Best Friends and Pregnancies

[PurpleLove19]

I’ve seen a few posts about friends getting pregnant without even trying. So I thought I’d write a post to just say “It’s okay to be sad for yourself.”

If friends love you, care for you and really feel your pain then they won’t hold it against you. They will be sensitive around you and understand if you avoid them or don’t go to their baby showers.

One of my best friends is due anytime now, it was rocky at the beginning, more to do with her being awkward around me. As time as gone on and I’ve paid some sort of interest in her pregnancy, not too much but some, showed her that I’m getting stronger everyday and I can’t fault the way she’s been with me. Unless I’ve asked questions she’s not talked about it and she doesn’t post everyday on social media. This is her choice and to be honest after my journey I think I will be the same, I won’t be jumping on the bandwagon of posting pics of my bumps and scan pictures as I would it would be hypercritical of me.

I have made the decision to come off social media for a while. Just because I was becoming obsessed with looking at others’ lives and then feeling crap about my own. I was also then going on public feeds on insta and seeing celebrities journeys and it just wasn’t helping me.

I have had experience of my own family being insensitive about babies. Through their pregnancies and then since giving birth, the posts they put on have made me so upset to the point I’ve cut them off.

My friend on the other hand has been amazing and I will never forget how she’s treated me.

You can choose your friends but not your family.

So ladies who are seeing this happen to others around you. Be honest with them, let them listen and watch their actions. If their actions upset you then maybe have an honest conversation or just put some distance between you.

I’ve learned to not feel guilty anymore. That unless someone has been through what I am at the moment- anxiety, depression, stress and infertility then they cannot have an opinion on how I’m am supposed to be. X

[Lynnr54]

Well said!

[kitscat]

This has made me feel so much better xx

[PurpleLove19 in reply to kitscat]

Exactly why I had to write it 😘

[kitscat in reply to PurpleLove19]

I have also come off social media. And I have found that when I did distance myself from 2 of my closest friends, then touched base again, they were non judgemental and carried on as normal. You are right, this has shown me they are good friends!xxx

[Itsalongjourney26]

I too have had an amazing friend who was due on Sunday. She has been so sensitive and I'll never forget it. Thinking of you Dace19 and all you're going through ❤️❤️