Feeling sad 😥😥

[Carla90x]

Ever just feel like its just never gunna happen? 😥

[Strawberrychaos]

Aww hun, I’m so sorry to see this. Please don’t give up hope, sending you lots of hugs xx

[Carla90x in reply to Strawberrychaos]

Thanks hun got myself so excited too trouble is I need a bmi of 30 bit xant seem to get my head right to lose weight sooo frustrating!!

[Hidden in reply to Carla90x]

Irony is the stress of the situation makes you want to eat more to destress good luck with everything

[Bluelady-sing]

Tell me your story? What has been happening

[Carla90x in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Where do I start. Gosh erm.... my fiance has a low count and I dont have periods so we were referred to fertility clinic in april to be told that we need ivf but I need to have a bmi of 30 to be considered.. so frustrating x

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Carla90x]

So what is your BMI?

[Carla90x in reply to Bluelady-sing]

46ish I think x

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Carla90x]

I see, yes you might get periods once you loose weight

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Has your husband had his zinc levels checked

[Coral86]

Ohh I am sorry such horrible horrible gutting feeling when you see this you think all that work and nothing !!! I feeling the same xxx

[Carla90x in reply to Coral86]

Shit isn't it x

[Coral86 in reply to Carla90x]

Yes but hang on in there xz

[Carla90x in reply to Coral86]

Just upsets me so much cant shake the feeling

[Hidden]

I totally understand how you feel. I have had my second appointment with the consultant and they have said i can have an appointment after 8 weeks again but they will only start treatment once my bmi is less than 35 and ots currently 36.3. I have given up my career back home just to try to get pregnant. It truly is a frustrating journey. But all i would like to say is hang in there and your not alone xx

[HollyT7]

Not to be devil's advocate but have you tried a first responce test since the first test you showed us? Xx

[Carla90x in reply to HollyT7]

No just clear blue x

[Jad537]

I know how you feel 😢 with stage 4 endo covered most of my right side I have been trying for what feels like forever. Due to my pain I have been advised to stop trying for now and wait for surgery but that now feels like a super long wait in itself. Please don't give up. My friend tried for her second for 8 years and when she 'stopped thinking' about it and put her energy on the adoption route she got pregnancy. Miracles can happen ❤️

[Solly-44]

I’m sorry love, it never gets any easier does it? Sending hugs x

[L2D2]

I’m very sorry to see this for you. I have had the same wording on my test this morning so I am feeling this with you xx

[Hidden]

It’s frustrating when you need to lose weight or when your told too I feel I do the opposite. At my reoccurring mc tests the only thing they suggested was to lose a bit of weight for general health & if we needed ivf bmi had to be below 30. I did nothing for 7 mths and no pregnancy but finally got my head straight and I’ve lost 29lbs in 12w my bmi is 28.8 hopefully it might help if not I feel better in myself. Keep your chin up x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Point is fertility problems don't discriminate on how much you weigh as I know slim people who have polycystic ovaries so it's not all to do with what you weigh.

[Carla90x in reply to Hidden]

According to hospital it is x

[Hidden in reply to Carla90x]

The hospital aren't god are they? It doesn't exactly help but it's not the sole cause.

[Faith103]

I’m so sorry, this gets me every time I see this. Stay strong 💪 xxxx

[Core]

So sorry to read this, I feel like this every time I get a negative. Hold onto hope it will happen and we will get to be Mummies, and when we do we will appreciate it so much xx

[Lucky41]

I can understand what u going through I used to smoke alot when I used to get a negative pregnancy test. But thats all changed since yesterday morning I had a positive clear blue pregnancy test. Dont give up stay strong it will happen x

[Hidden]

It's so soul destroying isn't it when you are doing your very best and it's not happening!

[Carla90x in reply to Hidden]

Yeo so frustrating

[KayCan]

Sorry about your negative result, it's so hard when you want something so badly. Rightly or wrongly the NHS use the BMI criteria to keep the numbers down, otherwise it would be available for anyone/everyone and let's face it the NHS is already on its a*se. So as frustrating as it is these are the rules. They also have this because when you go through treatment your body goes through so much you need to be strong enough to cope with it. Your body is being pumped with all kinds of foreign bodies. Speaking from experience I had nearly 2 &1/2 stone to lose before I could start treatment, and my FSH and AMH had improved because of this. But what more motivation is there than the prize at the end 🥰

You could get some support from your GP they can tailor you an eating plan. The only advice I could give is if you want this, you have to grab it by the balls and go for it!! Good luck 🍀

[Charrme]

Don't give up Hun, I know how you feel but it gets better. Sending you hugs.