassured though - you are 29 and SO young. You have a good few years until you need to start to think about it seriously.
Or, now would be the perfect age to freeze eggs. They say that if you are under 35 (and ideally under 30) that is the best time to freeze eggs. That means you could do the cycle and at least see how you respond to the meds without a full IVF
It has been so difficult/ upsetting/ frustrating. He has given a few different reasons that I don’t really understand or feel they are good enough reasons. I think he is worried because I was born with heart problems, I am fine now but he does get really worried about my health and what might happen. I had another chat with him and he has agreed that we will have a year off to have a brake from it all, enjoy my 30th next year then we will go on the waiting list, I just hope I haven’t pushed him into it but he said he is happy with this compromise. My sister in law is 5 months pregnant from her second IVF and is due in March so I feel better now and can start to looking forward to becoming an auntie knowing it will hopefully be my turn in a couple years 🤞🏻 thank you for your kind reply, it has made me feel much better and things ❤️❤️
I personally would get on it straight away. I'm fast approaching 39, absolutely nothing wrong with me fertility wise but still can't get pregnant even with ICSI.
My oh had VR only September last year and still his count and motility are poor. He initially said he'd have VR when I was 36 but always had an excuse. In the end he said he was never ever having it reversed. We broke up but he came to his senses in less than 24-48 hours. It wasn't something I could budge on. He of course has since had it reversed.
In your situation as ivf waiting lists are so long, Id say at least get on that waiting list now. It's a known fact that female age is one of the biggest factors of whether ivf is successful. I'm now 39, as I say I have zero fertility issues (in fact I have ovarian reserve of someone in their twenties, ovulate regularly etc) and still I can't get prefers x
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