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Need a pre-scan pep talk


I will be 7+4 tomorrow and having my first scan for this pregnancy. My only previous experience of pregnancy scans has been pretty distressing with my last pregnancy ending in a MMC at 10 weeks after seeing a strong heartbeat twice before at 7 & 8 weeks - I never want to see my baby has died on a monitor again so I will be asking them not to show me it tomorrow. I know that nothing I do can change the outcome but I’m totally terrified of walking into that room tomorrow and being told the same thing all over again. Its all I can imagine as it’s all I know. I do have symptoms my boobs are sore, I’m totally exhausted (2 naps a day some days), I get waves of nausea if I don’t eat little and often and I’m constantly thirsty.

There isn’t much point to this other than I just need some words of encouragement that I can face this - quite honestly I’d like to hide under a rock until the first trimester is over but I know I need to know! For ladies who’ve been in this situation how did you cope and summon the courage for a scan after a previous miscarriage? Xx

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Just wanted to say I can understand the feelings you described. I’m still haunted at times by that moment where we were told there was no-longer a heartbeat (ours was a MMC at 9 weeks also after seeing a strong heartbeat at 6 & 7 weeks). I’m afraid I cannot offer you advice as I haven’t had to go for a pregnancy scan since, but imagine I would be feeling similar to you if I did. So I just wanted to send my support. I hope it all goes well tomorrow. You’ve got this! xxx

Missl73 in reply to Picalilli99

Thank you! I’m so sorry you’ve also had to go through this it was honestly one of the worst things that has ever happened to me. It’s taken me a year and 5 more rounds of IVF to get pregnant again so I really hope this is the one that sticks xx

Picalilli99 in reply to Missl73

Oh bless you, I really hope so too. You have to tell yourself there is no reason that this one shouldn’t! (I know that’s easier said than done but you have to believe that this is the one). Big hugs xxx

Hi, so sorry to hear of your experience to date. I totally understand your worries and I can’t imagine any woman feeling any differently in your shoes. You’ve had a tough experience and it’s no wonder you fear reliving tomorrow through a similar outcome. I haven’t experienced a miscarriage before but I do hope that everything goes well for you tomorrow. I think that in some situations fear is difficult to suppress and it’s simply a case of trying our best to be courageous whilst hoping for the best. Your fear is natural, but maybe try to hold onto the fact that each pregnancy is different and chances of everything being ok are in your favour. Good luck. x

Sadly happened to me twice during ivf treatment and I was a mess at every scan with my Daughter but like you say, you need to know and can’t hide under a rock. Preparing for the worst, so to speak, doesn’t lessen the blow so please try to believe that there’s no reason why this won’t be a viable, happy and healthy pregnancy this time xx

Just wanted to wish you all the best for tomorrow. Will be keeping everything crossed for you 😘 x x

So sorry about your previous loss x All the best for tomorrow xx 😘

Thank you all so much for your kind words yesterday ladies. I’m delighted to say my curse has been lifted and baby is measuring exactly to my dates and has a lovely strong heartbeat so things are looking good so far xx

Cinderella5 in reply to Missl73

Oh I missed this yesterday! Glad to hear all is well, congratulations.xx

Tryagain45 in reply to Missl73

Fantastic news! I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.


Picalilli99 in reply to Missl73

Fantastic news! Well done for fighting your fears. I’m so pleased that you got to see that lovely heartbeat and that everything is looking great xx

That’s the best news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So happy for you. So great...x

Missl73 in reply to Tiddly1984

Thanks Tiddly I can’t quite believe it still but we are both so so happy it’s such a relief!! Actually believe this might be our rainbow 🌈 xx

Tiddly1984 in reply to Missl73

I believe it too! 😊 Only great things ahead for you both now, especially as every experience going forward is new. Pregnancy is an anxious time, but I do hope you get to enjoy the rest of this journey, in its own right, as much as you possibly can...x

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